November 9, 2008 10:36 PM GMT
NEWBIE KLAXON, PLEASE BEAR WITH ME!
Ok, before I get into the detail of my thread I should probably give you a bit of background about me in order to set the right context. I’m a newbie here so this is a bit of an introduction/shot at drawing on girly experience out there in Trannyweb-land. So here goes. About me:
I’m in my early 30s. Was deeply conflicted about my sexuality when younger and went out with a girl for several years. Eventually broke up with her cos I’m Gay and and came out of the closet late in life at 27. Managed to stay friends with her too which was great, all things considered.
I’d flirted with dressing since around the same time I realised I fancied men, around mid-teens. But there wasn’t much outlet for either growing up where I did. So during my relationship with my ex I had a lot of opportunity for dressing in private using her clothes. Clearly far from ideal!
Anyway, shortly before we broke up I plucked up the courage to go out dressed around the block. Got horrendous looks from a couple of passers-by; obviously failing miserably to pass. Eventually courage took me to the Way Out club in east London and I had an exhilarating experience in DRAG out for the first time. That was late 2004. But it wasn’t what I expected, and although it was friendly and hospitable, I was alone and it didn’t feel quite right. I was hit on a lot, but left after a couple of hours (the guys were grim).
After breaking up with the ex I hit the Gay scene hard, seeking out Gay friends and integrating it into my life. Coming out, meeting people, moving on. It has been a cliché of a struggle but I’m proud of myself. Still no boyfriend to speak of L but eventually I’m sure there will be. Spent a considerable amount of time doing that, and it has dominated my spare time for four years. Only once, in 2005, did I go out dressed again; to Club Wotever, which was not really my thing. Otherwise, my girly dressing experiences have been limited to occasionally getting glammed up indoors.
Lately I’ve been questioning this again though. I still fantasise about walking around outside as a woman, going out dressed etc but my earlier experience made me think it probably wouldn’t be what I expected. So I thought, I’ll join T-web and see if I can’t meet like-minded folk to understand how much this means to me. Additionally, I thought I’ll go back to the Way Out, but in DRAB, to see if I can’t meet a few people there and just generally scope it to see how I feel.
I did this last night. It was a sort of scouting mission really. Met a really nice tranny called Jasmine briefly. Because I’m quite masculine looking in DRAB, she assumed I was a tranny-chaser, and didn’t hang around too long when I revealed I was thinking about coming back in DRAG next time. I got chatting to a couple of tranny-chasers who were typically ‘straight-acting’, though I hesitate and hate to use that term. They were drunk, rude about the girls and lecherous, no huge surprise.
I guess because I’m used to the Gay scene these days, the atmosphere felt more like the straight scene than anything else. It made me want to dress again and go out, but I was a little disappointed there wasn’t more of a Gay vibe I suppose. But then I know that:
- The Tranny scene is small
- It’s by no means all Gay, and there’s a lot of straight trannys + partners out there
I know that club scenes rarely generate relationships through pulling etc but if I were to meet a guy here, it’s unlikely it’d go anywhere because he’d want me dressed all the time, no? As much as I like it when I do get dolled up, I have to be in the mood and it isn’t all that often that I am…..
…Oh, and shallow moment time, but all the men were minging too. Apart from two hotties who were each mobbed by a mini-hareem of T-girls. Lucy biatches
Ok, so apologies because that is biography overload. But here’s where I need to ask for views. Where does this leave me then? With still unanswered questions I guess. Fundamentally though, is how important is this to me? What does it mean to me? Or should I chill, and enjoy it as the bit of fun Jasmine said to me? I don’t really know how to find the answers…
For anyone in a similar situation i.e. Gay, part time T-girl, what does it mean to you and how have you moved on with it?
Anyone know where I’m coming from or have any thoughts to offer?
Lucy x