"but I would suggest that it's up to you(collectively) to drag Tri-Ess,kicking and screaming if necessary,into 21st century reality'does a great job explaining the differences between Europe and the United States. The freedom we have in the U.S. is the ability to speak with our support and dollars. Should they continue to do things that their members don't like, then they will simply lose members and cease to exist. Why drag them anywhere? Nobody is forced to be a member and there are various other TG organizations that meet various needs.
Oh dear afterall this, now go and see man in frock thread, If somone genuinely believes somuone is being an idiot, call them an idiot, nieve, stupid, say that, don't put them down by calling them a man in a frock. Which was what a very dear lady who is genuinely undergoing transitioniong, was called because someone disagreed with her view, The someone being So called post op, who should be one of the first to understand just how hurtful and disgusting a remark like that is. Now someone I enjoyed chatting to, a very interlectual and lovely person does'nt come to TW anymore.
So we do have differences, there are people one does't hit it off with, but one should never, ever, ever demean someone in a comunity like ours with remarks solely intended to ridicule and put people down to score points.
Cristine
I have not read this thread because it is to long and I have not got the time , but I am going to put my personal thoughts here on this subject. (Just removed this bit as a promise was made last week) A CD is no different to me because a CD /TV is a human being just as I am .
I will be honest as I always am and say I do not understand the sexual enjoyment some CDs or TVs gets from dressing as a woman but I do like the fact that a male can express their feminine side.
I have seen in my life some very beautiful TVs and CDs and I have to admit I envy them in some way for being able to look so gorgeous "but" looks are not everything in a person its the personality that counts. Some may envy Sheryl Cole as a woman! I don't as I have been in the same room as her and believe me she has no personality at-all. In front of a camera she puts on an act for all to see.
I would like to see a world where we are all equal but I and none of you will its just not going to happen. I am going to take this a step further in my case. I have recently joined again'st my nature a trans dating site as I was alerted to a police officer on there and I have already had him repromanded once as he prays on trans girls , I now have the evidence I need which has been emailed to the person needed to deal with him once and for all hopefully. But being on that site I have struck up an online friendship with a CD and to be honest that person is a very thoughtful careing person with a personality.
I will be leaving that site now as I have the evidence I need but I will stay in touch with that person as a friend. If I was thinking about getting involved with someone (which I am not) That person would be a good candidate for who they are not what they are. I have mentioned in previous threads about being ashamed of being transgender. That means all in that group of labels. No person should ever be ashamed of being yourself.
I buy shoes from shoe shops , I have size 9 feet but I like to try them on before I buy them so online is out of the question same with clothes. The manageress has told me a certian man goes into that shop and picks a pair of size 11 womens shoes puts them on the counter without speaking then as soon as the security tag is removed puts the exact money on the counter and runs out of the door.
I find that sad in todays world. He is obviously either a CD or TV because he has facial hair unless we now have TS's with facial hair , I don't think a TS would be able to live a true female life with facial hair though because any TS will tell you it is the worst thing you can look at in the mirror.
On that site I mentioned . They call CDs hairy pantie wearers! Oh they must itch something terrible . Imagine hairs in your knickers . Seriously though its an awefull term to use.
In my life I have come accross all kinds of people and for all of their different labels to me they are all humans and we should treat them all with the same respect .
Also in my life I have passionatly kissed females and although I spent 23 years with one it realy does nothing for me . I have also passionately kissed a male and it done a bit more untill his hand went straight between my legs then I pushed him away . He was well aware what was there.
To sum this up I believe if there were a person I would have ever got involved with (excluding my 23 year mistake) I honestly think a CD or TV would be a perfect partner and here is the reason why.
They look at things from both sides of the coin or should I say gender. I think that is a quality most of us TS's can never have , being able to experience two genders . Ok we started off as males but never thought as one in mind. CD/ TV / TS All 3 are human beings and I for one would never look down on the first 2 just because I am TS . There are a few TS's who have their heads so far up their own rear end I often wonder how they see where they are going. Julia.