May 25, 2010 11:36 PM BST
Hi Deborah, and welcome.
Coming out is the hardest part of transition; no-one expects their family to be thrilled about their decision. But things will get better; focus on the positive aspects, and once you start living full-time (don’t leave it too long), you will know that you made the right decision.
Perhaps like you, I muddled through my former life trying to make do, but transitioning was the best thing I ever did, and I’m so much happier now.
Best of luck, and I hope you find lots of friends here like I did.
xx
Hi Deborah-
Welcome to the Gender Society family, girl. You are so welcome here, I'm very glad you found us. This is a great place to find help and support and make friends and also to realize you're not alone in your journey. You'll find others here who, although each of our stories are unique, have walked the same path you are on. Perhaps more than anything else it's that understanding that unites us and makes us a family, though like any family we occasionally have our disagreements, we're all here for one another when it gets down to it.
I'm sorry to hear that your family and friends are having difficulty with all of it, but it's hard for them, too, as I'm sure you must realize. We have had all our lives to deal with and finally come to grips with who we are, for them it often seems like a bolt out of the blue even if looking back they see that there were all sorts of clues and hints. Give them time, love them still even if they don't seem to reciprocate and hopefully they will come around as they see that you are the same person they knew and loved, just with a different aspect.
Please feel free to join in on any of the discussions or chats and of course if you have any questions, just let me or one of the other mods know and we'll be glad to help out. Once again, my dear, welcome home.
Hugs...Joni Mari
Deborah, welcome and the best to you.
I just need to inform you that the new girls have to have the morning coffee made. I prefer French Vanilla or Hazelnut.
Mere
May 26, 2010 12:43 PM BST
Hi Deborah, and welcome to TGS. I'm sorry to hear that your coming out was handled so negatively by those around you but it is lovely to read that you are 'happier than you have ever been.' It can be very tough, and I have no doubt that you will be able to find friends here who understand and sympathise with exactly what you are going through. You are never alone. in the meantime, if there is anything I can do to help you to settle in, please drop me a line.
Nikki