Well, I was going to stay out of this one since I felt I had nothing meaningful to contribute as I'm very happily married (my wife assures me of this) and we celebrated our 24th anniversary just last month. I am blessed in having a loving, supportive and understanding spouse.

Being TG is difficult enough in and of itself, finding someone who will love us for who we are is so hard. Even for those who conform to their birth sex and gender role finding real love is a struggle, but I truly believe, despite my deeprooted cynicism, that there is someone out there for all of us. Honesty about who you are, respect for yourself and a positive attitude go a long way toward finding that person, whether you're TG or not.

As far as Marsha's post, Sudha, I have read all the posts in this thread as well as others (trying to catch up) and no where did I read anything that stated or even implied that Marsha felt her point of view was the only correct one, in fact you are the one who seems to constantly repeat that your point of view is totally correct. We understand that your take on things is correct for you and how you feel about particular circumstances, more less a given of the human condition, though most people are able to at least temporarily entertain and consider someone else's take on things.

As I pointed out previously, we are here to help and support one another, not to start arguments or pick fights or try to antagonize one another for no particular reason. Sudha, I suggest a bit less antagonism and willingness to take offense and instead more openness to other's viewpoints, especially when no offense was meant.

Hugs...Joni Mari