May 28, 2008 10:35 AM BST
OK, so maybe it's a rather morbid thought, but thanks Rae for bringing this up!
We hear all the time about people who have died without leaving a Will, and all the problems and hassle that causes family and friends after a death. But, at least, those people "know" of your death, and can work-through the emotions and problems your death causes.
But, to people who don't know about your death, they have no opportunity to handle the loss, thinking instead that you've, maybe, "fallen-out", or whatever!
For some time, you try to work out just what's gone wrong, you try to contact them (probably, in our cases) through websites where you met, or, if you've exchanged them, by your eMails. Because their family/friends may not know about "this other side" of the person, you get no reply/news about them!
Also, because you probably know each other under "psuedonyms", even checking public records will shed no light on what's happened!
About 18 months ago, just this situation arose in my life!
I had a C/D eMail "penpal" wh, after about a year of writing to each other, suddenly stopped writting! All my eMails asking her if everything was ok, got no replies. Asking around the C/D community where she was active, drew a blank as well! It was only a few months ago, that I found out, by chance as iy happened, that she'd joined that horrible statistic, of the large number of our community who commit suicide!
If there had been a list, somewhere, that gave "contacts" for friends, etc., that have been made "on-line", I might have heard about it a lot sooner, and not had the period of "not knowing".
So, to Rae's point .................................
Yes, A very good idea !!
All it takes is a simple list of names/eMail addys/websites that someone should contact, and let them know "the sad news".
Anyone who might be worried about "the family & friends" finding out about a hidden part of your life, by asking them to do this, don't forget, they're going to find out anyway!
As they go through your belongings, etc., they'll come across "evidence" of that hidden ID, so, as they already know, make a positive use of their "new found knowledge" and get them to leave word for all your on-line friends.
From my previous experience, I don't know why I hadn't thought about this situation before, but now, in the very near future, I'll certainly make up a list of who I want informed "on-line", and leaving a "hard copy" with my solicitor, along with the other documents he hols for me!
Thanks Rae for bringing up this subject ( a bit morbid? Yes! But important to think about, none the less!).
It's made me take action.
I think everyone should give it some serious thought!
Hugs,
Angela. xxx.
I gave my wife my details of my TW account as well as my email, so that she could let everyone know what had happened to me in case of the worst, and given some of my pastimes, that's quite likely!! Lol
I thought it would be better than just 'disappearing' and have friends and other people wondering where I was.
Nikki