Hi Rachel , I agree with Doanna, . I sympathize , we can easily get down and look at the negatives like deciet balances .
its tricky though getting the time when you both can talk without distraction , and believe its the right time to make this discussion.
As is often said the truth will out in the end.
Kind regards D
Donna & Doanna
Thanks both for your reflections on this.
The truth will out in the end - quite probably.
I lie awake at night wondering about the consequences of exposure, the impact upon my family, the reaction from an elderly father and the long-term impact upon my young son. Explaining to one, the years of explanation that the other may need to give. I worry about the hurt that my wife will feel, her reaction and whether her patience will finally expire.
All of this absence of action you might say is to protect those I love, but an alternative reading is that these might be excuses that I'm making for myself.
I don't think (today) that my wife is having an illicit lesbian affair. I know that I am transexual. I also know that I will do nothing about this until perhaps it is too late.
The truth will out in the end.
Rachel x
I think the clue is in the title Hypothetical reality.
Another no easy answer. In reality the wife might find it outragous, abhorent and totaly unaceptable that the man wants to ''mimic'' another woman. regardless of her own sexual orientation. Sexual orientation is as diverse as the whole transgender spectrum, it takes all sorts.
I had a penchant for girls, women, then drifted towards men to mainly gain acceptance, confidence and satisfy physical needs. finally falling in love with another transexual. a pre op, am I a lesbian? but I like the physical apect of our relationship. She has attribute that no man could ever give me, yet has the physical capability to satisfy me that I could'nt envisage getting from some dom lesbian with a strap on, I won't divulge anymore, lol. use your imagination.
Hi Rachel,
I have had the same "I know that I am transexual. I also know that I will do nothing about this until perhaps it is too late." too late , well I am sittng here just having turned 52 , with sticky out sensitive nipples in my tea shirt and very flouncy long hair . I think actually I am okay and moving forward , and my partner seems happy with me.On reflection though I have been changing over the last few years ,
I identified there was this mentally slavery of meeting "percieved exceptions " which was progressively but inevitably grinding me down. A consequence was that I was not in REALITY happy . The Other thing was the emerging reality and realization , that I would turn into and be percieved as grumpy old etc . So I decided to change smile a lot more , not always follow the expectations if I didnt feel like it , followed simple things like helping my partner out . This process is slow though , and I need time away which fortunately I can get as I work away during the week. I dont have children . Our circumstances are different. When I am with my partner she knows that I am always there for her with best intentions. I have told her I am Transgendered . One last thing is that at this point in time I have been taking hormones for a while and recently the level was increased , I feel a lot better and in tune , more likely to give a big cuddle and mess about as 2 people do.It is liberating in many ways , mentally ,emotionally and sexually
Final thought , Maybe Getting rid of that mental slavery of living to percieved expectations ,can actually free up some vital time for you to express yourself as a happier person to your Partner and children. Must stop now as I have some chores to do in the garden , and get some raspberries picked.