OMG, you have soooooooo nailed it! (smile) Truly you must act like you belong on this planet as much as anyone else without wavering or doubting yourself!
Yes, voice is a huge challenge, but not a big as we all fear initially...at worst, like yourself, just learn to string your words in a sing song manner. For me, without coaching, I have learned to speak "softer" with inflection. It seems to work.
The last and perhaps the biggest thing you can do to pass is invest in permanent facial hair removal. It is called electrolysis. It is expensive, time consuming, and at times, painful. That said, to not have to apply makeup to cover shadow or worry about hair nubs after a full day of living, is liberating. I am not finished but can go 48 hours without any trace...I'll shave whatever is emerging on the third day and I'm good for two more days...where it gets challenging is when I have scheduled a session and have to let it grow for 5 or 6 days, hence I cannot live full time year round...but it is something that I say is a MUST!
Robin, you're awesome and give me too much credit for your accomplishments. It was all you GF, I just was there for you...I always will be!
Fondly,
Traci xoxo
Robin & Traci, you are both amazing people, I have been here on GS a while and seen you both evolve, what you both have achieved is astounding, each doing it your own way. I need nothing from this site personally, apart from the desire to help where I can, from my own experiences, some things I have done, the seedy side of my life in the past, but I have achieved so much, after a pretty rotten childhood. Some people don't like me or trust me, think I'm a fake because I don't mix with some of the more outlandish types, been there and done that, but what the FK do I care, some envy me because I look not half bad. but I'm the one with the law degree now, contentment and confidence through perserverence, even if my voice sounds like a bag of spanners. ust plod on enjoy the real you.
All of this: Confidence, Beliving in yourself.
I had a really bad life before. Once I came out, sure there are some haters, some stares, some harassment - but: I meet many friendly people, a few guys hitting on me, elderly men holding a door and winking, and women asking me for fashion tips or literally asking me to help them pick out a clothing gift for their family member.
My voice is still my worst tell, I'm still trying to learn the inflections. But - confidence: my new friends rely on me, my female friends look to me for strength, think of me as "Thank goodness Anna is here with those rough-looking people", etcetera. I'm a big girl, and I just do what I want - bold makeup, heels or wedgies, anime-style hair, a lip piercing. Some people are scared of me, some nasty people stare, but I was never liked or respected in my old life either, and now I like and respect *myself*.
As far as other less discerning people, get yourself one of these,
Great idea! XD "Captain, IDGAF is at full charge!"
My meter is stuck on "I don't give a f*ck"! Must be broken! LOL
xoxox