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  • 16 Jun 2017
    In a weeks time I have my post op appointment ,it's been 2 months since my GRS.Overall it's been an ordeal as last month my elderly parents health deteriorated rapidly with my mother going into a nursing home,.I was thinking about them and their difficulties.At the same time during these 2 months, I experienced feelings of isolation,which are not uncommon during GRS recovery.These seem to be down to the simple fact that you are going through an experience and adjustment that other people cannot relate to .Additionally all the post op after care ,dilating etc, ...is an incredibly time consuming routine and at times quite draining.so you appear to be less than sociable and pre occupied.In my case for various reasons I have a lot of domestic chores to do,so It just seemed a battle to fit everything into the day.Anyway I am just taking a little timeout,before a stint in the garden and trying to complete a metalwork sculpture commission. I am looking forward to the post appointment,especially the train journey,as I will get a chance to rest ,probably falling asleep.
    386 Posted by Donna V
  • By Donna V
    In a weeks time I have my post op appointment ,it's been 2 months since my GRS.Overall it's been an ordeal as last month my elderly parents health deteriorated rapidly with my mother going into a nursing home,.I was thinking about them and their difficulties.At the same time during these 2 months, I experienced feelings of isolation,which are not uncommon during GRS recovery.These seem to be down to the simple fact that you are going through an experience and adjustment that other people cannot relate to .Additionally all the post op after care ,dilating etc, ...is an incredibly time consuming routine and at times quite draining.so you appear to be less than sociable and pre occupied.In my case for various reasons I have a lot of domestic chores to do,so It just seemed a battle to fit everything into the day.Anyway I am just taking a little timeout,before a stint in the garden and trying to complete a metalwork sculpture commission. I am looking forward to the post appointment,especially the train journey,as I will get a chance to rest ,probably falling asleep.
    Jun 16, 2017 386
  • 14 Jun 2017
    just wondering if anybody have heard of any voice impaired trans genders. doc told me if i was lucky i migght have some voice left after my cancer surgery of the thyroid, partual voice box and most of my neck and lymphnoids of  my throat be side all of this i lost most of the muscle that contect the right shouilder with my neck muscles. this all added up to a stage 3 cancer . as of right now why voice is hardly audiable to others in normal situations amplication is now being used at home and famlies , but the thing is at work wondering if i should learn ASL  caus e i work in a distirubtion center where  it is loud and noisey even with the amp i know that no one could hear me  if i was in case to get in trouble there at work so far bw side the operation in have gone 8 weeks of exterior radiation bombardment therapy. i hope i dont have to do chemo(fingures crossed) . any wat that is my blog for this season i hope    
    334 Posted by michelle/mitchell self
  • just wondering if anybody have heard of any voice impaired trans genders. doc told me if i was lucky i migght have some voice left after my cancer surgery of the thyroid, partual voice box and most of my neck and lymphnoids of  my throat be side all of this i lost most of the muscle that contect the right shouilder with my neck muscles. this all added up to a stage 3 cancer . as of right now why voice is hardly audiable to others in normal situations amplication is now being used at home and famlies , but the thing is at work wondering if i should learn ASL  caus e i work in a distirubtion center where  it is loud and noisey even with the amp i know that no one could hear me  if i was in case to get in trouble there at work so far bw side the operation in have gone 8 weeks of exterior radiation bombardment therapy. i hope i dont have to do chemo(fingures crossed) . any wat that is my blog for this season i hope    
    Jun 14, 2017 334
  • 01 Jun 2017
    Thought for today. Dressing; Elastoplast for the Soul. A little shopping, new sandals and a top. Genes happy. Rachel x
    351 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • Thought for today. Dressing; Elastoplast for the Soul. A little shopping, new sandals and a top. Genes happy. Rachel x
    Jun 01, 2017 351
  • 13 May 2017
    Hi. I am visiting my parents who are now distant from home and feel further away than ever as they age, but we are still close. As an opportunist and whilst they are out I do something that I haven't done for possibly thirty years, I look into my mother's wardobe.. Don't be alarmed, no Vera Batty moments (foreign users please excuse my regional references) because I was only on the hunt for one garment, that Sixties black dress that I first wore in the late seventies. I can remember the silk lining and its embroidered texture, it was quite a firm material, shaped and I recall the difficulties of doing up the rear zip and the effervescent tingling sensations running cursing through me as I was re-shaped, awoken and stimulated by the messages that it sent me. It was of course not there when I looked, but I suspect that it may still be stored away, in the attic in a musty box of memories. I think it was a special dress for my Mum, and I suspect that if she were aware that it were my first dress, then it would be even more important too. I also drove to my old school today. It was a little tired and of course smaller than I remembered - in the manner that everything shrinks as you accumulate a lifetime of experience. Moments spent there have flickered through my head throughout the day. I was a popular and having 'finished' with a girlfriend in lower sixth momentarily became a prospective 'catch' just when sexual opportunities were first upon the horizon. Ignorant and perhaps slightly bemused by the messages my brain was sending my hormones - and in no way as well informed as a contemporary web educated teenager is, I recall being asked by a prospective suitor, 'Are you Gay?'