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  • 06 Dec 2008
    Gosh, I was once a Lady-in-Waiting and now I’m Just-a-Girl again. What did I do (or not do) to deserve that I wonder? Memo to self. Must try softer….
    636 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • Gosh, I was once a Lady-in-Waiting and now I’m Just-a-Girl again. What did I do (or not do) to deserve that I wonder? Memo to self. Must try softer….
    Dec 06, 2008 636
  • 02 Dec 2008
    I’m so much in the closet that I think I risk becoming a coat hanger. Perhaps this is why I am feeling so hung-up? To my embarrassment I have never held a physical conversation with a transgendered person, never offered them support, I have never had the opportunity to explain to them that I may understand, and have never been able to offer a supportive hug. Recently, whilst visiting Leicester I witnessed a tgirl receiving verbal abuse from a pair of lads. I refrain from calling them oafs or even worse. They weren’t being too sinister, just boorish. She gave as good as she got, retained her composure and lived her life. I’m British, conservative and restrained, so I witnessed, reflected, formed an opinion and then ultimately did ‘sod all. So I suppose that this is a bit of a fable. If I’d have crossed the road and offered a brief word of support, I might perhaps have gained a significant amount in the process. It’s possible that I might have broken down first, or perhaps already threatened the tgirl might have lashed out at me – assuming I was a further menace, and given me a good seeing to. But seemingly doing nothing is my forte, so that I did. If she was you I offer my apologies for being a coat-hanger and not a gallant supporter. Should you see me this week, then please cross the street and give me a kick up the backside (the hug can follow), you’ll spot me, I’ll be wearing a wardrobe.
    626 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • I’m so much in the closet that I think I risk becoming a coat hanger. Perhaps this is why I am feeling so hung-up? To my embarrassment I have never held a physical conversation with a transgendered person, never offered them support, I have never had the opportunity to explain to them that I may understand, and have never been able to offer a supportive hug. Recently, whilst visiting Leicester I witnessed a tgirl receiving verbal abuse from a pair of lads. I refrain from calling them oafs or even worse. They weren’t being too sinister, just boorish. She gave as good as she got, retained her composure and lived her life. I’m British, conservative and restrained, so I witnessed, reflected, formed an opinion and then ultimately did ‘sod all. So I suppose that this is a bit of a fable. If I’d have crossed the road and offered a brief word of support, I might perhaps have gained a significant amount in the process. It’s possible that I might have broken down first, or perhaps already threatened the tgirl might have lashed out at me – assuming I was a further menace, and given me a good seeing to. But seemingly doing nothing is my forte, so that I did. If she was you I offer my apologies for being a coat-hanger and not a gallant supporter. Should you see me this week, then please cross the street and give me a kick up the backside (the hug can follow), you’ll spot me, I’ll be wearing a wardrobe.
    Dec 02, 2008 626
  • 11 Nov 2008
    I’m having one of those days / 24 hours when I wish that I wasn’t. Let’s see whether I am able to construct anything to say without resorting to swearing.. I can’t. You’re saved.
    656 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • I’m having one of those days / 24 hours when I wish that I wasn’t. Let’s see whether I am able to construct anything to say without resorting to swearing.. I can’t. You’re saved.
    Nov 11, 2008 656
  • 07 Nov 2008
    My Victorian sash windows are rattling as a police helicopter hovers overhead and the cheap red wine is softening the edge of my skull so that my brain is losing firmness like a jelly on a warm summer’s day. An evening in but the computer’s cold light provides a little warmth because Tweb flickers back at me. There is place somewhere else where I could dance the night away but my dance floor manoeuvres are flawed by the fact that I would need to leave the privacy of my home and address the city and dodge the rotor blades. That’s a tango too far so I decide to take another gentle sip.
    580 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • My Victorian sash windows are rattling as a police helicopter hovers overhead and the cheap red wine is softening the edge of my skull so that my brain is losing firmness like a jelly on a warm summer’s day. An evening in but the computer’s cold light provides a little warmth because Tweb flickers back at me. There is place somewhere else where I could dance the night away but my dance floor manoeuvres are flawed by the fact that I would need to leave the privacy of my home and address the city and dodge the rotor blades. That’s a tango too far so I decide to take another gentle sip.
    Nov 07, 2008 580
  • 03 Nov 2008
    On Saturday I was able to enjoy some femme time, dressed (down) and doing nothing in particular, the odd chore, reading the paper, etc, just being normal really. But of course it was a snatched three hours stolen from normal life, but the theft was valuable, uplifting and energising. I visited TWeb and drew courage to chat a while. Not that courage is actually necessary to do that, just the free time. It’s only clothes and make-up I know, but the release and benefits one can gain from simply releasing a personality that is mostly constrained are remarkable. A normally earnest, solemn and slightly misogynistic person becomes more fluid, lucid and engaging. A sense of light-headedness being the result of dropping the doubts and weights of man-nerisms. The warmth dissipates slowly, when back to reality you are able to retain a sense of the moments passed. It’s then that you are most conspicuous, because you urgently inspect every passing girl for fashion direction, questions on hairstyles, colours and eyebrow shapes. You literally want to be in their shoes. But mostly you feel empathy and warmth and look more considerately for engaging emotional contact. Yes, the hours stolen from a Saturday afternoon may have been wasteful, but the benefits lasted the whole weekend and beyond. It’s probable that my life would be significantly improved if I had the means to convert all of my hours to this improved state of being. But unable to do this I’ll just have to continue to rob R****** to pay Rachel.
