Found this good explanation of brain sex. watch from about 1:25 onwards
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LOY3QH_jOtE&feature=player_detailpage#t=5033s
Interesting link, as are others on the list on it's YouTube page. The part I found most compelling was the absence of phantom penile feelings in post-op TS after SRS removed the penis which could well be demonstrative of the brain's lack of expectation in the penis being there in the first place. In men who have their penis removed due to trauma or for cancer, phantom penile feelings can be present. In other words, the brain does not miss it in the post-op TS.