December 3, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
'Our' T-World is nothing more than a microcosm of the big, bad(?),world outside.Just as,outside,there are those who consider themselves by virtue of birth,school,university,bank account/share options,who they know,etc. etc. to be able to look down upon the common masses, so there are T-Girls who ,by virtue of 'the Op',-"performed by Dr. A----,anyone else is just a butcher....."-consider themselves to be something 'better'.For some of them,in the figurative sense,corpses line their path- family,friends etc. I hope I'm wildly wrong here but, resulting from some proposed amendments to the Transsexual Law in Germany which were made ,a good few years ago now, by some T-Girl or other, I have the impression that some of this 'snobishness' is a mask for a massive chip on someone's shoulder: - a T-Girl who has burnt all her bridges,spared no cost on HRT,FFS,SRS,and still doesn't feel socially accepted looks down on a T-Girl who,for whatever reason,has turned down one or more of the treatments on offer and yet is socially integrated,accepted etc. etc. as a WOMAN-whether full-time or not. I have to add that the proposed change was on the lines of - ' SRS to take place inside a year following the 2 year real-life test.Should the SRS not take place, the patient reverts to the status quo ante i.e. reverts to his/her original,biological, sex..............' Just savour the prospect and the ramifications for a minute..... To my mind,only someone with a massive chip on their shoulder could dream up something like this. Luckily the idea disappeared without trace.In the support-group I belonged to at the time there was a lot of head shaking over this.
Otherwise? Well,if we're all honest with ourselves,in whatever walk of life we find ourselves we've almost certainly crossed the paths of people who've left us thinking-"there ,but for the grace of God, go I............"
ciao
Lynn H.
December 3, 2008 4:35 PM GMT
Wow Lynn, that is just too wild. I had never heard about that crazy idea of forcing those transitioning back if they didn't complete a full transition within a given time. OMG! The other crazy stuff like specific dr.'s and of course you must have SRS I have heard numerous times over the years. Now I have always avidly expressed myself that we should blend with society, yet I would never advocate mandatory procedures or behavior. For that matter I am anti HBSOC or now to sound more official the WPATH Standards of Care. I often feel some believe I look down on various tg groups and I disagree with that idea. I don't see anyone as lesser or even better, I see them as different and I believe there is a huge difference between the two. I do believe "some" individual behavior in one group can adversely effect another group. Again, that is individual behavior, definitely not everyone within a group.
Hugs,
Marsha
December 3, 2008 7:40 PM GMT
Of course there is another aspect to this, lol (TUT after me saying no more posts on this subject) refering to Lynns last post,
The fact we the UK are members of the European Rights Act, If they made it the law in Germany. would that then force the NHS here in the UK to expedite and offer Surgery imediately after the two year, life qualifying period, Where as at the moment it can go on for years and years, before being offered, The offer being subject to goverment funding, budgets and places in theatres being available as it is at the moment. Would it entitle everyone to the right for GRS as soon as they had served their time so as to speak. Also would there have to be qualifying rules as well, ie. one would have to attain a certain bust size, voice training, all the other things one has to take into account, failing these would a girl be disqualified from surgery and forced to regress.
I know this does'nt exactly satisfy the question of what realy happens to those that don't wish to make the ultimate change or those that when it comes to the crunch for medical reasons can't proceed.
Rather a conundrum.
PS, should have started another thread for this one lol
December 3, 2008 9:59 PM GMT
I wonder if there would have been any legal recourse if you wanted SRS and they could not supply it in the proper time frame. Is there a money back guarantee or something. I bet whoever came up with that crazy idea really patted themselves on the back for that one. Makes you wonder what else they have suggested. They probably suggested the caution label on my Skintimate shaving gel that says "Discard can upon rusting." There are things I haven't done in awhile that i'm kind of rusty at, are they talking about me? Obviously they are talking about the can but isn't tossing it already a given? And if the can has been around long enough to rust, don't you think the person has other issues?
Back to what Cristine said about boob size, what if one was large enough and the other was just under, do you get any credit or do you face a mandatory scalpal? And omg, what about those hair challenged gals. Does having too much of a receding hairline or being bald actually mean you were never meant to be a woman in the first place? And if you didn't have SRS because you couldn't get a surgeon in time, what makes them feel they could find a surgeon for the required masectomy in a reasonable time, or mabye just train that person to do SRS?
And finally bringing this back to the original topic. CD/TV's, you are so lucky you don't have to deal with the controlling idiots many of us TS's face during our transition. So smile, be happy, enjoy what you are doing and say thank god I don't have to deal with that crap.
