Hiya, Interesting thread and lots of good advice :)
For me, it doesnt matter how much or how little I attempt "to pass" I have found there are always going to be people who understand the nature of person I am. So try not to get too disappointed if you spend hours making yourself look nice and everyone clocks you all day long.
The thing that matters to me is if they are going to respect me as a human being. Most people do and are very polite and sometimes it gets embarrassing, especially when a woman came up to me and shook my hand and said she respects me for what I was doing. To the other end of the scale where I have been called a freak, pervert and other names. Its part of life sadly and it is something we need to accept if we are to live as our true selves.
There is an element which I call the "credibility factor" to which I think transgender people are more critical about than the general public. For example, a transgendered individual wearing stockings, 6" heals, mini, basketballs for boobs and a Marilyn Munroe wig in a supermarket would not have much "credibility" from the general public and even less from other transgendered people. However, for me, I would enjoy giving this individual my respect and their freedom to enjoy their experience shopping at the supermarket without my criticism.
I have developed my identity, sense of self and I am very comfortable. I usually wear all black. Long frilly sleeved blouses, studded leather jacket and gothic makeup. I never blend into the crowd (unless im with a horde of my friends.) People either respect me as a human being or they dont.
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Penny
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