February 9, 2009 7:47 PM GMT
Pam, I can climax without difficulty!! I think it may depend largely on your surgeon and his technique. I went to Dr Suporn, his results are brilliant – sensation, depth and appearance. Sex is amazing!
Choose your surgeon carefully.
Erica, I hope this doesn’t sound at all patronising:
It’s difficult to offer advice on growing breasts to someone who does not live fulltime as a woman, because it’s probably best for those people that their breasts don’t grow TOO much. So you could carry on chewing your gum, but I’m afraid I see it as pure quackery. Apparently, “Zoft Breast Enhancement Gum consists of Fenugreek Seed Extract, Saw Palmetto Berry, Fennel Seed, L-Tyrosine, Mexican Wild Yam Root, Pacific Kelp, Damiana Leaf, Dong Quai Root, Motherwort Herb, Black Cohosh Root Extract, Oat Grass, Blessed Thistle Herb, and Hops Flower.”
I wonder who is monitoring your progress and blood tests after putting all that stuff into your system, there are a lot of toxins there, and they are not tested or researched in the same way as pharmaceutical hormones are. Recent research in the UK has shown some of the above ingredients to be potentially dangerous.
There is no risk by the way of thrombosis when using the estradiol patches you mention. The only real risk of this applies to synthetic hormones (ethinylestradiol or Premarin) taken orally.
Avoid Spiro, you don’t need it, and it does have associated risks (mainly from careless intake of potassium-rich foods).
Bio-identical estradiol, is extremely safe, certainly less toxic than all those ingredients in the gum, tried tested, approved by the FDA, and proven to work. It is the hormone that is responsible for natural female breast-growth, there is NO alternative that is safer or more effective, and it is also considerably cheaper than quack “alternatives”.
But could you handle living as a man with real breasts?
A lot of people told me I would make an unattractive woman, I WAS in fact quite unattractive as a guy. I do not consider myself now to be attractive, but I am starting to pass more and more easily after surgery and hormones, and most importantly – I feel GREAT and am very happy. I also assumed people would reject me. They didn’t. My dad has a problem with it all, it is quite simply though – his problem.
You have to decide about your current relationship and what is most important to you. I know I did the right thing.
I’m afraid I’m a mere youngster by the way, I only started transition aged 42, now nearly 46. I do have friends though who started in their 50’s, they’re doing fine and are equally happy and look great.
xx
February 25, 2009 1:10 PM GMT
why so concerned about climaxing? hasn't your hormone regime stopped it? lots of women don't climax and guys don't seemed too bothered if they can't make their women climax...
is a desire for a big mindblowing climax a male thing or not?
we hear teenage girls fantasizing about going out on friday night for great sex but does their night end with a bang or disappointment..?
On the whole sex/climax thing I have to say I've been surprised to read of the pre-surgery ritual of wringing the turkeys neck by one last masturbation...I had to ask how did the guy manage that unless he'd transitioned without hormones...or is the supposed long lay off from hormones on the weeks running up to surgery allowing the male bits to work again?
Then I see video of sex changea nd the person has really big/fullsize penis and testicles...have they really been on hormones for long? Have they been 'using it' right up to the last minute? Will they really be happy its gone or will they be the ones to regret losing it?
Nicest thing for me about being on hormones was that it stopped it working and both penis and testicles shrunk and looked very insignificant and 'not very male' after a few months.
(yes I know that this shrinkage may make problems at surgery stage but that is a matter for the surgeon to worry about not me)
February 25, 2009 2:24 PM GMT
Hormones do not necessarily stop the ability to climax altogether.
Wanting some form of sexual satisfaction pre-op is not a “male thing”, and there is nothing wrong with it, it is a human thing.
“Is a desire for a big mind-blowing climax a male thing or not?”
No. At least not JUST a male thing; it’s a female thing too.
Sure, men and women may approach sex differently, or indeed they may not, but implications that sexual satisfaction is purely a male thing are totally ridiculous, and offensive to us healthy red-blooded women who enjoy sex, and would prefer, if it all possible, to be FULLY satiated!