    597 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • On Saturday I was able to enjoy some femme time, dressed (down) and doing nothing in particular, the odd chore, reading the paper, etc, just being normal really. But of course it was a snatched three hours stolen from normal life, but the theft was valuable, uplifting and energising. I visited TWeb and drew courage to chat a while. Not that courage is actually necessary to do that, just the free time. It’s only clothes and make-up I know, but the release and benefits one can gain from simply releasing a personality that is mostly constrained are remarkable. A normally earnest, solemn and slightly misogynistic person becomes more fluid, lucid and engaging. A sense of light-headedness being the result of dropping the doubts and weights of man-nerisms. The warmth dissipates slowly, when back to reality you are able to retain a sense of the moments passed. It’s then that you are most conspicuous, because you urgently inspect every passing girl for fashion direction, questions on hairstyles, colours and eyebrow shapes. You literally want to be in their shoes. But mostly you feel empathy and warmth and look more considerately for engaging emotional contact. Yes, the hours stolen from a Saturday afternoon may have been wasteful, but the benefits lasted the whole weekend and beyond. It’s probable that my life would be significantly improved if I had the means to convert all of my hours to this improved state of being. But unable to do this I’ll just have to continue to rob R****** to pay Rachel.
    Nov 03, 2008 597
  • 03 Oct 2008
    Next week I’m on holiday – Yippee. I’m glad to say I survived my extreme sports day earlier in the week and next week is set to be extremely relaxing. So I’ve only been able to visit TWeb belatedly at the end of the week, and it seems like – yet again, things have been kicking off, and I’m not referring to painfully high heels. It’s made me wonder whether Katie should consider letting TWeb go on holiday for a week or two? Because absence might just make the heart grow fonder and remind us all of the benefits that the site has to offer. Off to lie down. Rachel
    680 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • Next week I’m on holiday – Yippee. I’m glad to say I survived my extreme sports day earlier in the week and next week is set to be extremely relaxing. So I’ve only been able to visit TWeb belatedly at the end of the week, and it seems like – yet again, things have been kicking off, and I’m not referring to painfully high heels. It’s made me wonder whether Katie should consider letting TWeb go on holiday for a week or two? Because absence might just make the heart grow fonder and remind us all of the benefits that the site has to offer. Off to lie down. Rachel
    Oct 03, 2008 680
  • 27 Sep 2008
    It’s a shame when familiar faces announce that they are departing, but the need to renew and change is part of life, so I do not condemn but just feel a bit sad for a while. If you are unable to physically give someone a hug and wish them well, then attempting to express the same feelings via a web-site is quite difficult. Because let’s face it, we are not all capable of elegant written expression.. Occasionally I have tried to honestly express concern, affection or companionship to girls here, and I suspect that I’ve not always employed the correct tone, phrasing or structure. (I do think that web communication can appear abrupt to the reader and subsequently be misinterpreted). Also, because of the lack of physical contact, unless you are entirely confident about somebody, I think you are psychologically more ‘guarded’ when you communicate through the web than in normal circumstances. I know I am, because the fact is, a teeny tiny proportion of people are just a bit weird. So, if anyone has received a message from me that appears intrusive, nosey, direct or just down right rude, I do apologise. I’m still stumbling a little as I discover who I really should be, so anything miss-appropriate is a reflection of a nervous, anxious and frankly quite shy person, edging closer to engaging properly with a community that she would like to be part of.
    623 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • It’s a shame when familiar faces announce that they are departing, but the need to renew and change is part of life, so I do not condemn but just feel a bit sad for a while. If you are unable to physically give someone a hug and wish them well, then attempting to express the same feelings via a web-site is quite difficult. Because let’s face it, we are not all capable of elegant written expression.. Occasionally I have tried to honestly express concern, affection or companionship to girls here, and I suspect that I’ve not always employed the correct tone, phrasing or structure. (I do think that web communication can appear abrupt to the reader and subsequently be misinterpreted). Also, because of the lack of physical contact, unless you are entirely confident about somebody, I think you are psychologically more ‘guarded’ when you communicate through the web than in normal circumstances. I know I am, because the fact is, a teeny tiny proportion of people are just a bit weird. So, if anyone has received a message from me that appears intrusive, nosey, direct or just down right rude, I do apologise. I’m still stumbling a little as I discover who I really should be, so anything miss-appropriate is a reflection of a nervous, anxious and frankly quite shy person, edging closer to engaging properly with a community that she would like to be part of.
