Disenfriended TS

    • 1017 posts
    April 7, 2012 2:18 AM BST
    On FaceBook I just disenfriended an Canadian "activist" TS. She posted that the TG community were rejecting TS's. I replied that that was weird, since while some TS's have trashed TV/CD/pre and none-op TG's, I'd NEVER (and I'm 61) seen TG's attack the TS community. She didn't reply to me but posted that she never was a TG, she was born TS just needing female parts. Don't know what's going on in Canada, but this stickes me as bigotry.
    • 434 posts
    April 7, 2012 4:53 AM BST
    Melody, There are many different types of people out there.
    Some of them are just "angry people" who need to trash someone every once in a while.
    I don't blame you for "disenfriending" this person... I probably would have done the same - but please don't "paint all Canadians with the same brush". Hugs
    Doanna
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    April 7, 2012 12:03 PM BST
    Whats that about?
    I like to like and hate to hate.
    cb
    • 1017 posts
    April 7, 2012 3:47 PM BST
    Sorry, Doanna, I didn't mean to trash Canadians. Could have worded my post better.
    Best, Mellie
  • April 9, 2012 12:23 PM BST

    i have had some TG girls isolate me down my local , iam surer its because iam a Trans female i feel they are uncomfortable around me

    Samantha

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    • 2358 posts
    April 16, 2012 9:09 PM BST
    One has to be a TG, Transgendered. Gender dysphoric, to become a transexual, the first is someone who feels they are in the wrong gender to their physical makeup, a transexual is someone who embarks on making the physical change to align their appearance to match their thinking,. Unfortunately transexual is used a lot in the porn industry but should not be confused and equated with shemale or ladyboy.
    • 114 posts
    April 22, 2012 4:03 PM BST
    It strikes me sad that, often, the most brutal and unfriendly people toward a particular community (whatever that community may be) is often a member of said community. Often, we defeat our own selves. :-(

    BTW, very salient point, Cristine.
    • 65 posts
    April 22, 2012 8:29 PM BST
    All it takes is understanding. thats all i have to say. x
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    April 22, 2012 11:39 PM BST

    Seems to me like this Canadian " TS" is one screwed up Girl. It smacks of SNOBBERY when she's bad-mouthing the TG community in general.

     

    I have a few Canadian TS friends and they are nothing like this girl cos they are real nice people. Lets not let one Bad Canuck bugger things up for the good ones.

     

     

    A-M xx

    • 1017 posts
    April 22, 2012 11:47 PM BST
    I've been watching the posts in the forum where I first encountered the Canadian "non-TG" TS. It seems that this is more widespread than I thought. There really seems to be a movement of post-op TS girls to "remove themselves for the TG umbrella" because TG's are bringing them down and making their lives look unacceptable to the straight community.
    I have heard this attitude here, especially by a Trib columnist and a former Forum Mod who seems to have left the site.
    • 1652 posts
    April 23, 2012 2:36 AM BST
    TS's insisting they are not trans is a bit silly, and I think some sort of insecurity; insistence that they are a woman and were never a man...
    The fact is all TS's were born with a male body, therefore that makes them "trans". The clue's in the prefix!
    Not all TS's shun the trans community though, or bad-mouth any other manifestation of trans people. You shouldn't see this as a "movement", just behaviour of certain individuals - human nature. Whatever, don't take it personally; they put others down to bury deeper their own feelings of inadequacy.
    I'm ok, you're ok.
    xx
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    April 23, 2012 5:12 AM BST
    Since my operation, I sometimes refer to myself, humourously, as a "non-ovarian woman". But rest assured, I "know from whence I came".
    We all know of the trauma that most of us have gone through in our journey toward the "feminine" in ourselves ...and personally, I can understand why some of us may want to cast off all remnants, and reminders, of our previous "masculine coil" but I also know that to be in denial of what we were (or still are) can be equally as damaging.
    Most of us were in denial of (or denied) our gender when we were younger...and look at the misery that brought us!!

    "To thine own self..be true!!"
  • April 23, 2012 8:51 AM BST
    last time I went to LGBT conference I got sneered at by a guy with a big black wig stuck on his head...
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    April 23, 2012 10:14 AM BST

    Are transsexuals too extreme for LGBT? That's like saying Queer is too OTT for mainstream when we have been there all the time. I might ask why are crossdressers lumped together with transsexuals but that would be to repeat the error. Only acceptance and inclusion will remove fear and ignorance. If I had a concern, it would be lumping genuine 'paraphiliacs' with frauds, but that's for the individual's conscience. To me, if I don't have integrity, then, I have nothing. Regards cb


    This post was edited by Former Member at April 23, 2012 12:32 PM BST