September 10, 2009 6:28 PM BST
Penny,
There well always be a pee brain out there. We all have run into them, but that's no excuse for their actions. Usually, what I do is agree with them, and surprisingly, they change their attitudes. Then come the questions, which after a few answers, I ask them, tell me, do you think I would choose this type of controversial life style, if there was not something else going on. That usually starts them really thinking. Now, I got him...LOL....then I add, in my boy life, I used to play hockey and kick box. And believe it or not, they usually look at me, and then shake my hand....stunning I must say.
I have had very few bad encounters. One that I did have, was at a Techno Club. Actually the one I am at in my picture, I was there actually for a fashion show of sorts. But anyhow, someone gave me a hard time, trying to be macho in front of his girl friend, and spit at me...wrong move. I know the owner of this place and all the bouncers, and they always told me if there was any trouble to let them know. Well as a lady should be, I went and got them. After they found him ( he tried to hide, macho guy yes) three big bouncers, grab him by the back of the neck in the bathroom and throw him out literally. As a side note, things have changed, because we could not find him at first, a guy came over that witnessed the event, and told them where he was, and also identified him. So there are good people out there, and I have found believe it or not, that here in the Detroit straight scene, people are very tolerant, if youact and dress appropriately. And most of the time, I much rather be in those settings than at T friendly places.
Well, hope this helps, it's just some of my experiences.....Tammy