Hey honey, don't be frightened you've got so many friends here!

Nigella xx

Mere,

You can probably guess what I think. Do it sweetie. It may be hard at first but putting up with that difficulty is so much eaasier than the hiding and the lies. As hard as it is its so much easier. I know I dont have to say this to you, your a smart person. You teach others with your wisdom, so use this to know what you have to do.

Trust me you will feel better having done so.

Mere honey coming "out" should be the end to you having to hide who you really are.If it's something you truly believe in then go for it! Why hide yourself honey,you've nothing to be ashamed about.Things will be tough to start with but then they WILL get easier..trust me! when i "came out" it was very hard for a while til my family got used to it,now they accept me fully for who i am.There'll probably be a Q a mile long to hold your hand honey...something i would do without question.Stay strong honey cos we're all with you on this...love and ooooooo maria p.s..." i love you to bits"

youve got my full surport darlin , you have me email and phon no , if you need to caht or anything im here for you babe , with an ear to listen and a sholder to cry on ( but lets hope you dont need that ) . i wish you all the best in coming out to your family , and wont ask any questions.

I wish you good luck Mere and i will be thinking of you, as you always tell me "youhave us here on Tweb" and that you do have hun.......hugz Julie xx

Hi Meredith-

Having read so many of your posts over the past few months, I know you're an intelligent and thoughtful person who didn't arrive at this crossroad (no pun) without already knowing what you want to do. If you feel you need to disclose to your family for whatever reason, and the reasons don't matter, they're your own and only you can be the judge of what you need to do, then I wish you the very best of luck.

Hugs, Joni

WOW!! you're going after a job here in east anglia honey.I hope you get it cos it'll mean you can come over to see me(if you want,silly question i know).i will keep everything crossed and hope you get it.Love and xxooooo maria

Hi Mere,

How are you doing? Any update on your
fully coming out? Wishing you luck.
As for the wine, don't stop that either.

Hugz,
Michelle Lynn oxoxox

PS my favorite wine is a Chardonnay from the Margaret River region of Australia - PIERO

I'm to have a talk tonight with my sister about Karen. I'm starting to understand the courage it took for you. You had much more to lose than me. I'm so scared I may change my mind.
Karen

Hi Mere!!
It went very well. But I cheated. She's crossgender. The hardest part was for her to believe I'm not gay. That she would have understood, she is. But she thinks me & Karen are 2 different people. She'll get it in time. It was a small step but I feel good. I wish I could give you some advice. But I realy can't. I have a hundred things going thru my head that in the end wouldn't help. I do know I want you to be happy. Good luck Mere.

KarenXXXOOO

My bottles full. UMM Well was.

Hi Mere,

First of all a ... Sisterly hug!!

Sorry to hear about your current situation. A Mom of a special girl (here on TW), reminded me that I had been dealing with these feelings for years, whereas my wife was just now trying to deal. She also reminded me about being sensitive to her feelings. The news she received forced her to re-evaluate not only our relationship, but her own sexuality as well.

The other girls here have brought out some points of view that , in my case, pointed to a go slow approach. One of the girls here was quite blunt, but her questions really challenged me to think through what I was actually trying to accomplish. Her advise boiled down to - In visualizing my new life, what would that new life to look like? What role would my wife play in this new life? Is she willing to take on that role? As "Michelle" , I did not have clear answers to those questions. Hence, the go slow approach makes some sense for me.

Mere - I know from your previous posts that you love your wife and want things to work out. Whatever happens, we'll be pulling for you!!

Hugs from a supportive sister,

Michelle Lynn

Hi Mere
Im sorry that I keep repeating this but Im not sure if people know who I am. Im an SO (mum).
I can only begin to imagine the extent of the pain girls go through before they get to the stage when they can no longer hide their true self from the people they love. And along with that the fear of losing them.
But I truely beleive that given the time to understand and adjust, most family members will continue to love and protect the person who has just opened their hearts and soul to them.
I am thinking of you Mere, and all the other girls in the same situation.
But maybe together we can ease each others pain.
Lots of love to you and your family
Dorothy xx

Butterflies begin from having been another.( from a song by Eva Cassidy)