That was a really nice post Lesley. I think you have found the place you were looking for, even if you didn't know you were looking. This place is a wonderful place to to find, and make friends, and get support also. I hope you like it here, and I look forward to bumping into you, and hopfully getting to know you better.
An interesting post Lesley, and it is always complicated when children enter your life. But have you asked yourself why can't you still be feminine and a parent. There are plenty of same sex couples who are just that and their children grow up perfectly normal.
To use myself as an example, I have children, the youngest of which is just about to turn six and I am still married to my wife. Of course, there are hiccups, for example at parent/school meetings as everyone expects a man and a woman to show up, but this has not had any effect on my children. My 9 year old has her friends for sleepovers etc just like any normal girl her age and they are both excelling in school. Their friends are initially surprised to not find a 'dad' but that lasts about 5 minutes and they then forget all about it. Their friend just has two 'mums' instead.
I only post this as I cannot imagine having to continue to live a 'false life' instead of being who you want to be. As we always say here, once the genie is out of the bottle you cannot put her back, and do you really want to do that and live a duel life?
It's very difficult, as I know only too well, because I'm sure you quite rightly put your family before yourself, which is as it should be in my opinion, and only you can decide what the best way forward is. But whatever the future holds, I hope you and your family are very happy.
Hi Lesley, your wife will, of course, be key in working through this. Whatever path you choose, I wish you the very best.
Hello, Lesley, and a very big welcome. Be true to yourself, but never forget theother people in your marriage!
Best to you and your family.
Hugs,
Amanda
Hi Lesley. Welcome to GS. Thank you for sharing your story. By the sound of it this has already been a long road for you and the fact your wife knows and has been open and even supported you some I'd think is a good sign for you both regarding your future. You are lovely too and I adore that open shoulder top!! hugs Jessica
Thank you Jessica! Girl you look gorgeous! You have some fun pics.
I didn't realize the journey I'd been on until I wrote it down. Certainly, I lived it and knew all of that had happened, but it wasn't until I wrote it down that I realized how much I had experienced.
There are some changes going on in our lives that have made me question why I was clinging to a male identity so readily. My wife and I are on a bit of kick to get back to our old ways of being girlfriends! Our son is now four years old and he does not even care that I present as a woman at certain parts of the day.
That picture is from a great night we had where we stayed up far too late and had romance planned, but instead we talked about our future for hours! It was a great night.
Hugs...Lesley
Lesly,
I find your story so touching. I very much wish my ex-wife had been as supportive, your wife sounds like an angel.
I wish my story was similar to yours, in your shoes with all that support I'd like to think that I'd have been living full time years ago, but instead fear pins me down.
Certainly I'm in no possition to give advice apart from this, whatever you do to make your family happy, make sure you are one of the happy ones too.
Katja x
This is... touching to say the least, a very heart warming yet also pythotic story. It would make an interesting book you could call it "labelless", with the right wording it could make a brilliant emotion based tale of discuvery like the bit in Frankenstine when the monster regales his life.
Now on a less serious note:
ummmmmm, satin panties...
Katja Brandt said:Lesly,
I find your story so touching. I very much wish my ex-wife had been as supportive, your wife sounds like an angel.
I wish my story was similar to yours, in your shoes with all that support I'd like to think that I'd have been living full time years ago, but instead fear pins me down.
Certainly I'm in no possition to give advice apart from this, whatever you do to make your family happy, make sure you are one of the happy ones too.
Katja x
Rebecca Bryan said:This is... touching to say the least, a very heart warming yet also pythotic story. It would make an interesting book you could call it "labelless", with the right wording it could make a brilliant emotion based tale of discuvery like the bit in Frankenstine when the monster regales his life.
Now on a less serious note:
ummmmmm, satin panties...