I guess this is partly an out story, and also an advice story.... bear with me.. this could be lengthy, lol.
First off, I should explain myself... I'm a (newly) 30 year old, slightly overweight male to female crossdresser. I have been for years in varying degrees... with the clothes, the heels, and varying purges of said items now and again when I felt it wasn't safe enough to keep such items, or fearing they might have been found easily at times. I'm also 6'4", and a size 13(m)/15(w) shoe... so clothing isn't necessarily an easy thing to come by either
ok.. there's me... now there's also a wife.. amazingly enough just shy of my height, a little less weight, but close enough during varying times were we could possibly share a couple things... and we've been married 9 1/2 years currently... so we've invested a lot of time, and emotion into each other. Long story short, I had a new two piece bathing suit (never got the nerve to buy one till I found this beautiful one at a local store).. wore it one day... figured I could hide it in my desk (wifey and I have seperate computer areas, we're geeks, and don't really cross into each others areas, so I figured it was pretty safe. And, I had plans for the evening with a friend... so I just went out, and never gave my suit a second thought... boy, it would turn out to be one of the longest nights of my life.
I would also like to point out.. my wife may be a little unaverage... she, although doesn't watch them regularly, like a nice adult movie now and again, to the point of ordering them on cable PPV onec in a while... we both go to the local strip club(s) now and again, nothing regular.. but if I really want to go, she likes to go with me... and we probably have the average assortment of bedroom toys, nothing major or kinky.. but a couple here and there.. so we have a pretty healthy sexual relationship I'd like to think.
OK... back to the story... not going into great detail.. I came home well before I thought I was going to, to explain the suit. Of course, the wifey thought it was another woman, to which I tried to talk my way through saying they were mine... and showing a top and panty didn't really kick in I think, until I showed my size 15 womens 4" shiny black heels... with my feet in them. I think it really sunk in then.. but it proved I was alone in my endeavors, much better than the alternative at this point I thought.
so... she looked into it on her own.. said I shouldn't stop, although she didn't wish to see me dressed up or anything, and to keep it out of sight, at least to start... but do not stop, don't purge anything.. I was relieved.. she was saying how much she loved me, how much she wanted me to be me
so, I started an online blog, to get my outlet. wifey eventually found it.. I just wanted to give her a peek into how I was feeling... and all was fine.. I wore panties under my clothes... I don't think wifey realized how much, but never a bra or anything else when it would be found out... I would sleep in them more often than not.. and was just enjoying myself.. I guess maybe a little too much, lol.
I posted my bio pic here (the pink maid), and she actually seemed to like it, said I looked good, or more so than what she thought it would be, which I guess is still a compliment, lol... then every once in a while on the weekend, we'd have a few too many drinks, and I admit, I wore a silky nightie to bed a couple times... think that could have easily been too much now... but we were both in good moods, and I felt adventerous... please don't hound me here, I feel awfull enough already.
Anyways... this past week, I've found out wifey hasbeen thinking a lot about our "situation", and that she needs a counselor to talk with about everything.. I've totally been supportive about finding out, and I'm sure it will help out, but herein lies my delima. Do I need to find one, so show incentive? We'd been to a marriage counselor before (for reasons of her, not me.. no blame being placed.. just an explenation).. and it did help, but this is a slightly more odd prediciment...
I would love to look up "psychiatrics" in the yellow pages, and call to say, what are your thoughts on crossdressers? how about a married one, whose wife would like to have some session wtih you? I certainly couldn't handle doing that, let alone even think about asking I'm afraid... the wifey said she would look as well, but it seems like she's leaving it to me to get the ball started... and I'm scared..
I don't know how to handle this task... I'm trying to be positive, and say this isn't a negative action by her... I know this isn't going to be a "normal" relationship ever, ever again... and I do want to do whatever I can to make it easier on my better half... but I don't think I should have to do everything.. a majority might be nice.. but she's always the one to find the doctor, the previous counselor... etc, I'm just not good at that sort of thing... though I'm willing to give it a go as much as I can.. it's not from a lack of wanting to try... just the whole situation can be a little overwhelming, on both sides I guess.
Anwyays, to stop this from getting any longer.. and being afraid not many will read something this long anyays.. I'm open to any comments, supportive, constructive.. anything in the way of assistance for help on finding someone we can both confide in.. as I kind of doubt our families would be as open as we have been thus far...
*sighs* either way, even good wishes of luck I would appriciate... oh, and "hello" everyone
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