February 16, 2009 3:17 PM GMT
Rachel, it is difficult to offer advice on coming out since the situation varies so much between individuals. You know your family and the people around you better than any of us so only you know what will be right for you. What I would say though, is don't rush into it in case it becomes a decision that you end up regretting later on. I think you also need to understand 'why' you want to come out. TS's for example pretty much have to sooner or later because of living fulltime, however as a TV/CD, there is no need for you to ever come out if you don't want to. Ask yourself what you will gain from coming out, and what you will miss out on by not coming out. Weigh up the pro's and con's carefully.
This may sound a lot like I'm sugggesting that you don't, and that isn't the case. I am merely suggesting that you think very carefully before you do anything.
Nikki
February 25, 2009 12:05 PM GMT
Question really has to be why do you want to 'come out? If you just want to come our as cd/tv and crossdress then maybe you can ease into it via telling everyone you feel a bit more andrigynous/genderqueer and gradually introduce a more crossover styple of dress. If you feel you need to display more cross gender complete with makeup/shoes/accessoris then you'll have to decide whetehre the trouble you will get will be worth the hassle.
On the other hand if you're seriously internally driven to go fiull crossgender you might find a visit to your doctor and ask for a psychiatric evealuation to see why you feel the need to cross. If the shrink says you're perhaps TS then that will be a livcenece to openly crossdress all day ...if the urge isn't so strong then you juts gotta try get people on your side...but how many hundreds of transphobic articles/characters has ther ebeen on UK telly and media over last 30 years? So many people are brainwashed into thinking that crossdressed people are freaks/queers etc.
good luck
rose