August 12, 2006 11:10 AM BST
OK Wendy, there was a good point in your post, if Diane has posted in an inappropriate forum, then where should she post it ?
I am not clear why posting in a members only forum would avoid underage readers, is it not possible to be a full member under age ?
And of course as Diane is not a full member, this would not help her anyway, though I would hope that given the level of quality advice she is getting here, she would now consider joining
A forum, available to anyone, but for explicit subject material seems to be the way to go. After all, if anyone reads anything in there that offends them, they have only themselves to blame.
If such a forum were created, this post should be moved there rather than deleted, because despite its explicit content, it contains some valuable information for everyone.
Diane could of course have been more subtle obout how she worded this, but this is just her MO, and I don't think she should be attacked for that. If she cannot turn to us for help, then where can she go.
I am glad that this post has survived, I think in this PC world of 2006 we are all too ready to wield the sword of censorship and forget that freedom of expression and freedom of speech are rights that get trampled all over. Put it in a clearly marked explicit chat to avoid offending anyone.
How about we put it to the vote ?
August 12, 2006 11:45 AM BST
Is anyone really this puritanical in this day and age ?
August 12, 2006 12:19 PM BST
Perhaps there is some real problem with companies like paypal and others. But why ? Isn't that exactly because of the "puritanical" view - the lack of any differentiating ability: sex=filth ? Logical in a way, of course: Being absolutely pure on the outside, while at the same time locking up a pile of shit on the inside.
August 12, 2006 2:11 PM BST
Hi Karen, that kind of reinforces my point, if it were in a public forum, but one CLEARLY marked to contain explicit posts, then surely we could have this kind of chat without offending anyone
August 12, 2006 8:58 PM BST
I just really still think that someone with two brain cells to rub together should be able to see that this site does not exist for the purpose of sharing or fueling sexual or fetishistic fantasies. Oh, I'm sorry, I forgot that we were talking about someone who, in 2006, is considering unprotected sex with a stranger.
I hope to recommend that the original post in the thread be at least edited for content, but that the discussion it stimulated, containing so much valuable information, be preserved.
August 12, 2006 10:13 PM BST
Wendy,
stupidity may to some extent be a question of circumstance too. Fear tends to make people stupid. Why do so many women stay in abusive relationships ? I really find it too easy to say it's simply a question of stupidity. They may act stupidly, but out of fear - from real or imagined threats of violence.
I did in fact try to point out this difference to Ziggy (i was a new member and still thought i could make him see a certain kind of reason) He was talking down some ts girl he knew - as she had been voting for the British National Party. Stupidity pure and simple according to him. And of course, he was right, the act as such was stupid. But there could be more than one reason for acting stupidly. Fear, first of all. And feeling safe depends on a number of social factors - like if any one at all cares.
August 12, 2006 11:07 PM BST
Whether it is the act or the person that is stupid matters little. Those who practice unprotected sex with strangers in this day and age may, themselves, well be examples of Darwinism of a sort.
August 12, 2006 11:12 PM BST
Sometimes....people confuse IGNORANCE as STUPIDITY. It's isn't.
Very good point. Why is everyone so astounded that Diane doesn't have the experience to tell her the risks of unprotected sex? Many of us pre-transition were so adverse to our old bodies and the outie we got stuck with that we stayed out of relationships altogether, and had no need to pay attention to the sex ed of our time. So the teenage voyage of discovery comes much later.
Of course, everyone's experiences are different, but I'd think that at least a few of us would remember that.
August 12, 2006 11:19 PM BST
But then Karen did in fact show that she cared too:
I'm sorry & please don't take this wrong.
This should not be posted in a public forum for any to see.
It's not that I see anything wrong with what you want to do. I don't. I just think you used a little to much detail for the public to read here.
If the thread had been deleted after the first post - as suggested by one member here - then she would never have experienced that. And the fact that she did may well have helped her with calming down a bit and take in the advice she was given.
I should mention perhaps that in my book the adherence to social darwinism spells NAZI MENTALITY.
August 13, 2006 7:24 PM BST
Omg don’t we seem to have lost the plot here and started to concentrate on bickering between our selves.
I am lost at the insulting inferences and oxymoronic discussion going on here with little to no bearing on the original post.
What is really going on here …….if had been me making the original post I would be asking myself if my peers are even fit to question me after this.
This seem to happen all to often now !!!!!
August 13, 2006 11:23 PM BST
Tori,
It dose not matter whose opinion is right or wrong as every one has one but, being condescending is inappropriate. Your comments are basically an echo of what every one including my self has said. Re-enforcement is a positive action; derogatory words are miss-placed and negative as it will drive a defensive posture and your point is lost in the wording along with the good intent.
Please don’t think I am against you in fact I commend you statement that unprotected intercourse is extremely ill advised as most STD / HIV / AIDS carriers don’t even know that have it until the physical signs show themselves and by then it is way to late. Many of them will have transmitted the infection to others where it will incubate and grow in the new host. The time frame could range from almost immediate knowledge to many years before knowing you have an infection.
Sara’s tip on STD / HIV / AIDS
Test after each and every partner ……..protect your own life and heath with a condom.