. Sensitive, artistic male souls were in short supply in sports mad South Wales at this time so my detachment from the marauding scrum must have marked me out as being different. 'No, I'm not!' I responded, before failing to confirm my sentence with the statement, 'But I want to be a girl'. Always there, never spoken.. Kids today are so fortunate to have the information that the twenty-first century makes available, because that means that their parents are also more informed too. Ultimately she caught me of course, my Mum; lipstick and make-up in the bathroom. If I were to tell her all now I suspect that she'd be the one caught out, but if that black dress were in the attic I'm also certain that she'd let me have it. Rachel x
    361 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • Hi. I am visiting my parents who are now distant from home and feel further away than ever as they age, but we are still close. As an opportunist and whilst they are out I do something that I haven't done for possibly thirty years, I look into my mother's wardobe.. Don't be alarmed, no Vera Batty moments (foreign users please excuse my regional references) because I was only on the hunt for one garment, that Sixties black dress that I first wore in the late seventies. I can remember the silk lining and its embroidered texture, it was quite a firm material, shaped and I recall the difficulties of doing up the rear zip and the effervescent tingling sensations running cursing through me as I was re-shaped, awoken and stimulated by the messages that it sent me. It was of course not there when I looked, but I suspect that it may still be stored away, in the attic in a musty box of memories. I think it was a special dress for my Mum, and I suspect that if she were aware that it were my first dress, then it would be even more important too. I also drove to my old school today. It was a little tired and of course smaller than I remembered - in the manner that everything shrinks as you accumulate a lifetime of experience. Moments spent there have flickered through my head throughout the day. I was a popular and having 'finished' with a girlfriend in lower sixth momentarily became a prospective 'catch' just when sexual opportunities were first upon the horizon. Ignorant and perhaps slightly bemused by the messages my brain was sending my hormones - and in no way as well informed as a contemporary web educated teenager is, I recall being asked by a prospective suitor, 'Are you Gay?'. Sensitive, artistic male souls were in short supply in sports mad South Wales at this time so my detachment from the marauding scrum must have marked me out as being different. 'No, I'm not!' I responded, before failing to confirm my sentence with the statement, 'But I want to be a girl'. Always there, never spoken.. Kids today are so fortunate to have the information that the twenty-first century makes available, because that means that their parents are also more informed too. Ultimately she caught me of course, my Mum; lipstick and make-up in the bathroom. If I were to tell her all now I suspect that she'd be the one caught out, but if that black dress were in the attic I'm also certain that she'd let me have it. Rachel x
    May 13, 2017 361
  • 11 May 2017
    Hi I haven't blogged for a while, so my apologies for that. I've voyeuristically visited her and take delight a seeing names of friends that I recognise and I look with absolute wonder as I see people journey from timidity and concern to open, confident realisation of their true self. That's lovely to behold. Remarkably my membership tells me that I am mid-way through my tenth year upon this site. I think I changed my description from Transvestite to Transexual after perhaps a year, but it was a much delayed written definition. So what on earth have I been playing at since, why I have failed to physical reconcile with my mind and spirit? Because I am a coward, oh, and because I am an 'honourable man'. There is no doubt that the veil of masculinity has slipped away, within my mind at least. My brain has disengaged with any attempt to be one of the boys and so I'm a peripheral male with an eye for all that is lady's. My son is upstairs asleep, my wife away and here I sit dressed, made-up and oh so content and at ease. Should the child upstairs awake then this will be a dream filled night for us both, one of us living the nightmare of exposure. I would commence upon Hormones tomorrow, now. My hair, recently cut doesn't currently require a wig to proclaim that gender of the head from which it sprouts. My breasts are false but the heart beneath connects to the mounds emphatically and pulls them close. I am thinking clearly, warmly, openly, positively and communicating with passion and freedom. I'm not thinking too much about what to type next, I'm watching the typos and this is where the stuttering takes hold. I'd like to be in a room, in a group now with Crissie, Katie, Lucy and friends knocking back a glass of wine perhaps and but in full release, with laughter hugs and undoubtably tears too. Next week I have enquired about attending a Transgender Support Group and should I attend this would be the first occasion where Rachel would introduce herself to a group, as a person rather than a online commodity. But will I go? 50:50 at the moment because I'm a coward upon the verge of a breakdown and an honorary man who has lost his masulinity and without which may be nobody. But that is wrong of course, because I'm a woman called Rachel. It's just that nobody knows and the isolation is slowly killing me. Warm Hugs Rachel x  
