So my DW caught me wearing clear nail polish and freaked! As she gives closed minded people a bad name, she insists that I am sick and need help. Well; what a golden opportunity for me. I now have an appointment with a LCSW that treats gender issues. Boy, did DW do me a favor. Thank goodness she's not judgmental!? ;-)
Thoughts?
From experience, once the psychologist working with me agreed with me, my ex claimed she was a quack and that she was actually trying to convince me I was transgendered. I am extra careful with my current wife. Though we haven't really seen each other naked in over five years, so I have been able to keep my legs shaved and wear clear polish on my toenails. Of course, now with summer coming... I really dread having to grow the hair back so I can wear shorts. I also don't want to remove the nail polish on my toes but she'll ask why I am not wearing my sandals when you couldn't get them off my feet all last year.
Actually, Olivia, you need to be careful. If you are driven to therapy because she thinks you are sick and need help, you may strat to beileve that and carry it over into your therapy.
If you choose to share with her what happens in therapy, especially if you are selective in what you say to her, it may make her even more hostile. Take it slowly, I suggest, and tell her that you might be prepared to discus the therapy with her after a few weeks. For now, make sure she understands that you need this space not only for you, but for her too.
Thanks for the advice, Amanda. Not to worry, I know I'm not sick. She's the one with the problem. I am more tortoise than hare, so slowly is the order of the day.
Liv