August 14, 2005 2:18 AM BST
It seems to me that we have two choices. 1.) Accept all of those whose lives are transgendered, are affected by those who are transgendered, or wish to learn about or help those who are transgendered...........or........ 2.) the second choice is to decide which groups we will reject based on their "unacceptable" behavior. For example, we might shun those TG folk who are also involved in BDSM interests. We could ban those CDs who are heterosexual for "playing" at being TG and shouldn't we get rid of those persons whose interests focus on a particular part of female clothing, such as stockings, shoes or panties for being mere "fetishists."? And lord help those TAs who are, horrors, actually attracted to us the way many males are attracted to ggs....sexually...and don't have the social skills to always approach us in the manner we would like. (There are so many that is its tempting to miss the fact that they do NOT find us repulsive or sick or bizarre, yet we, perhaps, do not grant them some acceptance in their own need for acceptance., knowing that ggs deal with the same issue with heterosexual males)
-----------------no matter who we "lock out" we are risking denying someone a chance to learn about us, themselves and grow.....and to learn more about ourselves. The larger our "group" the more chance we have to force social/political/legal changes. We need the support of everyone we can get to the polls to vote for change and who will speak out against discrimination against TG folk. I game, and the term "that's gay" gets thrown around a lot as a negative comment. An amazing number of players object to it's use as abusive. There is a lesson to be learned here.
I'm in favor of accepting anyone who does not disrupt the use of the site for others. We can deal with those people who do disrupt on a case-by-case basis. Renee Reyes site
has a wonderful area to educate admirers in how to "court" T girls. Perhaps we need to approach some of our problem chatters the same way. "HOW TO CHAT UP A T-GIRL SUCCESSFULLY."
http://www.reneereyes.com[...]ro.html
To sum it up, I don't want to push away someone because they are a professional Dom, a horny TA, a psychology student interested in becoming a gender therapist, a woman who is fearful of being labeled "lesbian" because she finds a MtF cross dresser attractive, or a brother who is trying to understand his TS brother who wants to be his sister. It's not what you are that matters.... it’s how you behave toward others here at TW.
August 14, 2005 3:58 AM BST
What Wendy said.
Hugs...Joni
August 15, 2005 7:27 AM BST
Those blogs on Admireres would be very interesting to read, Solange.
Maybe the S.O. Forum is not exactly the place for TA's to discuss themselves and us.....you know, among our wives, mothers and sisters (gg flavor). Maybe it's time we had a TA Forum for them to talk about what they need to in their own way. They can start threads by horndogs and others by gentlemen (and ladies) and they can have great disagreements and fights among themselves....the way we do....and find themselves through the same trials of fire and ice that we put each other through. Surely there will be some among them who will lead some of the others to find the real selves they have inside and do not yet know.