    349 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • Hi I haven't blogged for a while, so my apologies for that. I've voyeuristically visited her and take delight a seeing names of friends that I recognise and I look with absolute wonder as I see people journey from timidity and concern to open, confident realisation of their true self. That's lovely to behold. Remarkably my membership tells me that I am mid-way through my tenth year upon this site. I think I changed my description from Transvestite to Transexual after perhaps a year, but it was a much delayed written definition. So what on earth have I been playing at since, why I have failed to physical reconcile with my mind and spirit? Because I am a coward, oh, and because I am an 'honourable man'. There is no doubt that the veil of masculinity has slipped away, within my mind at least. My brain has disengaged with any attempt to be one of the boys and so I'm a peripheral male with an eye for all that is lady's. My son is upstairs asleep, my wife away and here I sit dressed, made-up and oh so content and at ease. Should the child upstairs awake then this will be a dream filled night for us both, one of us living the nightmare of exposure. I would commence upon Hormones tomorrow, now. My hair, recently cut doesn't currently require a wig to proclaim that gender of the head from which it sprouts. My breasts are false but the heart beneath connects to the mounds emphatically and pulls them close. I am thinking clearly, warmly, openly, positively and communicating with passion and freedom. I'm not thinking too much about what to type next, I'm watching the typos and this is where the stuttering takes hold. I'd like to be in a room, in a group now with Crissie, Katie, Lucy and friends knocking back a glass of wine perhaps and but in full release, with laughter hugs and undoubtably tears too. Next week I have enquired about attending a Transgender Support Group and should I attend this would be the first occasion where Rachel would introduce herself to a group, as a person rather than a online commodity. But will I go? 50:50 at the moment because I'm a coward upon the verge of a breakdown and an honorary man who has lost his masulinity and without which may be nobody. But that is wrong of course, because I'm a woman called Rachel. It's just that nobody knows and the isolation is slowly killing me. Warm Hugs Rachel x  
    May 11, 2017 349
  • 07 May 2017
    Hey ladies! So y'all know I work at a well known (mostly) women's clothing store. Yesterday about four of us "girls" are in the sorting room. "Annie" tells how "Lynn" told her she (Lynn) overheard one of the security guards, Tom, told a new security guard, Jim, how Annie is such a flirt and will "be all over you!" Annie was appalled! She said she is just being nice; Annie is very young, bubbly, fun young woman, about 24-25. We were all kind of laughing at this, along with Annie who was thinking the new guard is going to ask her out! But I DID feel kind of left out, I didn't have that experience growing up dealing with boys and unwanted attention. This is the difficult parts of transition, where you can't really relate to others experiences, feelings. You can't stand there nodding knowingly of those feelings. Awkward. Robin
    624 Posted by robin w
  • By robin w
    Hey ladies! So y'all know I work at a well known (mostly) women's clothing store. Yesterday about four of us "girls" are in the sorting room. "Annie" tells how "Lynn" told her she (Lynn) overheard one of the security guards, Tom, told a new security guard, Jim, how Annie is such a flirt and will "be all over you!" Annie was appalled! She said she is just being nice; Annie is very young, bubbly, fun young woman, about 24-25. We were all kind of laughing at this, along with Annie who was thinking the new guard is going to ask her out! But I DID feel kind of left out, I didn't have that experience growing up dealing with boys and unwanted attention. This is the difficult parts of transition, where you can't really relate to others experiences, feelings. You can't stand there nodding knowingly of those feelings. Awkward. Robin
    May 07, 2017 624
  • 12 Apr 2017
    So this time next week I will be travelling to London to have GRS and it is going to take a week until I come back home.I have just been doing mundane things including a lot of cycling, gardening,tidying up,stocking up.It seems the trivial and important can jump the queue randomly in my mind.Trivial, -How will I manage to get a good Espresso Mocha whilst in recovery.(Usually my intake is 3 cups a day).Important What will happen to the relationship between my partner and me.?After all these years,27 or so change is inevitable,I just try and not let those questions that start-- "What if....(insert description of things going horribly wrong that I don't have any control of anyway)...what will you do then.?--get in the way.Overall I am happy and I try to make myself available to help my partner whenever possible.I just need to get on with things and manage my time.I guess Surgery will inevitably mean ,I will physically have to take some downtime,and so not do the large amount physical chores I currently do.My partner says she understands this and is concerned that I will just try to carry on.Lets see.