Hugs,
Marsha
December 10, 2008 6:19 PM GMT
Christine,
The 'Transsexual Law' here in Germany lays down guidelines,amongst other things for change of name, and therefore only applies to german nationals. The EU has nothing to say here.Interestingly,the german constitutional court recently nullified the clause requiring married couples to divorce since the legalisation of same-sex marriages had made it obsolete.
I've just amused myself by trying to imagine what a TG 'caste system' might look like.................................................................
The 'primary' TS looks down the nose at the 'secondary' TS,and both of them look down their noses at the TS who doesn't want SRS.All three look down their noses at the CD,and all four look down on the TV.All five then look down on the fetishist.All six of them look down on she-males and anyone else in the sex industry.................................................
This is all of the top of my head so I'll be interested to see the comments,amendments etc etc.
ciao
Lynn H.
December 10, 2008 8:46 PM GMT
Lynn xxx
I was actually infering that whatever the German or French goverments adopt the appeasing arse kissing UK goverment would take on board imediately, lol
The Baaaaaaaaaaah syndrome.
But was an excellent point you made about newbies.
December 12, 2008 3:49 AM GMT
I've been holding my tongue on this for a bit, to give this thread time to really develop, and it's been very interesting. Now, however, as a nod to my job as a forum moderator (not administrator) I would like to point out that the CD's can "look down" on TS. As sole evidence for this statement I submit this link.
http://www.tri-ess.org/
"An international social and support group for heterosexual crossdressers, their partners, the spouses of married crossdressers and their families."
This organization, which performs a valuable service to the TG community, was set up in such a way as to make it clear that it's members, while wishing at times to dress en femme, were in no way "gay" or "transsexual". Such transgendered persons are clearly excluded from membership by the above description.
My point is....even if SOME TS persons view CD's as "lesser" or as unclean in some way, clearly this feeling also goes the other way, at least in the case of this organization. Let's be fair. An openly TS person would never make it past the initial, private interview for membership according to the organization's self-proclaimed statement of purpose. Now I have heard that this is not always true in actuality, and it's not an attack on those of our sisters who strongly feel the need to maintain a high degree of secrecy and a clear distinction as to their proclivities. "I like to wear a lovely frock as much as the next man but I'm not the slightest bit gay." Lord knows, I had been with the terrified-someone-will-find-out group most of my life. I applaud those T-Girls for pushing their limits of comfort in joining Tri-Ess. I merely want to point out that people feel a certain way and they are entitled. It is when those feelings impinge on the rights of others that I object. Live and Let Live. Stay out of my vegetable garden even if you believe everyone should be a carnivore. (Before I get dinged for THAT, let me say I am a big supporter of predatory animals as part of a balanced eco-system and I admire vegetarians for their efforts in living by their beliefs....just leave my hamburger and beef-tallow-fried, large-cut, french fries alone.)
December 12, 2008 1:26 PM GMT
Wendy,
whilst not wishing to takes sides for or against Tri-Ess,I think it's necessary to remember that,like the Beaumont Society in the UK,Tri-Ess was formed,I believe,in a time when to be gay really was socially beyond the pale for most people,and in most places even illegal.I think the Beaumonts have arrived in the 21st century,whereas it would seem that Tri-Ess is still struggling to get beyond,say,1968!You in the US obviously know much more about your prevailing social climate than I do,but I would suggest that it's up to you(collectively) to drag Tri-Ess,kicking and screaming if necessary,into 21st century reality.
Have a nice day!
Lynn H.
December 12, 2008 6:02 PM GMT
Wendy, and Lynn....
I'd be a little hesitant is condemning Tri-ess as "looking down at TS's". I am not a member of Tri-ess myself, but am definitely a heterosexual CD, with no pretensions to ever transition. But there is a need for an organization that is just for non-TS CD's, I think. Trannyweb here is enough for me, and I get a lot of ideas, helps, and information from this website. But you must admit that the general emphasis of Trannyweb is for TS members, with CD's the minor players, so to speak.
I imagine Tri-ess is a group where members can discuss dressing, behavior, and activities without having to sift through lots of input about hormones, SRS, transitioning, etc.
As a CD, yes, I feel like a minor member of Trannyweb, because much more than half of the information and discussion here has nothing to do with my situation. When dressed, I feel like a woman, but never other times. I am happy to share my experiences with others, but since I am an absolute part-timer, most TS's don't have much interest in my input. There are probably many CD's who feel the same way, so it's ok for them to have their own club, don't you think?
If the Gay community belittled Trannyweb for not including gays who don't crossdress, wouldn't you think that was a little unfeeling? Come on, just let's all live and let live! I will continue to read the great discussions here in the forum, but I won't try to change the aims of anybody else's organization if they find it suits them.
Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukkah, and Enjoyable Holiday Season to Everyone!
Karin