So, last night, I came out to a close friend. He took it quite well, and I don't foresee and major issues resulting. Although, time will tell.
He is a good friend to both my wife and to me, and he is often over to our house. I spend almost all of my time in some form of female clothing when I am home, as I prefer to live as a woman at home. Usually, it's jeans and a top, but it's definitely female, and it sends me scurrying to cover up or change whenever he comes over. I am tired of that scramble.
So, after discussing it with my wife, we both agreed that he probably would respond positively, and it was worth a shot at telling him in order to allow me to be comfortable in my own home and in my yard (I live in the country).
I don't ever mince a lot of words, especially when I am nervous about somethng. Being straight forward has always seemed to work the best for me - like ripping the band-aid from the wound quickly instead of peeling it off slowly. I was scared, but while we were dealing with a task, I told him I needed to tell him something that was going to shake up his reality. He was taken aback a bit, but said, okay. So, I asked him if he'd ever had a friend who was transgendered. He said, no. I then told him I was transgendered - that I really wanted to be female.
After the shock and immediate discomfort wore off, he told me was honored and actually cried over the fact that I had confided in him. He assured me that we were friends, and he accepted me as who I was. He did ask me to break him in slowly and not show up in full female kit right off the bat. He had a lot of questions, and he will have more. I assured him that he can ask all the questions he wants to ask. I will try to answer them all; but, if I don't want to talk about something, I simplly will tell him so and expect him to respect that privacy. He was totally cool with that.
So, the next couple of weeks will tell the real story, I'm sure. But, I am confident he is okay with it, and it's one more area of my life where I can relax a bit more as Jessi.
Aw, Jessie i am so happy to her this. it always makes your life so much easier when you confide in a friend and the response is good. i told my best friend of 30 years who i truly was and he accepted me without question. life is full of wonderful surprises. here's to the future and great friends xxxx
Every time I get comfortable and think I have this crazy life in control I realize I am not. My family all know but I have so many friends that don't. Your courage is inspiring.
Jessi,
I DID come out to that friined, actually he has been a house guest siince last Feb! Anyway, I am going to "break him in"as well, as you did. Little bits of women's clothing, not to frilly, bit of fragrance. I guess you have to judge for yourself when "full kit" is approprpriate time??
-Robin xxx