Coming Out - various web sites worth reading:-
Coming out for transgender people: http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Transhealth/Pages/Transcomingout.aspx
Coming Out as Transgender: http://www.ohio.edu/lgbt/resources/transcomingout.cfm
A Transgender Life - Coming Out To Family Episode - Part 1: Video: http://youtu.be/ju11sGKUSYs
Links from a Yahoo Group: http://dir.yahoo.com/society_and_culture/cultures_and_groups/lesbian__gay__bisexual__and_transgendered/transgendered/Coming_Out/
Coming Out Trans to your Parents and Family: http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/TNET/Coming_Out_Trans.pdf
Transgender Mental Health: http://tgmentalhealth.com/2009/12/26/thoughts-on-coming-out-as-transgender-to-family/
Tips on Coming Out Trans: http://sequoiablessed.hubpages.com/hub/Tips-on-Coming-Out-Trans
Here are some more UK based sites for transgendered persons and their So's
http://www.beaumontsociety.org.uk/ the beaumont society. based in London UK information for the Transgendered and their families
http://theangels.co.uk/ information and support in the UK
http://www.transgenderzone.com/ Transgender advice UK