It is in the title! If we cannot get on with each other then what hope have we got with being accepted?.

I admit I can be a pain in the arse but my intentions I like to think are good. I never think of myself and am constantly trying to find ways to make life better for others.

We are a good 30 years behind the gay and lesbian community so whos fault is that? Well only we have the power to change other peoples attitudes and gain acceptance , think about it! No other sod will do it for us.

I get invited to all kinds of things and that includes meetings for transgenders . I sit and I listen to some sitting there moaning about trivial things that a child would shrug off , then I open my mouth when I have heard enough . I tell them so you think the world owes you a favour? Well I tell them it does not , we are who we are just accept it then others will . Does that sound harsh? Well it may sound it but its is feckin true and eventually those people get to realise I was right , I know that because of what I find in my inbox , then I get invited to the next meeting to do it all again. The person who invites me knows I am talking sense other wise they would not invite me.

Be proud be yourself and never ever be ashamed of who you are . One day if you have gained what I have you will look and back and say , that was not so bad but don't expect it to just happen only you can make it happen , if it does not then look in the mirror and just blame the image you can see.

Believe me one day but not in my life time this will happen , transgender will be the norm and not what some see it as today.

Take care and again be proud xx

You are spot on there Chrissy where kids are concerned , I love talking to kids as they are more acceptant than adults.

As for harsh it has been my only way I can make some people understand . They are trans whatever yet they are all younger than me and a darn site better looking than me , they have a lifetime ahead of them and spend it hiding away. I do manage to get them out in the end but it is bloody hard work sometimes.

And I know it is not easy because I have been through it all , but I made it and there is nothing special about me I can assure you . I am not even going to mention my last task I was given to do , it is far to mad to even talk about but even then I did manage make them see sense.

Take care , Julia x

Chrissy . When other trans girls first meet me they most likely think I am harsh , but give me an hour with them then they see the side of me that is soft and caring . I have found over the years it is the only way to make it sink in . I know these girls are having a hard time I change that , I do it through showing them how proud I am and hitting them with facts. I often ask a question such as , would you have rather have been born with no legs? or would you have rather been born in a country where your life expectancy is 10 years old? I always get the same answer and it is always no , I say count yourselves lucky then.

I do also understand some have trouble passing or what some call convincing , I do not consider myself to be convincing and I have no one to convince , do I pass? Yes I pass thousands of people every week , it is all about just blending in with everyone else and I suppose that takes confidence. Most people in this world have thier own problems on thier minds to be concerned about other peoples lives , ok there are transphobic idiots around who just love to make life hard , I know I have had to deal with them I also teach others how to do it , no person taught me though I learned the hard way.

I started this thread because I am leaving GS and I just thought if we cannot get on with each other (meaning members not you) then as it says what hope have we got? . My harsh talking at times has a motive and that is to make others understand . There is nothing special about myself and I have no special powers , if I can do it I am sure anyone can and I done it very alone at the start.

But through it all others do realise my heart really is in the right place even if it does take some time and I have to bare my soul to them.

For a person like me to have been through all I have in my life ?(and I am not alone others go through it too) but me even missing out on an education because of who I am I think I have done fairly well , I just wish like most of us do I was younger , 56 next month and liars still say I look in my late 30s to early 40s . I should officialy look about 129 after the life I have had.

Hugs , Julia xx