I find suggestions that enjoying sexual release means that one is motivated by male desires and therefore transsexuality is questionable, totally disgraceful.
And just because you may have a big penis when you have SRS doesn’t mean you’re going to regret losing it.
You don’t have to be celibate, under-endowed or have a chip on your shoulder about sex to be TS. Nor to be a woman.
So some guys aren’t bothered if their partner climaxes? I don’t know many women these days who would stay with such a partner for very long. Fortunately the few partners I’ve had post-op HAVE been considerate of this, not that they needed to worry about it...
Sex is great, I love it. My only problem is I don’t get enough of it.
Dear Deidre, am I a man…?
xx
February 25, 2009 10:09 PM GMT
but why need or take viagra?
August 24, 2013 3:44 PM BST
Looks like its been a long time that anyone has posted here. Anyone still out there ?
September 15, 2013 11:45 PM BST
Hi all, i am not at yet 4 plus years left. and it would be nice for the topic and talking of being not a spring chicken ow sorry . mind is gone alot lately. i am still messing with a regament that will work for me and i talk about what i try and yes or no about if i will continue. But how about some of the other things inwolved here. my feeling are in one place, with my meds i feel in a beter place. more calm and steady, not all mad and depressed. i do still smoke cigerattes and drink coffee, and i am trying to quit as well. i also wanted to tell others about what was going on with me my ups and moods, my rants and bad days. i know i am more of a talker about my life and ways. but i am more of an all in or out person and i have been out there along time. i have worn woman skinny jeans often and things kind of moved back on there own ( i knew nothing about tuking under) and always looked for blouses or pretty or color filled clothes. sorry any one that reads this i am so rambling on with same old words. i am just an older kid that wants to be in the skin and clothes i have always enjoyed and liked to wear all of the time day or night to shopping or some day again to work.
September 24, 2013 9:30 PM BST
I can only attest to what I have done and I am 48 now. I started at 47 about 18 months ago. My Doctor started me out on Oral Estradiol Sublingually (under my tongue), Spirolactione 2x per day (1 in Am and 1PM) and Progesterone at sleep time.
He later added on a combination Estradiol and Progesterone Cream I use on my face in the morning as well as everything else.
My testosterone was at 475 last year and is 27 now. My Estrogen level is at 95 and climbing to he wants 125, and was <20 last year. My breast are a full "B" cup now and still growing. I do know that the younger ones seem to progress faster from what I read, but I will gladly take the results I have right now, since I really believe the turtle will win my race. I see my doctor quarterly and I am blood tested every 6 months throughly, and so far I am perfect in every category including my liver panels.
I have dropped over 103 lbs last year alone and in the process of losing an additional 30 for this year (I hope). Hormones make this a real challenge for me.
I hope this helps
September 22, 2015 1:53 PM BST
I am 66. I was on a full regime of hormones as prescribed by my doctor. After 3 months, I developed a DVT. Now all of my doctors say I can never legally go back on hormone therapy. So what is a gurl supposed to do. In fact, I developed another DVT almost 2 yrs later that had nothing to do with me being on hormones!!! Are there others like me out there? Do we have options?
November 8, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
How about for us girls over 60 Knew along time ago and even ventured a little ways but new had I done a complete transformation I would probably not be here today(aids).
So for the last two years have been on hormones and blockers wanting FFS but still waiting if not waiting forever.Iam married but the wife and family knows and tolerates it.
Iam lucky in the sense that I need to have my blood check every week for blood clots So not too worried yet about being on hormones.
Oh Did i forget to metion that I am 6'4" not fat but not slim ,so this is number one reason for not going any father.
Had I know abou FFS a few years earlier things might have been dfferent .
I think at some point will move to a tolerant safe area and then venture out in public only time will tell.
