May 18, 2010 11:55 PM BST
Hi Simone,
First let me say congratulations. I know what a huge relief this can be.
However, when it comes to your wife, please do not rush anything. While you have every right to be who you are, rubbing it in her face will not make the situation easier. Please let her approach the topic when she is ready to discuss it. Respect her limits. Again, this is not saying you should be ashamed (you shouldn't), it's just her process the whole situation in her own way.
Good luck.
Mere
Welcome to TGS Simone, and I can imagine you feel a huge weight has lifted from your shoulders now. I have to say that ultimately it is better that you have been open to your wife as honesty is everything in a relationship.
Yes, you may be very tempted to rush things but don't. Your wife has a lot to think about and her emotions will be in turmoil so there may well be some ups and downs for a while as she tries to come to terms with this. You have had a lifetime, so don't expect her to deal with this overnight, it can take several years. Be patient, and move at a pace that your wife is comfortable with, as in the long term, that will be far more successful for you both.
In the meantime, expect a lot of questions, regarding your sexuality, (that's usually the first one), and how far you are going with this. Is it crossdressing every now and then or would you ideally like to transtition? The first is easier to live with, the latter is often destructive to relationships. Your persuasion says 'CD/TV' but sometimes we don't even know ourselves to begin with.
Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck in making this work for both of you. We're here should you need any advice, or just someone to talk to. You may also find a lot of useful info in the 'Coming out' forum as many other women have told their story there already.
Nikki