    449 Posted by Donna V
  • By Donna V
    So this time next week I will be travelling to London to have GRS and it is going to take a week until I come back home.I have just been doing mundane things including a lot of cycling, gardening,tidying up,stocking up.It seems the trivial and important can jump the queue randomly in my mind.Trivial, -How will I manage to get a good Espresso Mocha whilst in recovery.(Usually my intake is 3 cups a day).Important What will happen to the relationship between my partner and me.?After all these years,27 or so change is inevitable,I just try and not let those questions that start-- "What if....(insert description of things going horribly wrong that I don't have any control of anyway)...what will you do then.?--get in the way.Overall I am happy and I try to make myself available to help my partner whenever possible.I just need to get on with things and manage my time.I guess Surgery will inevitably mean ,I will physically have to take some downtime,and so not do the large amount physical chores I currently do.My partner says she understands this and is concerned that I will just try to carry on.Lets see.
    Apr 12, 2017 449
  • 09 Apr 2017
    While this blog maybe a little religious for some. Working in an LGBT committee we believe these issues are very important. https://robbenwendywainer.wordpress.com/2017/04/09/bridging-the-gap-between-transgender-self-and-god/?frame-nonce=ee3c49da4f
    374 Posted by Robben Wainer
  • While this blog maybe a little religious for some. Working in an LGBT committee we believe these issues are very important. https://robbenwendywainer.wordpress.com/2017/04/09/bridging-the-gap-between-transgender-self-and-god/?frame-nonce=ee3c49da4f
    Apr 09, 2017 374
  • 28 Mar 2017
    As citizens celebrate the inauguration of new government into power, most are unaware that a group of individuals or an individual can take and maintain control by the use of force. With Democracy power is in the hands of the people, it is exercised directly by the people or in large societies elected representatives. The purposes for which democratic government got established are the promotion and protection of their interests, rights, and welfare. Winston Churchill asserted “democracy is the worst form of government, except all those other forms that have been tried from time to time." Justice will prevail when the government address free and fair elections, Corruption and, Gender equality issues. Body Increased the inability of representatives to attain the desires and needs of their constituents has increased the distance between them and their people. Special interests are gaining more influence and representatives address either personal benefits or interests of particular groups categorized by religion, ethnicity and wealth background. The treatment of minority is, therefore, a defect of democracies. Qualified individuals should have the right to voter registration and candidate nomination procedures. A candidate, who lacks the right connections and money to contest, no matter if the candidate has the right qualities of a good leader, won’t have a shot at winning. According to democracy, the voting process and outcome of the election process must be respected. The standard practice when a public elected official provides a service to his people, for the beneficiary to respond with a gift. If the service is not for the purpose of the award, the timing of the transaction is delayed. A corrupt leader is one who abuses entrusted power by violating the public office and damaging the interests of the voters for personal gain or the benefit of a third party. Elected officials receive amounts of money to granting minor favors to people looking for preferential treatment or employment of relatives in government positions. They use their power to capture and accumulate resources in an illegal way through corrupt behaviors such as fraud, taking bribes and embezzlement affecting the lives of the people they represent. Corruption tribunals must be formed and given powers to investigate elected officials corruption behaviors. Democratic ideas of inclusiveness, transparency and accountability described in students' requests for help with university scholarship, cannot get achieved without laws. Equality of opportunity is the unfair redistribution of goods and values to people who have not proved that they deserve it. Women don’t receive equal opportunities; women are seen as an unjust measure, in fact, a discrimination against men. They don't have access to education and equal chance in the legislation, and they get termed as minors. Women face systematical patterns of sexual or reproductive violence, or to different forms of domestic enslavement. We must weave equality into the social, political and economic fabric of a society so that women can also reach their potential on an equal basis with men. Conclusion Modern democracy is majorly affected by elected officials who misuse power to their personal gain, favor to a particular group of religion or ethnic communities and gender discrimination creating groups of the minority. The result has been an increase in public awareness and an intense debate, political demonstrations and dissolution of the government. One view is that modern governments cannot meet the challenge of so many corrupt elected officials. Concerns about government official’s conduct must be addressed before citizens consider the act of violence. Gender tribunals for ensuring equality between women and men should be created and funded as well as trusted and transparent election tribunals.