December 22, 2015 11:27 AM GMT
Hi girls it is great to read your experiences, as for me i am 56 yo and married to a beautiful woman. I started HRT approx 9 months ago, fortunately or not i had lost most of my Testosterone through trauma, my level is 0.7 at best which is good for transitioning, my breast are growing slowly as they do, dont we all wish to wake up and with something else starring us in the face instead of those old days long gone.
Can't wait for my time, it will take time,patience is what i keep telling myself patience, like most my wife is trying and tolerant the new me but they say love conquors and it is true.
My question is : my docotor hasnt put me on Progesterone as they believe it doesnt do anything, i buy it from Inhouse as it makes me feel much better and more as a woman, any thoughts from you girls on it or not. Would like to know what is best.
Have to love the journey.... why didnt we do this years ago?
Love and kisses Naomi
August 7, 2016 3:49 PM BST
Joanne Lee said:
Hi Lauralea
It doesn't seem as if you are going to get many replies. I am a bit older than you but still on HRT and enjoying life and transitioning.
Despite all the warnngs etc I am a DIY person, but have an annual check up.
Hi I am a very late starter (in my 70th year), and have been HRT for about 8 months. I have absolutely no regrets so far. I have known since about aged 8 years that I wasn't in the right place! In recent years I developed quite severe gynecomastia, and with no other solution than mastectomy on offer, I decided I will not and would never be separated from my 'female secondary characteristics'! It was the switch, that I wish I had turned on years ago. Since HRT, my Body, Mind and Brain have been flushed with female hormones which they were craving ( without offended the faithful, it was like being born again!). In fact it is often called 'a second puberty', this is weird , but true (even at my age!). Look due to Hypertension I have been on a form of Spiro (Amolodapine for years), so I guess my totestogren receptors were being blocked, so female hormone infusion had a receptive sysem.
I have quite a good bust development( but I always did). The most notable effects even afer a short period are, my body odour, urine no longer smell 'like a man'. I am far more relaxed, sleep better, sweat less and am probably more emotional. Look I didn't expect a renewed sex life, although my labido is reduced, when aroused, I have an incredible, even estatic orgasm which is sensed all over the body. The ejaculate is a clear fluid, I guess more like a female lubricante. I have regular blood and other checks, and so far PSA, Blood Glucose levels are lower and Blood Preesure normal. What to say, other than I am happy. The down side; you must be committed to transition, since erectile disfunction is pretty inevitable and shrunken testes, no more erections though, (what a blessing to to be removed from an involuntary erection!). OK I guess at my age, but may have a downside for younger gals who have not let go
Hope this helps Joanne and Lauralea.
This post was edited by Sally Scott at August 7, 2016 5:09 PM BST
August 8, 2016 1:00 PM BST
yes it all so true the new you, the 2nd pubity such a wonderful experience. My wife is now finding things difficult to deal with the changes and wants a 'break' to see how she feels without me and the emotions as well as the physical changes which have been difficult to hold in, but i am learning.
Since my last post i had stopped the hormones for a few months as waiting to go through the proper channels and get bloods done etc glad i did as i was too keen and my levels way too high. So back on now for about 8 months boobs developing nicely and the fat distribution helping those beautiful hips. My issues now is that i might lose my wife , hoping that she will come back.
The facial hair is a pain as i live in Rural NSW Australia the electrolysist here refused to do my face said too expensive for me, too painful and will take a long time, who cares about that all i want is to rid myself of the gastly stuff.Went to one about 60 km away and now small scar tissue from the thermolysis now looking for where else to go. Soon i hope to find someone who can do it and i can be rid of all of it once and for all and my chest hair too.
The erections for me died when i was crushed, the labido has increased 10 fold but cant do anything about it, nothing but blood comes out for me so investigating cause oh well whats another issue i can face in my journey, i am still going forward. I had no real choice with the hormones as i had disasterous results with T and still lucky to be alive so E was the only way, fate took me by the hand.
It feels so good to finally be me inside even if i cant on the outside just yet.
For you all keep happy be yourself enjoy the new you enjoy the 2nd coming and love the life you have been given and the peolpe in it.
Naomi XXX