September 4, 2002 2:28 AM BST
My mother has now gone back home. My time with her over the last few days was wonderful. Except for a few visits with friends and family who don't know yet, I was in female mode the entire time. I offered to go back to my old male self for part of the time if she wanted to spend time with the son she was accustomed to to, but she said that she wanted me to be comfortable, and I guess she wanted to get to know her new daughter.
On the way to the airport, we talked about it a little. She said that for the first two days it was a little difficult for her, but she quickly became comfortable with the new me. I am probably more pleasant to be around when I am free to be myself.
While she was here, we went shopping in a number of stores, and we went to a few restaurants, and she was not nervous to be in public with me. She even gave me a few useful makeup tips.
At times like this, I realize how lucky I am. I have heard horror stories about people's friends and family completely rejecting them when they come out - just when emotional support is needed most. I am glad that did not happen to me; I don't think I could have handled losing her.
Mom, if you happen to see this post, thank you for your support. It means more to me than you can imagine. I love you.
Heather H.
September 15, 2002 6:30 PM BST
It is wonderful to hear that someone else has had a good experience with a parent. You are lucky, Isobella.
Heather H.
September 1, 2002 6:49 PM BST
I have a brother, but he made my life hell growing up, and my relationship with him is still rather cool. Other members of my family might be supportive, but I doubt any will be as supportive as my mother.
Heather H.
September 15, 2002 2:34 AM BST
I told my mother
When I was 14.
I am now 20 and I have lived as a girl since I told my mother. I am still waiting to have an op and transform, but I am a girl anyway. Always have been.
What did mum say? She simply accepted it. In fact I think she always new.
How did it happen? Solo mum comes home unexpectedly to find poor me recling in front of tv (television silly!) dressed in her clothes.
I was embarrassed but she wasn't. We had a loooooong talk.
Then she helped me buy some clothes for myself.
Then she helped me see a doctor.
Then I started the changes with hormones and my mother came with me to buy my first bra.
I think then I started living 100% as a girl.
It has been hard but it has been worth it and I am very girly except for some wrong bits - which I am going to have fixed soon, I hope.
So coming out - it was hard to get people used to me being dressed as a girl and I had to curtail my secondary education because the school system could not cope. But I am at polytech now and getting educated and evryone simply assumes I am a girl.
September 11, 2002 1:54 AM BST
It was more joyful by far than going out dressed for the first time, but it was less scary. I suppose with other family members and friends it might be more scary, but I know my mother well and I knew she would be accepting.
It was exciting, but the excitement passed rather quickly. To me at least, it just became natural. That is the same reaction I had to going out dressed. I figured that the first time I went out shopping dressed it would be extremely exciting and scary, but it really wasn't - it just seemed natural.
Heather H.
September 1, 2002 1:14 AM BST
Hope you have a really fantastic time Heather
August 31, 2002 5:16 PM BST
THAT SOUNDS SO WONDERFUL HEATHER!!!
ONE THING I CANT DO IS TELL MY MOTHER AS SHE LIVES IN AUSTRALIA AND I HAVE NO CONTACT WITH HER... ::)
March 16, 2003 10:04 PM GMT
I hope it works out for you, Chrystal. My mother is still supportive; I talk to her frequently, and she seldom uses my male name anymore.
Heather H.
I have come out to a lot of people now. At this point, most of my friends and family know, and I have 100% acceptance so far. See my post in this forum "Coming Out Goes into High Hear".
Heather H.
Heather, hon--
You are more blessed than you know...
Jayne Sakura
September 5, 2002 1:59 AM BST
Yes, I like that smiling picture! As usual, I had to check out the full-size version - very nice. http://mywebpages.comcast.net/fashionlab/Images/Smileys/Wink01.gif
September 4, 2002 8:16 PM BST
Hi Heather
Terrific news. Your picture's even started smiling.
Hugs
Sarah
September 4, 2002 3:13 AM BST
Heather, you are very fortunate. I'm glad everything went so well for the two of you. http://mywebpages.comcast.net/fashionlab/Images/Smileys/Smile02.gif
September 2, 2002 8:48 PM BST
Now that you say that, I think you might've mentioned your brother in another topic, but that could've been someone else (sorry I couldn't remember).
Anyway, I was just wondering whether being an only child would make things easier or more difficult for trannies who try to come out to their parents.
September 15, 2002 9:26 AM BST
Hi Isobella
Welcome.
What a wonderful story and what a wonderful mother you have, not too many people have those experiences. Treasure her.
Best wishes
Sarah
September 1, 2002 5:08 PM BST
Heather, are you an only child? If not, are there others in your family who could be as accepting/supportive?
September 10, 2002 5:08 AM BST
I would imagine being able to be yourself with a family member for the first time is probably as exciting as going out dressed for the first time - both scary and joyful! http://mywebpages.comcast.net/fashionlab/Images/Smileys/Smile01.gif
August 31, 2002 10:17 AM BST
Heather
Congratulations. I hope all goes well for you. I'm sure it will.
Hugs
Sarah
September 6, 2002 8:35 PM BST
I'm really happy for you.Please send new mascara-bl**dy hormones.
Lots of love,Sue.XX