January 29, 2008 7:59 PM GMT
I use a websters in my pc it fits in the top corner & I can use it while doing something else.
guy1 (gj)
n.
[ME gie < OFr guie, a guide < guier < guider: see GUIDE] a rope, chain, rod, or wire attached to something to steady or guide it
vt.
to guide or steady with a guy
guy2 (gj)
n.
[after Guy FAWKES]
1 in England, an effigy of Guy Fawkes displayed and burned on Guy Fawkes Day
2 [Brit.] a person whose appearance or dress is odd
*3 [Informal] a) a man or boy; fellow b) any person
vt.
[Informal] to make fun of; ridicule; josh; tease
guy
n.
1. [Lateral tensile support] — Syn. cable, truss, sling, hawser, guy wire, guy rope, tent rope, tackle, cinch, bond, line, stay, painter, chain, tie, thong, bowline, strap, lanyard, brace, tendon, vinculum, copula.
2. [*Fellow] — Syn. chap, lad, person; see fellow 1.
[See] band, bird, dude, man
January 29, 2008 9:20 PM GMT
Hi Robyn, I agree with you hon their is no real excuse for other girls or boys here to refer to any girl in a masculine way, its simply a matter of comon courtesy especially if you have a icon picture that shows you as female. I have a similar problem as regards to my name being shortened to Sam which issent realy unusaul for a girl i just think of it as a boys name, that might be a little silly of me but i have posted in my profile that i prefer Samantha or Sammi, maybe one day everyone will know me well enough to stop using Sam.
keep up the fight hon just wish i had the courage and intelegence to do the same here in the UK.
Hugs Sammi x
January 29, 2008 9:39 PM GMT
It's not silly Sammi, if you don't like being called 'Sam' then that should be respected. I don't shorten anyones name until the person tells me it is ok to do so, and then they usually say what it can be shortened to anyway.
Nikki
January 29, 2008 10:01 PM GMT
Speculation is totally unecessary as to the perpetrator of this foul deed. I will here and now hold up my hand to being the culprit.
As excuses and by implication apologies have already been rejected out of hand, I shall do neither in this instance.
Anyone who knows me will obviously also know I would never do such a thing intentionally. I have always tried to remember to use peoples preferences when using their names, both in full or when abbreviating, and correct pronouns and other definitions. Sometimes I forget. Nobody's perfect.
I make no claims to be a typist, and when going quickly I get letters in the wrong order, extra letters or sometimes letters missed out altogether. Sometimes I hit the enter key before I check what I've typed. And at the end of the day I may not be wearing my glasses, and thereby not always reading what I've written correctly either. Mistakes happen.
I also do use 'guys' in the sense spoken of further up, a generalisation for 'gang' or 'group' or the absurd 'y'all'. I don't use 'kids', as that implies a certain immaturity on behalf of the receiver, and could be perceived as insulting.
I have been in chat where on many occasions I could have taken umbrage at some of the things said to or about me, improper pronouns included. I have been insulted in the forums. I get called 'sir' and 'he' sometimes at work, where I am being judged purely on my voice, and on rare occasions I hear it when I'm out. It hurts. but life's too short, so I decided a long time ago that I would not let it affect me, so I don't let it. There are those who will say unless we shout and stamp our feet, we will never get the recognition and respect and treatment we deserve. I am of the sticks and stones brigade, and have acheived all three more often than not. My bed, I'm lying in it, and it's pretty comfortable.
January 30, 2008 2:51 AM GMT
I agree Robyn,
This is what someone said about my TG friend and it was quite upsetting:
"You ******* stay at home crossdressers need to learn that genderidentity is something that is earned at a very dear price. This is notlike creating a character in some ******** computer game. Get used to it. HE doesn’tdeserve them."
Profanity edited out.
Clearly an intentional and vicious attack on the person's gender identity. I won't mention who said it (some time in the past) as this is a personal issue but I think it's EXACTLY the kind of abuse of pronouns that you are talking about. It should not happen.
Still we make mistakes. I occasionally do, especially when juggling a person's male-female lives on the fly in a chat. Perhaps what you experienced was just one of these unintentional errors.
January 30, 2008 3:00 PM GMT
Hi Wendy-
I can understand how upsetting that would be to someone who is just thinking of coming out. We all have to start somewhere and I'm sure we have all spent time in our respective closets no matter how out or partly out we may be now. Whoever wrote that probably feels all TG people are equal, only some are more equal than others.
Hugs...Joni Marie