My therapist when we got to sex and i explained

 

said --- you need a specialist----

 

He referred me

 

He told me two things about the man I was going to see

 

First -- he was an alcoholic and in AA

 

Second --- he used to be a women

 

It took seven sessions - the first few to examine the issue the rest to solve it

 

For me it was the desire to live an honest life --- no secrets

 

I came out at one of my very local AA meetings

 

Nervous ---- until one women in the back of the room said

 

"that's why i "LOVE" this meeting --- the ones downtown are "SO BORING"

 

It has not been easy --- a lot of people in AA want everyone to be "just like them"

 

but I have found enough acceptence here and there to:

 

Stay Sober

 

Live an Honest Life

 

Feel Empowered - I am doing my small part to break down a barrier

 

 

Unless a barrier is put there to protect you...it should be broken.
Hugs

I too found my freedom in A.A. In 1980, I did my 4th and 5th step for the first time, and when I had to show my moral inventory to my sponsor, complete with a "Safe and Sane Sexual Ideal", I shared that I was transgendered. I was living with a girl at the time, and he told me that I had to be honest with her, accept her decision, and be ready to leave or stay depending on how she felt. I told her on Christmas night, and she seemed to be pretty accepting. I didn't find out until 12 years later, after we had been divorced for 3 years, that she didn't really accept, she kept hoping it was a phase.

When she asked for the divorce, I made her wait a year, to make sure that her new husband-to-be would be up to the task of her and our 2 children. During that time, I came out publicly, going to many AA and NA meetings as Debbie. I also saw a therapist about transition, and he gave me a number of assiignments. As a result of all those public appearances, and living more and more of my life as a girl, I met a woman who really loved Debbie, and encouraged be to get dressed as soon as I came home, and not to dress as a boy until I went to work. I got very good at passing, and we had a wonderful life together for quite a while. Eventually, she got a better offer, so I moved east, where I again went to AA and NA meetings as Debbie as well as AA & NA dances, and met a girl who really liked Debbie. We stayed together for over 15 years.