but Meredith is now one of co-moderators on this forum, which I think is totally awesome. I know that with her wiit and intelligence she will keep the forum lively and moving along.

And speaking of forum matters, has anyone heard from Sandra lately? I hope she's okay. If you see this Sandra, please drop us a line and let us know how you are, okay? If I missed a post about her or what's going on, I apologize.

Hugs...Joni

Well, Meredith and I had this short correspondence April 9th. I have been thinking about Sandra almost every day since then. For whatever it's worth...

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From: Sabina
To: Meredith Newton
Subject: Sandra
Date: Sun, 09 Apr 2006 18:11:35 +0200

Hi Meredith....

I saw your question about Sandra. And I just want to say I tried to send
her two messages 19 days ago - through TW, and directly to her gmail
adress. I received the same two error messages. It seemed quite clear to me
that she had blocked her adress. My impression is that she withdrew when
the conflict with Rebekah Stewart was escalating. I had two reasons for
sending Sandra a message: Letting her know I was thinking about her, and to
say I considered pulling out of TW too.

...

When I returned with some rather peaceful posts - after that thing with my
photos - I also deliberately mentioned Sandra in a new reply to HTG on the
"bitterness" thread - as that was where Sandra made her last post before
the conflict on the "admirer" thread. The next day Sandra posted a short,
but supportive answer on some quite neutral subject. But then there were
this new escalation on the "Mariette..." thread. And I guess you know the
rest. I was sorry to see, of course, Sandra withdrawing again - most
probably because of the new escalation ?

I have more or less stopped posting too. My last post was on monday -
answering Laura. Sunday 31st I posted a Good Morning thread with some
lonely seagulls flying in the snow... I thought: Well, it's cold outside,
but we can fly.

Most days the last 2 weeks I have been looking at Sandra's profile,
thinking that perhaps she understands I'm thinking about her. And most days
she has in fact been signing in.

Not really an answer to your question, what I've been saying here. But I
thought it might be better than nothing ?

Hugs,
Sabina

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Hi Sabina,
Thanks for responding. I wish some people wouldn't get so anxious sometimes
on Trannyweb. For instance, Lucy Diamond and myself have disagreed on a few
issues, yet I never took it personally. Lucy said she'd answer any of my
hormones questions. But that's me.

I really don't want to see anyone leaving TW for reasons like these. Still,
people have to do what is best for them.

Thanks again

Mere

Thank you, Sabina, for letting me know. Sandra has been a longtime member here at TW and I hope that she's alright and that we'll see her back again.

As far as the recent confilicts and upheavals, I hope that they have been resolved and we can move on. My personal feeling is that there is always room for disgreements here on TW and for expressing a point of view, even one that's unpopular, after all, we're all adults and can speak for ourselves and defend our points of view as needed, but that there's no room for hostility or intolerance or deliberately making statements simply for the sake of being provocative.

Hugs...Joni

Mere's now a mod is she??......YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!! way to go girl!

LOL xxxxxxxx
Anna-Marie

This should be a good forum for her. She is realy just starting the process herself. So should have much to say (she usualy does lol!

Mere, I think you'll do a great job. You're always helping others and offering the best advice you can already. nice to see you recognised for it. I think you'll add an interesting input into the forum.

Meredith,

I agree, it would be a good thing if Sandra could be brought to share her insights again. But as i'm sure you remember, it was because of the hell raised in early spring i mentioned Mariette at all. Could have been done some other way perhaps, but i'm not so sure. It's the same thing with my post about Sandra here now. I'm glad Joni asked about her, but i posted my answer because of the "recent conflicts" and the fact that it has made me grow tired of this place. It was pretty much the same when i brought up the question of what happened to Mariette too, some months ago. I remembered that more than a year ago you were the only one of her friends asking - openly - why she left. And the same with Sandra some months ago. So, you're certainly worth some confidence.

As for moving on... we all must do that. But i do not forget easily. The fact that Sandra stopped posting after the conflict between me and another member in early spring is an important reason why i have not been moving on the way some people might have preferred. In my view that conflict showed clearly that we can not express our views without taking the risk of being unjustly attacked - for an extended period of time. And all i did was reacting to a grossly intolerant comment. Then i was asked to apologize for my reaction, by that member and by an admin friend of hers. I do of course expect nothing similar from you, Meredith. But I find it worth mentioning here as it clearly concerns the question of moderation - and the reasons why some members may prefer to leave.

Congradulations Mere....now you can have something to do during your "spare" time.....he he

WOOOOOO HOOOOOO Mere you go girl
Take care
Sara
PS I'll try to be good