June 25, 2008 4:47 PM BST
No, no ofcourse not, not at all. I've only been getting great information and insight to help me from you both. You're both very knowledgable to this sort of subject and overall...no offense to me at all. I'll be around, I like it here...and well, I'm sure not everyone is going to be the same way towards me but thats fine, because we all are different. And about the counseling and therapist's, I agree with everything that was said. I have always thought of them as just a way to make you "think" they are helping you but they really aren't, they really don't understand you and they talk to you like you have a mental capacity of a log. Atleast thats how they were to me in school...maybe its different with a professional one. But I think I'll just figure it out for myself anyway, rather than go for counseling and plus I'm already being helped just by talking to you and on this sort of subject, talking to the real thing is better than a therapist unless they were a TS themselves. Anyways, I really don't know much on this. I guess you could envy the way our technology and how easy it is to gain knowledge these days, compared to back then when we were still riding horses and carriages. I really envy you both though. Oh, and yeah, I have thought about going to the store to buy a few "woman" things but...I'm just too afraid of getting caught with lipstick or bras laying around or having them on, hehe. ^^;
Hugs~
June 23, 2008 11:35 PM BST
Hi Chris-
Welcome to TW, you are very, very welcome here. I hope you find the advice and help you are seeking. And I must say I agree with Marsha, I have the feeling from what you wrote that you are taken with idea of being "like" a woman than any desire to actually be one, even if only part time. Sort of like the difference between wanting to be in love and being in love with someone. But only you can decide for yourself. As Marsha said, if I were you I would certainly seek out professional counseling from someone who specializes in gender issues.
With that said, Chris, I want to emphasize that you are so welcome here, we all know what it's like to have issues about gender and the difficulty of sorting them out. Please don't take anything that's been said or that may be said as minimizing your feelings about yourself. Your feelings are real and only you can decide how to act on them.
Hugs...Joni Marie
June 24, 2008 1:48 AM BST
Hi Chris-
Nice to see you again, in a figurative way, of course. And I hope nothing I wrote implied that I considered your feeling less than real and genuine. As to counseling, sometimes they provide insights and clarifications that we perhaps may not be capable of seeing ourselves. But often it works just as well to find our own paths.
And if I may say so, I envy you somewhat, If I had known at your age what I know now, my life would have been much, much different. A common lament. Not crying over spilt milk but as Marsha mentioned things were much different back in the day. Back when mastodons roamed the earth.<G>
Here's wishing you well and hoping to see you around.
Hugs...Joni Marie