September 13, 2008 9:50 PM BST
Debs. This is not directed at you, merely my thoughts on virtual reality. Please do not take it personally, even if it seems that way.
VR. How real is it?
If you're married there, do you spend your time juggling a poorly paid part time job with looking after a home, kids, a husband, no time to yourself? When the cooking and cleaning and washing and ironing is done, do you fall asleep exhausted over the bills trying to make ends meet? The last time you bought shoes for yourself was Longer ago than you care to remember - about he time you last had the energy to enjoy him having sex?
Or maybe you're single, fending off every lech who fancies his chances, explaining to guys that you are up here, not down there, no, you may not touch them, and get your hands off my ass while we're on the subject!
Are you treated as having the IQ of a goldfish? Are you passed over for promotion because the opposition plays golf? Do you earn less than the guy at the next desk? Are you turned down for jobs because you are of childbearing age, or taken time out to look after your kids and are now considered unemployable?
All are theorectically not allowed, but life is not fair.
Yea, I admit those are the low points of the downside, and it may appear exaggerated when all put in one lump, but you only have to ask around and you will find that what I said is the norm, not the exception.
You can be a successful woman, take home a reasonable salary, have a partner who actually shares your life, bring up your (I say your, as it is you who bears and invariably raises) family. But there are not a lot of you out there!
Virtual realities are only a plays, everyone is acting, few are themselves, fewer still act and react as they would as themselves. They often they portray an ideal world, out of touch with what really happens.
I know one person who thought it gave her a grounding on what it would be like when she transitioned, and it was like a slap in the face when she found out life isn't like that at all.
Suddenly she works in a supermarket, not in IT, she takes home minimum wage, not high in five figures, and the bed of roses has thorns in it.
No, I have no grudge, and don't want to deny anyone their pleasure. I am merely saying, in my opinion, that virtual reality should be treated for what it is, a game. And if you are just a TV, going out dressed for a night out occasionally, fine, go for it.
But I believe it really does not give a true impression for anyone thinking of going further, perhaps transitioning.
SJ.
September 14, 2008 6:55 PM BST
Hi Debs, Welcome to TW hon, hope to see you in chat some time, you will find us a friendly bunch of girls.
see you soon
Hugs
Sammi