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    • June 25, 2017 2:27 PM BST
    • The thing is, I do not feel like a trans person at all. I (mostly) like being male in my day to day life. But somethings about are definitely non-conforming. It was only recently that I discovered I prefer feminine clothes, especially panties over boxers (to the point where I nearly feel unformfortable in boxers now... but I where them for work time) I love painting my nails (color on toes only to avoid issues in public). This is a confusing time for me because most of these feelings and desires are brand new to me. However, my annoyance at my scrotum is not new but thinking about getting rid of it is. The after effects of not having the testerone production are what make me the most nervous. But there are also benefits, less body hair growth and less of a chance to develop male pattern baldness! 

      What other benefits are there that can come about after getting rid of them? 

    • June 25, 2017 4:53 AM BST
    • Kinda spookey but I almost lost mine a couple weeks ago from an infection from hernias. Kinda as a joke I downloaded a makeover App and toyed around with what would I look like as a girl. Well, my hanging parts are back to normal but I am having so much fun with these Apps I am thinking I like this enough to look into it more. I like the look. But its good to know its no big deal to lose the parts. I was stressing. 

    • June 24, 2017 11:01 PM BST
    • Sorry for invading the thread. What percent, like 5, 25, 50%, MTF would have the little buggers removed without prothesis of course and keep the sac? (First time I've heard of this.)

    • June 24, 2017 5:30 PM BST
    • True, I did not have my sac removed just my testicles, I did not get prosthetic testicles as they would not be physically or aesthetically right for me.

    • June 24, 2017 5:23 PM BST
    • Some SRS surgeons are of the opinion that if your intending to go on to have the full surgery, that the sac needs to be retained to form the labia maximus, and to avoid shrinkage, will remove the testes and insert prosetics.   Something to think about.

    • June 24, 2017 2:53 PM BST
    • Np, you're welcome.

    • June 24, 2017 2:37 PM BST
    • Prior to surgery mine was 4-6", post surgery less than 1" but 6" when erect.

    • June 24, 2017 2:23 PM BST
    • Stefonknee Wolscht said:
      I had mine removed three years ago with zero regrets. Speak to your family doctor and they will get you an appointment with a surgeon that has more info. As for me, my panties fit better, I can still orgasm (fluid is clear/no odor) peeing is different because my little friend disappears completely into my body cavity when not erect. I am prescribed oestrogen but take it infrequently with very little difference in energy. Becoming a eunuch sissy is the best thing I've ever done to make me feel normal. (((((Hugs))))) Steffy

      My friend is not small in any sense, nor are my testes/scrotum (part of the reason they have bugged me for a long time). If you don't mind the super personal question of size before and after, You can PM me if you decide to answer and feel more comfortable that way. I do not wish to become a sissy, nor do I feel like a transwoman; But my testes do provide some manner....discomfort? annoyance? stress? Even my wife gets annoyed with them during intercourse, as their movements can make her sore and uncomfortable, among other things. 

    • June 24, 2017 12:11 PM BST
    • I had mine removed three years ago with zero regrets. Speak to your family doctor and they will get you an appointment with a surgeon that has more info. As for me, my panties fit better, I can still orgasm (fluid is clear/no odor) peeing is different because my little friend disappears completely into my body cavity when not erect. I am prescribed oestrogen but take it infrequently with very little difference in energy. Becoming a eunuch sissy is the best thing I've ever done to make me feel normal. (((((Hugs))))) Steffy

    • June 23, 2017 8:39 AM BST
    • Ok, so I do not like nor want my testicles anymore.....I don't think I've liked them for a long time....They get in the way, are easily hurt, sag really low, (plus, they're ugly...you know!?!) and have very little use anymore (I am a 30 y/o married, and think of myself mainly as a straight, Cis-man with 2 children and don't want any more) other than providing testosterone to my body (which has an over-abundance anyway, very very hairy, very masculine body). Sorry, there's really no easy way to start talking about something like that!
      It's been itching in the back my head lately to look into Orcheictomy (or orchidectomy, depending on how you want to spell it). But I am not sure how to bring it up to my wife or how to even truly go about looking into it. I understand what the lack of testosterone can/will do to me, and how to get it other ways. But does anyone know what they other effects could be? Has anyone here had it done? I do think I would feel better about myself without them among other things. 
      I'm just not sure anymore and looking for some advice.......Truly, this isn't somehting I take lightly nor is it something that I just decided on, this has been building for some time now, and I was only recently able to come to terms with how I feel. I enjoy being male, but I do also like exploring and developing my feminine side and female desires. I am lucky ot have a supportive wife, but I do not know how this will be taken.... I underdress, but for now that is it, along with pretty nails sometimes.

       

      Can someone(s) help me through this confusion and offer some words of advice, please?

      Thank you all

    • June 23, 2017 6:09 AM BST
    • I don't know if it is allowed here, but the link says your channel does not exist...

    • June 14, 2017 4:51 PM BST
    • Hello ladies! 

      Hypnosis videos have always really helped me sort through some issues and feel more comfortable with my femininity and my body, and I figured they may help others as well so I started a non profit youtube channel all about feminization hypnosis.

      So this new channel is all about Transgender hypnosis and my videos touch on topics ranging from hormone therapy induced via biaural frequencies, acceptance and encouragement, relaxation and much more.

      https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaFGxZ ... RpfMsMjhgQ

      I only have 2 videos uploaded right now as I have been incredibly busy but I am looking to upload plenty more when I get more spare time!

