hi everyone, this is the first time ive joined a community like this and so far so good. i guess what made me sign up was the fact that i told my parents yesterday that i may be transexual...
i have felt this way consistently for 3 years now, and im 18yo. talked to 2 psychologists first, the second of which im still seeing now. but im still unsure if i made the right decision to tell them. As many of you know, this stuff is really hard, especially when considering that im not 100% sure(but fairly...) ive undoubtedly got a love for many things feminine, especially cloathing and shoes(no questions there:0). when i go to bed at night, i like to dream that i am a woman. at 16, i grew my hair long and acted more feminine, but stopped because i was badly bullied. Well before then i used to visit bdsm sites online(forced feminisation etc), because i liked the concept of being 'made to behave like a girl'. id love to hear your thoughts on this,
xxx Robbie
Hi Robbie and welcome to the Gender Society.
Yes, it is very difficult, especially at 18 - but there are considerable benefits to transitioning at a young age - if you are sure that it is the right thing for you and what you want to do with your life. Hopefully the fact that you are undergoing therapy with a psychologist will help to unravel the turmoil within your mind and allow you to decide with more clarity on the path that you want to take.
You mentioned coming out to your parents - how did they react to the news that you consider yourself to be transgender??? Were they supportive??
You might like them to see this video recorded by the mother of a transgender child:-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEu01c8_7t8
Good luck and I hope things work out well for you
Carol xx
Hi again Robbie, yes I love my teddie bears too (despite my age) lol.
I am so pleased that you have parental support, it means a tremendous amount to those of us who are transsexual to have that love and support. Have you ever heard of the COGNIATI tests?? It might help resolve any doubts you might have.
http://transsexual.org/cogiati_english.html
Hi Robbie, I can only echo what Carol has said. From what you say you seem to have issues around your gender identity. It is vital to realise that your path to being happy with your true self and who you are is your own individual one. Don't make assumptions that you will follow have to do particular things as a result of being transgender. It is all about you. Well done with telling your parents - I wish I'd done that at your age, good luck with everything and above all if you can embrace your life as a trans person then others will embrace you. Nell xxx
Robbie Champion said:
............ and I seem to make friends with girls more easily than boys.........
That is one thing that confuses a lot of people, indeed many parents assume that you will go on to be a real 'ladies man', failing to realise that most boys tend to prefer to play with other boys and vice versa. It even confuses us when we are younger, I thought my close friendship to other women was normal - but it wasn't a sexual attraction at all, just the very normal close bond that many women share with their female friends and something that doesn't seem to exist between men (or maybe I think it doesn't exist because it never did for me).