January 7, 2008 7:44 PM GMT
I think you should tell her. If you want a relationship with her, you can't base that relationship on lies and hidden secrets. It is better for you both if you come clean sooner rather than later.
She may tell people but I wouldn't worry too much about that, my ex told everyone she knew, friends, family etc and every one of them just shrugged and said 'so what?'. People are not as bothered about it as you might think. I know each person's circumstances are different but it may not be as bad as you imagine, she might even think it is great and encourage you, have you thought about that?
Please though, if you want this relationship to go long term you must be honest with her.
Nikki
January 9, 2008 9:21 PM GMT
I have to go along with Nikki as well. If you see any future in this relationship, come clean.
Most of my friends did the 'Oh, ok, so what' act, and those that didn't were obviously not as good friends as I thought. Their loss.
And it could open up a whole new world...