Hi Jamie-

Welcome to TW, hon. I read your profile and I understand the position you're in. My wife has known for years and has been very understanding and supportive but even now she occasionally struggles with it. If there were some magic wand she could wave to make it all go away and leave me with amnesia about it all, I'm sure she would. Just give your spouse time and lots of space to take it all in, the main thing is to go at her pace, which perhaps, almost certainly, is not the pace at which you might like things to go. For most of us, once the cat is out of the bag, we want to make up for lost time as quickly as we can. At least that's how I felt and still feel.

You certainly have come to the right place for help and support and advice and just plain old friendship and a shoulder or ten to lean on and cry on if you need to. We all understand what you're going through. And yes, like any large family we do have our moments when things can be a bit contentious and the fur flies. But Katie, and all the moderators do their best to make this a safe and nonconfrontational place for us all. And, btw, your spouse is certainly more than welcome here. She can join in the chats, ask questions in the various forums, whatever she is comfortable with.

I hope you like it here, Jamie.

Hugs...Joni Marie