Help is at Hand

I went in the chatroom yesterday evening to find a young girl receiving some very supportive comments from all the other girls. 18 years young to be precise, and she'd told her parents that she was ts. I offered my support as well; the feeling of really wanting to help people like that is getting ever stronger. It made me think how my life could have been different had I done the same, but I found myself commenting that it's no use having regrets. In fact if you can learn to steer clear of negative thoughts it can be positively beneficial. Kind of sounds obvious doesn't it. Anyhow I felt a strong desire to encourage this girl, who has already taken the biggest step by telling her parents. They presumably will take some time to come to terms with it, and as we all know, however you go about it this is never an easy life. When I was 18 I knew I wanted to be a woman, but felt unable to tell anyone, as I still do, at least as far as family and friends are concerned. I think I told myself it was unrealistic, I could never do that, it was just a dream. As I've said, there was no internet then; there was once a documentary about a ts on telly (George and Julia), apart from that it was almost unheard of, at least in my town. I felt alone, and the problem in my head was best kept to myself. Incidentally George/Julia's doctor must have put off a lot of people from going through "the system" for help; he was completely non-supportive, appeared to have no real understanding of the condition, and seemed intent on trying to make his patient think that this was all a bad idea. A horrible man.

The contrast between the so-called help this doctor was supposed to be giving, and the emotional support one can find on this site is, um, a very big contrast indeed. Julia came away from every session with her doctor feeling down, like she was having to fight for what she knew was right. Sure we have to fight for what we want, but we shouldn't have to go 12 rounds with our doctor. Sure also, the system has to know that we are doing the right thing, and hopefully doctors are better educated now and that particular one has been shot. But girls like us are not going to be talked out of it. I know what's right for me, I just never had any help in how to go about it. Over the years I've been settling in to life in Lucyland, but going nowhere in particular. I came here and now I'm going places, and really thinking positively about what I can do to improve myself and my life. So follow your hearts girls and hit the road that leads to your true self. As soon as you get on it you will know you're heading in the right direction, take one step forward and you'll leave self-doubt behind. And if you need help, it's free, it's unconditional, and it's here.