July 28, 2006 1:38 AM BST
Something you should all learn to realise & bear in mind is,that, as a GG SO, it isn't just the acceptance of your partner as their true self, but it also brings into play a near maternal instinct.
The world is cruel & whilst private acceptance behind closed doors is liberating, & the future prospect of going out together, en femme, is initially exciting, as it gets closer, we SOs have had time to really consider how the world will accept our loved ones (or not). That's when it becomes scary for us & we appear less enthusiastic & try to discourage you!
We are also isolated- women are in the habit of discussing problems with their closest friends in order to find a solution. Unfortunately, in these circumstances, not only is it difficult to get sympathy/understanding from friends (lifelong friends suddenly back off & regard you as weird), but even those who understand & condone your situation can't help you because there is no point of reference that they can relate to.
Please, ask your SOs to sign up so that they can find kindred spirits. & yes, if you were wondering, we do e-mail each other away from TW because sometimes there are things which we can't discuss publicly for fear of offence- they are invariably common themes & neuroses which all GG SOs go through.
We all love our partners, but it is at times hard for us.
Urge them to either join TW or, if they feel uncomfortable about that, e-mail me direct at
[email protected]
There is also a Yahoo group, exclusively for GG SOs, where a lot of issues & paranoias are aired away from our girls.
Hugs & kisses to you all
Gillian. XXX