November 7, 2009 8:26 AM GMT
Hiya Bianca xXx
Firstly welcome to TW.
I note you say cross dresser, Whilst I certainly have nothing against cross dressers, Honest, Do you have the need or feel you want to be a full time woman? That is one hell off a question to answer, I ask, because it can make a difference to how you go about the rest of your life.
If you want to be a part time female appearing publicly, or a full time female, the risks of estrangement are more or less the same. Losing freinds and upsetting family. Part time, you will probably have freinds that won't even want to associate with you even when you appear in public as a male, they would probably be guilty of suffering an embessment complex. Some people manage their lives very well doing this, quite a few are members here.
Only you can weigh up the risks involved. I know from personal experience that family are subject to bigotry because of ignorance, and realy think it would be a lot worse for a part timer, in that people are constantly reminded of your two selves. ''There goes the father/mother of that weird gender bender, the geezer bird'' If its just predeliction for dressing to satisfy a sexual thing or wether its just somthing that makes you feel confortable. If its the latter, I suggest you realy think it out before you do anything, If you are gender dysphoric then that need overides everything. Living full time people do come to accept you eventually. You can explain educate them, people are less understanding about the casual cross dresser who they see walking down the road on a Monday in a suit and a dress and heels on a Tuesday.
A lot of people tend to forget the impact on how other people see the family and SO's of the trans person. it affects their freinds, it should'nt but it does sometime reflect on them as parents being seen as accepting somthing so weird even perverted and unatural.
If its just a casual thing, at the moment perhaps it would be wise to keep it hidden till you decide just what you are. Do you live on your own? You can still meet similar people and go to trans freindly clubs. All I am saying, be careful, before you risk aliemating everyone you hold dear to you.
Cristine xXx