February 8, 2005 8:10 PM GMT
Hi Serena-
I pretty much agree with Sandra, honesty is the best policy up to a certain point. If you want to come out to your sister and if you feel she will be understanding about it, then by all means do so, you would be the best judge about it. But if it were me, I wouldn't mention that I had "borrowed" her clothes. If she asks (and she may already have her suspicions) then for sure tell her the truth but you don't need to volunteer it. As far as why you dress, you can tell her that you enjoy it, that you feel a need to express the feminine feelings that are a part of you, etc.
If she asks if you get sexual pleasure out of it, then be honest with her, but if that's only a part of why you dress, then be sure to mention that just getting your jollies is only a fraction of it. Being honest is very important, but I think if I were a real girl, finding out that my brother has been "getting off" in my clothes, if you were that is, would make me feel kind of weird. Also, you don't mention how old you are or how old she is, but her age would make a big difference in how much of this you want to disclose to her. If you're both adults, that's one thing, but if you're an adult and she isn't or vice-versa, then it's a different situation.
I have read posts by t-girls who have sisters who have been supportive and helpful, but you should realize that it may turn out completely opposite. Either way, it will make a big change in your relationship.
And one last thing I guess I should say, once you come out, you are out for good. You can't take it back and if she decides to share this with other family members, you need to be ready for whatever that may bring. Good luck to you, hope everything works out well, both for you and for her.
Hugs, Joni
March 2, 2005 3:50 PM GMT
Hi Serena-
Well, girl, I'm sorry things didn't go as well as you had hoped. Sometimes things are better kept to ourselves until the time is right. And sometimes, especially when it comes to family, it may be better just to let them continue to have their own feelings and expectations about who and what we are. At any rate, you have a lot of time to decide when or if to come out to your family or to anyone else for that matter.
Good luck and please stick around on TW, if nothing else, you can get advice and insight from other people about how things went for them.
Hugs, Joni