September 25, 2008 4:13 PM BST
Hi, all--
I've held off on posting in this thread, due to my background. See, I'm one of those deaded right wing Christian conservative nutter-types. (I'm even a registered Republican.) Except I don't push everyone about signing up for it; I greatly prefer living my faith on a daily basis than beating people over the head with it.
This doesn't mean I'm perfect. Far from it; I realize all my flaws. (Don't laugh too hard--I realize all
your flaws, too.)
Having said that, I missed the special in question, but from the reviews, I can say this much:
1. The first person truly needed to think through what they were doing, no doubt. I have been accused in the past, along with others, that I try to talk people out of living the life I currently enjoy. There's a reason for that, and here is example "A" as to why. This life is NOT for everyone. I've long ago made my peace with where I am and how I look and live. To me, that much is half the battle. I know and understand what I am doing, and how that affects my life.
And I'm quite all right with that.
2. This person chose, for their religion, to make a radical change. Was it right? I can't answer that, having not seen the show in question. I can guess it wasn't--but not for the reason most would give.
Part of the faith I buy into has us acknowledging our humanity. When a change like this is required of one, it is usually couched in terms of appropriating supernatural power and abilities, which (in theory) we can tap into via prayer, Bible reading, etc. For a great many things, this often works for people. Please note I said often and not always. Like psychology, this also involves a true desire for a real, lasting change to happen, for the greater good, and not just paying it lip service.
Now: God does not make mistakes. I am the way I am for a reason, and I wonder if that person is actually following what the Almighty had intended for her...or if, indeed, she was pushed by peer pressure to conform, which is what a great deal of churches want.
Realsitically, most pastors want to see the transforming power of Christ at work in their congregants hearts and lives. Many people forget that the Church, while a religious enterprise, is also a business. Bills must get paid, salaries as well (and please put aside the discussion of how much the TV pastors make--too many pastors have to work a second job just to make a decent salary), and if people don't feel that what they beleive is happening at their church, they will "shop" elsewhere.
If the pastor doesn't want to see the transforming power of Christ at work in their congregants hearts and lives...they should be selling insurance or real estate.
Back to topic: Either way, it is sad to see that people can be hurt by not thinking for themselves, and making informed choices. And that especially goes for t-people.
I am not only wearing the flameproof bra and panties, but flame retardant slacks and a blouse today. I'm off to a job fair, as my religious school position hacked my salary 60%, and the other part-time gig I have isn't quite making up the loss. So, bring on the hot comments....
Luv 'n hugs,
Rev. Mina Sakura, D.Min
September 25, 2008 7:07 PM BST
It would perhaps be interesting to know whether the the two cases in question were required to do the 1 or 2 years life experience, so derided by Marsha; or not before going for the op.
Minako,we all have our crosses to bear...........and we shouldn't forget that some peddlers of religion,of whatever persuasion,can be very,very,very persuasive........Taliban-style fundamentalism is not the monopoly of any single religion.
I'll get down from the pulpit now............
ciao
Lynn H.
September 25, 2008 8:31 PM BST
Lynn--
I also deride the RLE; but ONLY because it is pass/fail and life is not pass/fail. I think the RLE is a joke of sorts; someone who isn't going through what you are is going to grade you. In school, we call that a fraud; you have to have classes for many hours before you are allowed to teach in that subject. So, why don't those doing the gaging not have to spend say, six months living successfully as a member of the opposite gender before they are qualified to make such a decision?
Before one has "The Operation", however, they
should have to spend full time IRL (even a short time) as a woman. Otherwise, you may well be deluding yourself.
It just shouldn't be pass/fail.
Mina
September 25, 2008 9:01 PM BST
Back to what the thread was about in the first place, forget the religion argument.
Based on the information Karen gave in the initial account of this story, the church gal "was pretty comfortable with herself" but went to church "searching for piece of mind". That makes you think if she was searching for piece of mind, maybe she wasn't actually 100% comfortable with her original decision. I think the church may have taken advantage of her, but she was equally dillusional in allowing it to happen. Why did she not involve the therapist? I think there are far more issues in this story then any of us know. And once again, it sounded like the church was upfront with their beliefs so why are they being blamed for anything. I think this gal at that moment was looking to be talked out of what she had done and that is why she continued going to that church. Look, you cannot say all TS's are brilliant, I think this gal/guy is messed up in the head.
There is no reason the other one could not be TS but had unrealistic expectations of what life could be after transition. Faced with reality he/she may not have felt they had the strength to deal with the issues she faced. Therefore, life as a guy wasn't so bad. Just think in terms of reverse crossdressing, she is a woman but dressing and behaving as a male which gives her more comfort.
Marsha
September 25, 2008 11:41 PM BST
i think the 2 year RL test is important. no one tests you except yourself. i think it is sufficient time for someone to really think hard and decide whether transittion is for them or not.
at the end of the day no one stops anyone from transittioning. if one is determined the they will jump through all the hoops with little hastle. if someone doesnt jump through the hoops or has difficulties then there must be some other undelaying factor as to why.
i think the biggest question anyone should ask themselves is "how would i feel, if after srs, i missed being a man? how would i cope?" after transittion you not going to be treated as an equal in the male fraternity or have the same oportunities males get. however, you get the female fraternity like saturday shopping and bingo when you get older.
im waffling now, bets stop lol
September 25, 2008 11:41 PM BST
Just think in terms of reverse crossdressing, she is a woman but dressing and behaving as a male which gives her more comfort.
Brilliant!
Mina
September 26, 2008 3:49 PM BST
One thing I forgot............not only do some churches/sects employ extremely persuasive 'salespersons'.There are those who,having diagnosed themselves as TS, are equally persuasive when it comes to convincing the quacks and shrinks that their HRT should have started yesterday and that they'd prefer their GRS tomorrow and not a day later!!Then they wake up after the op..............and/or the Godsquad doorsteps them........................
Meanwhile I'm waiting for the missionary from The Orthodox Church of Latter Day Thetans and Fundamental Adventist Baptists, local Madrasse.....................
Ciao
Lynn H.