    Sep 27, 2008 623
  • 23 Sep 2008
    My wife is marginally older than me and is sadly no longer young but certainly not old. She takes great care to moisturise and has good skin, but she is beginning to look more ‘mature’ but is still attractive. Observing her closely, I recognise that women must be placed under significant pressure to maintain and present themselves in a youthful and attractive manner – even if they are not in the mood to do so - to both men and women. I don’t present myself as such, but I still aspire to be a relaxed, confident woman but, but of course I know I will now never be a young woman. I need to recognise that you cannot assimilate catwalk models, possess taut cheekbones and creaseless eye sockets as you journey through middle age. Flamboyance still has its place now and then, but care, maintenance and treatments might need to become more familiar than the most vogueish make-up. I still cherish the thought of a svelte hour-glass body of course, of being able to make others glance occasionally, but perhaps the reality is that second looks will be the result of presenting badly rather than the lure of curvaceous sophistication. But heck, I’m not over the hill yet, because as Madonna and others illustrate, with application (OK, in her case lots of time and money as well..) a healthy diet, care and a fashion sensibility, youth can endure a little longer. But who are my heroines, who is the stylish prototype for the 40 something woman? Carli Bruni (again, money is present here) carries of sophistication effortlessly, Annie Lennox remains alluring attractive, Angie McDowell, even Kylie. Hmm, perhaps this list is getting less sophisticated… Perhaps I now recognise that I need to spend longer considering the merits of Marks & Spencer’s rather than of New Look, off Oil of Ulay rather than Rimmel? But most importantly, I must continue to compliment my wife on her appearance, because she’s got it really tough, she’s a woman.
    594 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • My wife is marginally older than me and is sadly no longer young but certainly not old. She takes great care to moisturise and has good skin, but she is beginning to look more ‘mature’ but is still attractive. Observing her closely, I recognise that women must be placed under significant pressure to maintain and present themselves in a youthful and attractive manner – even if they are not in the mood to do so - to both men and women. I don’t present myself as such, but I still aspire to be a relaxed, confident woman but, but of course I know I will now never be a young woman. I need to recognise that you cannot assimilate catwalk models, possess taut cheekbones and creaseless eye sockets as you journey through middle age. Flamboyance still has its place now and then, but care, maintenance and treatments might need to become more familiar than the most vogueish make-up. I still cherish the thought of a svelte hour-glass body of course, of being able to make others glance occasionally, but perhaps the reality is that second looks will be the result of presenting badly rather than the lure of curvaceous sophistication. But heck, I’m not over the hill yet, because as Madonna and others illustrate, with application (OK, in her case lots of time and money as well..) a healthy diet, care and a fashion sensibility, youth can endure a little longer. But who are my heroines, who is the stylish prototype for the 40 something woman? Carli Bruni (again, money is present here) carries of sophistication effortlessly, Annie Lennox remains alluring attractive, Angie McDowell, even Kylie. Hmm, perhaps this list is getting less sophisticated… Perhaps I now recognise that I need to spend longer considering the merits of Marks & Spencer’s rather than of New Look, off Oil of Ulay rather than Rimmel? But most importantly, I must continue to compliment my wife on her appearance, because she’s got it really tough, she’s a woman.
    Sep 23, 2008 594
  • 22 Sep 2008
    I suppose that a natural inquisitiveness, being nosey, frequently having a desire to offer comments, to wastefully gossip etc, could be both irritating and be traits commonly associated with women? If so, is that why I’m naturally inquisitive, slightly nosey, often wish to offer my two-pennyworth and fritter away my time here? Irritating, isn’t it?
    652 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • I suppose that a natural inquisitiveness, being nosey, frequently having a desire to offer comments, to wastefully gossip etc, could be both irritating and be traits commonly associated with women? If so, is that why I’m naturally inquisitive, slightly nosey, often wish to offer my two-pennyworth and fritter away my time here? Irritating, isn’t it?
    Sep 22, 2008 652
  • 13 Sep 2008
    It’s sooooooooo irritating (not really) when you click on a thread topic and then discover that only certain members are allowed to enter into the fray. So irritating because the topics always look so intriguing. So please, come on girls, at least make an effort to make it sound boring, then we won’t all need to be inquisitive. I mean, who can’t avoid being nosey about something entitled ‘She reminds me hurricanes in the Gulf!’ I’ve got a few extra headlines that you might consider using in the future… What Gall from the Gal Femme fatale Mixed messages from Missile Miss Spinning in opposite directions to us all – just like CERN Chat. Choke. Chick. No you can’t read this – Ha, ha, ha! Only jealous of course, because I not on the club and feel a mite excluded. Just please stop making it all sound so interesting! Rx
    577 Posted by Rachel de Blanc
  • It’s sooooooooo irritating (not really) when you click on a thread topic and then discover that only certain members are allowed to enter into the fray. So irritating because the topics always look so intriguing. So please, come on girls, at least make an effort to make it sound boring, then we won’t all need to be inquisitive. I mean, who can’t avoid being nosey about something entitled ‘She reminds me hurricanes in the Gulf!’ I’ve got a few extra headlines that you might consider using in the future… What Gall from the Gal Femme fatale Mixed messages from Missile Miss Spinning in opposite directions to us all – just like CERN Chat. Choke. Chick. No you can’t read this – Ha, ha, ha! Only jealous of course, because I not on the club and feel a mite excluded. Just please stop making it all sound so interesting! Rx
    Sep 13, 2008 577