    4003 Posted by Dan Cooper
  • As citizens celebrate the inauguration of new government into power, most are unaware that a group of individuals or an individual can take and maintain control by the use of force. With Democracy power is in the hands of the people, it is exercised directly by the people or in large societies elected representatives. The purposes for which democratic government got established are the promotion and protection of their interests, rights, and welfare. Winston Churchill asserted “democracy is the worst form of government, except all those other forms that have been tried from time to time." Justice will prevail when the government address free and fair elections, Corruption and, Gender equality issues. Body Increased the inability of representatives to attain the desires and needs of their constituents has increased the distance between them and their people. Special interests are gaining more influence and representatives address either personal benefits or interests of particular groups categorized by religion, ethnicity and wealth background. The treatment of minority is, therefore, a defect of democracies. Qualified individuals should have the right to voter registration and candidate nomination procedures. A candidate, who lacks the right connections and money to contest, no matter if the candidate has the right qualities of a good leader, won’t have a shot at winning. According to democracy, the voting process and outcome of the election process must be respected. The standard practice when a public elected official provides a service to his people, for the beneficiary to respond with a gift. If the service is not for the purpose of the award, the timing of the transaction is delayed. A corrupt leader is one who abuses entrusted power by violating the public office and damaging the interests of the voters for personal gain or the benefit of a third party. Elected officials receive amounts of money to granting minor favors to people looking for preferential treatment or employment of relatives in government positions. They use their power to capture and accumulate resources in an illegal way through corrupt behaviors such as fraud, taking bribes and embezzlement affecting the lives of the people they represent. Corruption tribunals must be formed and given powers to investigate elected officials corruption behaviors. Democratic ideas of inclusiveness, transparency and accountability described in students' requests for help with university scholarship, cannot get achieved without laws. Equality of opportunity is the unfair redistribution of goods and values to people who have not proved that they deserve it. Women don’t receive equal opportunities; women are seen as an unjust measure, in fact, a discrimination against men. They don't have access to education and equal chance in the legislation, and they get termed as minors. Women face systematical patterns of sexual or reproductive violence, or to different forms of domestic enslavement. We must weave equality into the social, political and economic fabric of a society so that women can also reach their potential on an equal basis with men. Conclusion Modern democracy is majorly affected by elected officials who misuse power to their personal gain, favor to a particular group of religion or ethnic communities and gender discrimination creating groups of the minority. The result has been an increase in public awareness and an intense debate, political demonstrations and dissolution of the government. One view is that modern governments cannot meet the challenge of so many corrupt elected officials. Concerns about government official’s conduct must be addressed before citizens consider the act of violence. Gender tribunals for ensuring equality between women and men should be created and funded as well as trusted and transparent election tribunals.
    Mar 28, 2017 4003
  • 17 Mar 2017
    Hello I run. I do so because it keeps me sane, keeps me healthy and gives me space. I have been running throughout the 'Winter' which has been mild and quite dry here in London and I am missing the acidic crisp January mornings that heightened my senses and kept my on my toes. As winter turns to Spring, my early morning companion is departing and so I am increasingly running at dawn or in daylight. No more tripping over scurrying foxes. My clothing is changing too. Full length running tights ow too warm and shorts return. Stealthy tight wearing confined to the drawer again. I look forward to Spring and re-birth and of growth warmth and sunlight, but for the covert and secretive Winter and darkness are our friends. Wrapping cosseting layers are able to conceal discrepancies and nuances, whereas Summer is brazen, revealing and open. The body here is fine - I run, remember?, but unplucked, unshaven and evidently masculine I cannot run quickly enough from reality. Here's to a great summer, of record breaking romantic evenings and balmy star lit caresses. But let some of us anticipate the gentle embrace of a concealing drape and the cosseting wrap of a softly hung profile. You can run, but evidently some must also hide. Rachel x
    302 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • Hello I run. I do so because it keeps me sane, keeps me healthy and gives me space. I have been running throughout the 'Winter' which has been mild and quite dry here in London and I am missing the acidic crisp January mornings that heightened my senses and kept my on my toes. As winter turns to Spring, my early morning companion is departing and so I am increasingly running at dawn or in daylight. No more tripping over scurrying foxes. My clothing is changing too. Full length running tights ow too warm and shorts return. Stealthy tight wearing confined to the drawer again. I look forward to Spring and re-birth and of growth warmth and sunlight, but for the covert and secretive Winter and darkness are our friends. Wrapping cosseting layers are able to conceal discrepancies and nuances, whereas Summer is brazen, revealing and open. The body here is fine - I run, remember?, but unplucked, unshaven and evidently masculine I cannot run quickly enough from reality. Here's to a great summer, of record breaking romantic evenings and balmy star lit caresses. But let some of us anticipate the gentle embrace of a concealing drape and the cosseting wrap of a softly hung profile. You can run, but evidently some must also hide. Rachel x
    Mar 17, 2017 302