November 22, 2006 6:48 PM GMT
Wow, so many replies...
There was one thing I was going to post but I cut it out so that the original post wouldn't be so long but perhaps it explains things a bit.
Some years ago I "met" a transsexual online that were a lot further progressed than I was at that time. To me, she was perfect. Beautiful, perfect voice... She was everything I wasn't, but wanted to be at the time.
I wrote her a message basically saying "Hi, I really admire you" or something similar and she suggested she'd call me and we could talk on the phone instead.
The following phone call was basically me interviewing her for 3 hours. How did you manage to get that voice, what doctor do you see at the clinic, how was your childhood, how do you manage relationships, work... I asked her every question I could possible think of and I got so much from that phone call. So much that I sometimes wonder if I would be the person I am today had I not met her.
What did she get out from that conversation? Nothing. Besides perhaps a good feeling for helping me and answering my questions.
Why did she do it? I don't know... I don't know her anymore and have no idea what happened to her.
I think that this site gives to many people what she gave to me.
A lot of people here don't want to put a picture in their profile because it would be really painful to them if someone accidently found them out. They are scared that their secret would get out in the open. I feel the same way, just the other way around. I don't want my secret known either and that is why I have been "cleaning up" my online presence. Just as if the closeted cross-dresser would suffer to be found out, my life too, would suffer a great setback if the wrong person found me out.
I'm not living 100% in stealth but I am working towards that end. To get there you have to either compromize or sacrifice. Everyone who knows your past is a possible liability. I sacrificed almost all my old friends for instance. I just couldn't trust them.
I am not ready to sacrifice everything but at least enough to feel "safe".
I understand the idea that I shouldn't have to hide me being TS but I think I did my fair share of "transsexual awareness" when I transitioned and had to explain everything to everyone all the time. I'm sorry, that is not my battle anymore, I did my part.
I don't come here for information on things, there are other sites that have more information about RLE, stealth, medical information, dilating, post-op life and those kinds of topics. I look to the people writing at those sites for information just as some people come here to look for information.
But the social "hole" this site fills for so many and the empathy found amongst the people here at this site I haven't seen anywhere else. And that is what makes this site so great I think.
Kind regards,
Hanna
November 23, 2006 2:14 PM GMT
Hanna,
I think that a lot of girls, here at TW, will benefit from your knowledge and experience. You are a rare resource in a world where there used to be almost NONE. Like a rare gem, it will be some girl's treasure. I hate that you need to hide being TS and go into a different "closet", but I understand why you feel that way. Their is only so much that we can cope with in life and you have had to cope with much.
November 29, 2006 6:40 PM GMT
Hanna--
Been thinking 'bout this one...
"A lot of people here don't want to put a picture in their profile because it would be really painful to them if someone accidently found them out. They are scared that their secret would get out in the open."
Y'know, I wonder...if somebody was in here, and "found" my picture...seems to me I could just as easily have a "secret" on them.
As in, "What were you looking for on a Transgender website?"
I've written a rather lengthy article on this concept. (Thanks for the great idea!) You can read it
here.
Luv 'n hugs,
Minako Sakura
"Almost-Angel, T-Girl Genius, and Ultra-Flirt"