August 13, 2006 11:40 PM BST
I would have to disagree with you there, Sara. I think Tori's comments are entirely appropriate for her purpose. Condescending and degrading shit talk is exactly what may be needed to drive off unwanted and "subhuman" elements. Some people, if they are scared, insecure or stupid enough will undeservedly take her words into their hearts, i'm sure. And at least in the view of some people the world will have become a cleaner and better place, in good keeping with the very best social darwinist traditions.
August 13, 2006 11:47 PM BST
just the answer i would expect from you Sbrina oh well some things never change
August 14, 2006 12:14 AM BST
Tori tried to do much the same thing with me only a few weeks ago - drive me away. And it could seem it was about some sex related issue then too, way back in march. And i was not the one posting "explicit" material. In fact, i was accused of driving away the member doing that. She seemed to have the same victorian sex=shit view as Tori. Well... at least she was open about the possible reason for it.
So, you're right, some things do not change. The same obsession with shit appear again. If you read my first post on this thread i simply tried to ask Diane to think. My impression was that she did.
And it's not true that Tori was simply "echoing" the opinions of everyone else here. In her first post she really said Diane deserved no answer. And some of the other comments imply that she just don't care if some of the girls coming here live or die. Tori has a right to her opinion of course, and i would think i had the same. But then again, I could be wrong, as always.
August 14, 2006 12:46 AM BST
I also find it quite interesting, Sara, that you were the one giving this thread a new negative turn after Karen's positive comment to me. I doubt Tori would have made hers without your intro, and Karens saddened answer. And then i would not have made mine to Tori. I'm sure you made your comment with the very best of intentions though, and with not too much thought for how Karen might feel. In my view, what she told us on another thread today show the same responsive and caring attitude.
August 14, 2006 3:47 AM BST
Where HIV is concerned, testing after each partner is of little use, as the virus can take an average of six months to germinate. So, in fact, prevention is the ONLY and best means of protection.
I was involved in public education efforts with the Health Education Resource Organization in Baltimore some twenty years ago, and it is apparent that though these efforts have been successful to some degree, it is an ongoing thing. Just because the information is available, doesn't mean that people actually access or assimilate it.
While specific knowledge about such aspects as germination time, etc. may not be common, one thing is pretty much common knowledge. Use of condoms is the essential element and the first and best line of defense against the virus, and to ignore or deny this and engage in unprotected sex with strangers is a dangerous and foolhardy pursuit.
No matter how it has been expressed in this thread, it has been in the spirit of providing the best possible advice to this misguided soul who initiated it. I don't think that anyone wants to see Diane suffer any negative consequence from her actions. On this we all agree, so let's all just mellow out and feel secure in the knowledge that together we have fulfilled the principle mission of support that characterizes Trannyweb.
Let's move on to some other thread where we can find something new to lock horns over. I'm starting to think that this one might be headed for suspension.
August 14, 2006 10:08 AM BST
Robyn I whole heartedly agree with you that the best line of defense is knowledge and a condom, as you say it has obviously been re-enforced by many here in different ways. I also agree that periodic testing is not that helpful it you are going to sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry on the block in a short time frame but if you go positive at least you have an idea of how many people you may have passed it on to in the gestation time frame.
Dianne has inferred a couple of times she knows this person quite well and he is not a stranger to her which is commendable in the fact that she is not picking up a stranger to her.
Oh well it is time for work and I don’t want to be misunderstood again so I am going to let it go.
Sara
August 14, 2006 1:06 PM BST
I agree with you, Tori. My impression was that the first post here could have been written by a fetishistic fantasist, or even a sadistic hypocrite bastard posing as a fetishistic fantasist just for the fun of it. Still, i thought, there is some chance it simply was the true expression of a scared and confused girl. Now, if it really were posted by a fetishistic fantasist or someone posing as such it could lead to a interesting result anyway, that's how i saw it. And i'd say i was right.
August 14, 2006 1:24 PM BST
And like i said on another thread yesterday - the good thing is that, all in all, the world becomes a better place. For certain sadistic hypocrite bastards anyway. I must admit i wondered about that thread too - it could possibly have been started by someone posing as an HRT fetishist. We can never really know. That's why the chatroom could have been such a good help with keeping this place safe from sadistic hypocrite bastards. Could have been, if it weren't for the fact that it seems to work as some kind of bastard hypocrite network. Well, i just don't take part in that.
August 14, 2006 4:47 PM BST
in case you girls are wondering I AN FOR REAL......IM NOT BAITING ANYONE.....my cry was for help at a pivital time last week when i was making my decision whether or not to have bareback sex with my man. my head was spinning i wanted him so......all of your posts were terrific in helping me make THE RIGHT DECISION.......we met had great sex.......ALL BECAUSE OF YOU GIRLS HERE ON THE TRANNYWEB...i told him sunday NO CONDOM NO SEX........that was right after i closed the motel door to his room and he started kissing me deeply and unbuttoning my
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.....i shoved him back and laid out the ground rules..........YOU GIRLS SAVED MY LIFE.....soometimes its not easy to make the right decision and your heads swimimming with love and sex and wanting him inside you so bad........i knew that he should use a condom but i wanted his.....
