March 27, 2008 12:54 AM GMT
Hi!
Lol, marsha, the curse of straight hair! I’ve got collar length very curly hair. No worries. Its head in the shower, towel dry and say ‘Thank God for L’Oreal Curl Power Recurling mousse!’ - 5 minutes, job done. [mmm, still got a segment of male psyche trapped in there methinks…]
I think the original question was passing in ‘normal everyday’ mode. For me its easier than most as I’m not trying to ‘pass’ as such. Being both, I just want to express the female attributes of my body and celebrate that large aspect of me. So – at this stage – all I’m trying to achieve is ‘being me’.
And there are two prime components to that. First, mentioned on this board so many times, is confidence and attitude. You believe in yourself and your right to be yourself no matter what. And that confidence makes you shine.
The second is just as important. It’s a word that should be plastered all over this site. Deportment. How you carry yourself, how you move. My sister used to be a model and, bless her, gave me lessons on how I should move. Men naturally slouch, and so did I.
She taught me the basics – which we all know in the back of our minds but rarely practice. Shoulders straight and pulled back, breasts forward, stomach in, bum out. That’s it. It soon becomes second nature and will start to readdress how you walk – less male heavy footedness and more female grace. Even in almost entirely male drab you still feel more feminine and your fellow females will pick up on it and recognise you. [Granted, being born with breasts sort of helps on that score…
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Just my thoughts.
Much love
Rae xx
March 29, 2008 2:33 PM GMT
It's not that difficult really is it? Just be yourself, dress appropriately and don't overdo the make up either. Then hold your head high, present yourself as a confident woman, and you won't have any difficulties.
It works for me.
As far as dimly lit clubs go, I have never even been to one.
Nikki
March 31, 2008 10:57 AM BST
"perhaps we shouldn't overly worry if we can't completely pass provided we are treated with tolerance and respect. "
Exactly!
Nikki