April 28, 2004 5:34 PM BST
Hi Franky-
I'm not sure if this will help or not, but a lot of times, due to societal pressures and prejudices a lot of guys are simply embarassed to be seen by someone else in femme clothes. Yes, even by someone who is supportive and who cares for them and whom they care for also. There's the fear that they will look silly or ridiculous or unattractive or that their SO may simply be humoring them and is secretly smothering her giggles.
Most of us CD's have many years of hiding in the closet and are better at keeping it hidden than at coming out to anyone. My wife knew about my dressing for years before I actually had the nerve to be Joni in front of her in full regalia, so to speak. And even though I know she loves me and would never hurt my feelings in a matter like this, I still had this horrible fear that she was going to break into loud guffaws when she saw me.
Just go easy and it will be okay. Oh and don't let him use your makeup, get him his own. We're makeup hogs, just ask my wife. Okay, I'm just kidding about that part, actually I think it's kind of cool and sweet that you can share your clothes and femme stuff with him. BTW, where is he? He can visit here, too, ya know. We don't bite and we sure as hell won't laugh.
Hugs, Joni from Oregon