Wendy Jeanette,
>Despite Joni's graciousness, I have moved your post to the New Members Forum. This is solely because posts tend to drop off the >radar fairly quickly and someone checking for new members will be more likely to read your post there in a week.
I understand completely. I actually looked for the Welcome Forum, but I guess I did not scroll down the page far enough. Thank you for moving my message to the appropriate spot.
>Having nearly gone to work in Saudi Arabia, I don't need to imagine what it's like for you there. I read a lot of books in preparation. >
MG it's hot. SoCal is just training for SA heat.
It is hot. I cannot disagree with that. On the hole, it's not been too bad. The worst part for me, even worst than not being able to acquire, or bring in, girl stuff in an easy manner, is the separation from my wife. We really do love each other. But, she is providing elder care, and I am doing this so she can do so.
>I chose the mind before body approach to finding out who Wendy was, myself. It worked well for me. I'm comfortable with myself >now and strong enough to deal with Out There. It also has kept me sane in a personal situation that limited my physical side. >Whatever works for you is the right way.
I have been fairly lucky in that my wife has given me a lot of latitude despite her inability to be fully supportive. A lot of circumstances have limited my abilities to follow through on what I had planned all through my 20s. I am going to post in the Coming Out thread, and I'll expand a bit more on this.
>There is a place here for your wife. We support Significant Others (SO).
I've suggested some support groups for her, but she has declined. She is a wonderfully understanding and empathetic person for others. But, when it's her own situation, she has a much harder time. As I said above, I'll post in the Coming Out thread.
>BTW, how do you manage to connect to TW in SA? I would have thought the URL blocked by govt.
LOL! Yeah. Well, they do block it. They block a lot of sites (though not as many as you might expect), particularly of an adult nature. However, everyone over here, both Saudi and other, who has Internet access uses proxies to circumvent the blockage by tunneling through the blocks. There are a lot of free ones, but they are suspect security wise. I subscribe to one out of Florida called GoTrusted.com. They have been very reliable and safe for me so far.
Nikki,
Thank you for a wonderful welcome. I look forward to becoming friends with you all!
June 13, 2009 7:41 PM BST
Wendy Jeanette,
Thank you for the link.
I write a blog about my time here, and one of the things I write about every once in a while is the growing tussle between conservatives and reformers. This is a very complicated situation. But, somehow doubt they'll ever be trans-friendly. :-|
June 3, 2009 11:05 PM BST
Hi Jenette-
Of course you're posting in the right place, hon, you're here at TW, it's the place for girls like us. You are so welcome here. Girl, you can talk about anything you would like to, from being a CD in a foreign country like Saudi (omg, I can only imagine) to how difficult it can be for our spouses to just making friends and talking about shoes or whatever. You can be serious and from the heart or all froth and foam, whatever you feel like, no one will judge you or make you feel out of place. I'm glad you're back with us.
Hugs...Joni Mari
June 4, 2009 10:03 AM BST
Welcome, Jenette,
Despite Joni's graciousness, I have moved your post to the New Members Forum. This is solely because posts tend to drop off the radar fairly quickly and someone checking for new members will be more likely to read your post there in a week.
Having nearly gone to work in Saudi Arabia, I don't need to imagine what it's like for you there. I read a lot of books in preparation. OMG it's hot. SoCal is just training for SA heat.
I chose the mind before body approach to finding out who Wendy was, myself. It worked well for me. I'm comfortable with myself now and strong enough to deal with Out There. It also has kept me sane in a personal situation that limited my physical side. Whatever works for you is the right way.
There is a place here for your wife. We support Significant Others (SO). Your wife is welcome to join and use the SO Forum or chat with girls in the chatroom to learn more about us. She will meet a wide range of individuals there, so should be aware that they may not individually reflect your particular status. Many of our members, however, are able to share information on this wide variation in TG people. The Tri-Ess may be of great help with some questions.
http://www.tri-ess.org/, however their focus is on heterosexual CD's and less helpful for those with stronger gender identity issues. There is a scheduled support chat group for SO's at
http://www.lauras-playgro[...]ves.htm which I have no feedback on. I do, however, trust that site enough to send children there.
BTW, how do you manage to connect to TW in SA? I would have thought the URL blocked by govt.
Welcome Jeanette, TW is the place to express yourself and be honest with yourself too. No one here will judge you, instead you will find that you will simply be accepted for who you are.
Welcome aboard!
Nikki
I wasn't thinking, Jenette, I use a proxy in Firefox, myself. I just use it to deter information gathering by monitoring software.
Was an informative article on Saudi social "reform" by the BBC:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/h[...]760.stm
While it only touched indirectly on transvestites, it paints a clear and gloomy picture of the current situation you are dealing with and the power struggle over reform.