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.....i am very graphic in my descriptions THATS THE WAY I AM.......ABOUT LOVE, AND LIFE.......im not trying to be pornoigrahic.......and another thing ....i cant imagine why kids would be onb this site anyway unless they were teens and having a transgender problem.......and sex is all part of that......on the other hand there are people who woulds exploit this site I AM NOT ONE OF THEM.........i have been a tranny since i was 18 im now 50.......im pre-opt.....the only male thing about me is between my legs...and its always been a plus for my man to have both sides of the sexual encounter.......he loves the (2-fold)sexy bazaar part of being a tranny....it heightens out love making sessions......again thanks for all the advice and response on my thread........i love you girls .....and you are so articulate......and loving..........dont be unset with my exlicit descriptions thats just the way i am.......it makes diane who i want to be......again this weekend was a torrid, exciting, safe, forbidden, and midblowing sexual encounter with a man who really opened up my trannyness and i enjoyed every moment..(that is after your advice about condoms brought me back down to earth)....kisses everyone diane
August 14, 2006 7:50 PM BST
katie.......im new to posting thrwads here and i guess i picked the wrong one......im not ready to become a full time member but i have learnbed quite a bit my tranny girfriends here...THEY CARE ABOUT ME AND MY LIFE AS A TRANNY......whether or not they agree about my writing style or not.......i didnt mean to create a problem, but i did think that since this is a tranny site i could bve more liberal with my descriptions of real happenings in my recent life......i mean being a tranny is not the norm....most people would and do consider us freaks or crazy or in need of counseling......which we DONT of course........being a real tranny is a great relief to express your feminiity without the ridicule from the outside uninformed and uncaring world. these forums here need to deal directly with the problems we face as trannys....most oif it dealing with misunderstanding and sexual prowess....or realationships with real men......(whichk a lot of us especially me) enjoys a great deal........there is no feeling in the world that can compare to the man you love loving you as a woman or entering you as a woman...or pleasing you as a woman....its an extroadinary feeling.....sex is much better as a tranny and i experienced that firsat hand this weekend with my loverxxxxxxxxxxxxxkisses diane
August 14, 2006 8:04 PM BST
one more thing katie........since anal entry is the sexual normal for us trannygirls......i think it would also be a great idea to cover the subject of getting to have it.....and how to have it.......also covering the many creams lotions and other products that make anal sex so great........also the proper techniques that will help our lovers to absolutely blow our tranny minds...if its done properly and gently and with love........all of this has to be covered too......its our way of being totally satisfied as a tranny.....its not just the clothes or makeup or heels.......it finally will boil down to i want my man all the way...NOW HOW DO I DO IT....AND ENJOY IT...............diane
August 14, 2006 10:58 PM BST
Hm, this is new to me. I mean, there's nothing wrong with anal sex as such, but is this really normal ? My impression was that most transvestites were pretty satisified, happy even with being males - sexually ? In fact, i seem to remember several members of this site referring to themselves as simply "blokes in dresses" ? Of course, there are a pretty large group of gays among transvestites too - say 10% or so - like in the population at large. And then there is the pretty small group of transsexuals identifying as women. But surely, most transvestites are pretty normal heterosexual guys ? Well, i guess we never really can know these days.
Still, my impression is that "Diane" must have got this thing with the number of gay or bi transvestites the wrong way somehow ? And her posts do seem a bit obsessive, reminds me even of the departed member i referred to in a previous post on this thread. He was pretty obsessed with this anal and oral thing too. But he was an absolutely normal heterosexual guy ? I have wondered about that sometimes. Why is it that some normal heterosexual guys still give the impression of being obsessed with normal homosexual gays ? Could there be some similar thing with normal heterosexual transvestites and normal homosexual transvestites ?
August 14, 2006 11:43 PM BST
Well, I must agree with Joni. Though we often disagree, and sometimes even bicker, I know that any one of my sisters on this site would walk over hot coals for me, and in fact, some of them have. I would do the same for any of them, as well. After all is said and done, we are all here to celebrate our similarities, not to emphasize our differences.
August 15, 2006 1:19 AM BST
Again with the labels. Why not dispense with the "hetero, homo, bi" prefixes and just be sexual. If, of course, that's what one fancies.
August 15, 2006 1:30 AM BST
Safely, of course.
August 24, 2006 9:50 AM BST
M/A i think that would make me lucky, if i was unattached.
August 24, 2006 10:14 AM BST
I had only once a man as a pre-op. And I did not like it, because he was too interested in my male parts, which I hated myself. So I decided not to have anyone before my SRS. After my SRS I have had altogether 14 men, I just counted them and most of them didn´t even know my trans background. among them one medical doctor...
And I don´t actually like to be counted into the tranny cathegory or meet admirers. I don´t know why but I don´t like to be admired for the past I would like to forget myself.
Laura
September 20, 2006 4:06 PM BST
Good point, Wendy, and sage advice.
I thought Thrush was the evil organization from the "Man From U.N.C.L.E."