Well i'm getting myself into gear to tell my folks about me.
God i have never been so scared of anything in my life, i can fairly safely assume that Mum will be ok with it, it's more telling my Dad thats the problem.
He has accepted my gay cousin, but i'm his youngest son, and he has made comments b4 about him being glad that us boys are not gay. So well, i really don't know.
Maybe i should tell Mum 1st and see what she says??
Any suggestions from ladies that have been in a similar boat would be greatly appericated

Thanks
Simone

Simone,
My personal experience was very positive and my total fear of losing my family when I told them I planned to transition was very misplaced. In fact my mummy told me off for not telling her sooner of my plans. I thought they would be so against me as they had tried so hard to make me into a ruff tuff guy. Well now they are accepting I am the going to be the girl I should have been all along. I am not saying it is not hard for them but they are trying ……..you to may be suspired

Thank you Sara, Thank you Mere
i very well may be suprised at how they will react.
Strangely my parents did everything they could for me to be a girl.
They already had 2 boys and wanted a daughter so they did all the 'things to do' that they could to have a girl.
It sorta worked
I know that Dad wanted to have a daughter i'm just not sure that this was how he imagined it lol

Thanks for the comments
Hugs
Simone

Best of luck to you.

Sometimes, peoples' reactions will really surprise you: people who you'd think would be hostile about it can be surprisingly accepting, while someone you thought open-minded can become closed and anxious. It's unpredictable. All you can do is be honest, sensitive and firm (in the sense that you know what you're doing -- not firm in a sense of not caring what their feelings are on the matter... even though your decision is ultimately made).

Family members, especially parents, can go through a period of mourning, and sometimes it sets in right away. It does help to tell someone in the family that you know will be more receptive, first. In my case, I told my sister first, so that everyone else would have a good supportive ear to turn to. I also found it easier to tell each one-on-one to avoid being ganged up on, and told the gossip last.

Hope it goes well.

Thanks for the thoughts Mercedes,

Well telling the folks didn't go to plan this weekend gone.
I was going to tell my parents on sunday, however, Mum was put into hospital with heart problems.
Her Heart was racing about 140bpm instead of the normal 80bpm and the doctors don't know whats causing it
So yeah i didn't say anything this weekend. There is a specialist coming in to see her today.
At least her heart has normalised now so thats a good sign, now they just need to figure out what caused it.

I feel like crap. This has just drained me. I'll wait till Mum is feeling better b4 i tell her.

Hugs
Simone

Simone,

Have you come out to your family? If so, would you share with us how it went? I'm hoping that if you did, it went the way you wished.

Ann

Hi Anne,
no i havn't come out to the family.
i have moved back to mum and dads recently and i am just trying to find the right time.
Mum has to go in for open heart surgury so i'm not sure when i will do it now.

I will find the right time, just not sure when, and i will share my experiance once i have spoken with mum

Simone