      I am new to this so expect the quality to go up considerably over time! And tips or critique much appreciated. And even if one person enjoys my videos I am happy :)

      Thanks! x

    • June 23, 2017 1:50 AM BST
    • Geez, when I was young around the time of the Second Crusade, it was OK to beat the girl out of the boy!!! (I was born in 1950)  And when I was asking my parents to let me play outside in my sister's clothes at age 4 and 5, that's what my father did!!!  My mother would look the other way when he went to work and was OK as long as I didn't wander outside to the playgrounds.  I spent many an hour trying on and wearing my mother and sister's clothing.  (smile)

      Traci xoxo

    • June 22, 2017 8:48 PM BST
    • Wow.  Just finished this thread.  Awsome posts as always Crissie.  The comment about the failure of psychiatry to "Cure" transgenderism is interesting and sort of reminds me of those weird American christian camps where, if a parent suspects their son is gay, they ship them off to "Pray the gay away".  I wonder how that is working out for them or if they have similar for transgender kids.  The Americans can be a bit scary like that.

       

      Anyway, great post.  Keep up the good work.

       

      Alice

    • June 22, 2017 6:34 PM BST
    • (smile)  Thnx!!  You always have the ability to present some very interesting threads...you're our very own "library" in here!  I so wish we were closer...would love to spend hours with you just yakking away over some drinks, laughing until we're hoarse, and solving all the world's issues!  Someday!!!

      Traci xoxo

    • June 22, 2017 2:26 PM BST
    • And a very thoghtful an inteligent response from you Traci, always lovely to hear of personal experiences and feelings.

    • June 22, 2017 1:14 AM BST
    • Whoa...lots to digest Crissie!  and pretty thorough too...

      I sometimes feel "two spirited" in that I "live" actively in both a strong male environment with my volunteering and relate pretty well to them, but then revert back to the feminine world when finished.  If I had to choose one, it would be the feminine side. not so much for all the pretty things and all, but rather for the compassion, insight, clarity, and willingness to see things thru to a proper conclusion.  I have no desire to "win", dominate, or generally act like an ass...  Almost 8 years of hormones have smoothed over the rough edges and have allowed me to move about comfortably without drawing negative attention.  In order to hold my marriage together and remain with the only person I have ever loved, I "stradle" both gender binaries in day to day living.  But for me, being "two spirited" provides me the ability to grasp some deeper rooted issues affecting both binaries and offer a real understanding of the drivers that are behind things that normally the other gender cannot see.  I've IDd internally as a girl since my earliest recollections, then dealt with the harsh realities of physically being something else, all the while keeping the "me" intact thru all these years.  It has only been in the last 12-15 years, and especially the the last 8 on HRT that I've allowed the female to manifest herself in my daily living.  I'm content and in a very "happy place".

       

      Nice thread GF!!!

       

      Traci xoxo

    • June 22, 2017 2:52 PM BST
    • I lot of my threads are viewed as irrelevant to how a person feels within themselves,   I am a seeker for reasons, and commit my findings and write pieces from what I have learned based on factual reports to these forums to give hope to some, that eventually educating the masses of ignorant people, more tolerance, understanding and acceptance will prevail.  Some find my postings boring, stodgy waffle.  

      Some of my threads have had 25,000 views, pity half of those that did read all or part of them did'nt make a little comment, even if it's in disagreement or thought it was plain rubbish, (just to create further debate)., 

    • May 30, 2017 10:31 PM BST
    • OK, I might have a thing for Radley.  So my bag already has the dog thing sorted Traci, although Cristines bag is cute.

       

      Alice

       

       

    • May 30, 2017 2:31 PM BST
    • ,,Needed baggage..  

    • May 30, 2017 2:02 AM BST
    • At my age, I skip everything and go directly to the WTF moment. It's less confusing that way. Now where did I put my handbag?

    • May 29, 2017 2:39 PM BST
    • I have a couple so large that I stuff my dog into it at night at bed time! (smile)

      xoxo

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

    • May 28, 2017 5:32 PM BST
    • I always take my handbag up to my bedroom when I go up to sleep. it contains all my erm's.   I place it next to the bedside cabinate, with the drawer that contains all my oooh's and aaaah's

    • May 28, 2017 12:19 AM BST
    • Can double as a shower cap Alice!!!! (grin)

      xoxo

    • May 27, 2017 10:31 PM BST
    • I just call them blond moments.  I have them all the time.  I don't do the handbag in the shower thing yet.  Hey something to look forward to.

       

      Alice

    • May 27, 2017 2:18 PM BST
    • Wait until you get my age Crissie!!!  You will wonder why you're holding your coffee pot in the shower or taking your handbag to bed to sleep at night!  All this and you don't even need drugs!  LOL

      Traci xoxo

    • May 27, 2017 1:35 PM BST
    • Lost for words for once,    I started out with controversy in mind, something obtuse, something with a tinge of humour, perhaps a hint of sarcasm, then had a WTF moment,

    • May 27, 2017 3:08 AM BST
    • Ahhh...ummm...ermmm!  LOL

      xoxo

    • May 20, 2017 2:28 PM BST
    • Crissie...yes, that is the reality of hanging around the "regular" crowd.  "Geez, you're talking with a trans girl?  You must be weird" mentality!  I find more and more that my true circle of friends lies in the world of music and art.  There, I am not judged by what I was or am, but rather can I play music well or mingle and socialize "properly" in those circles.  It helps to be able to blend in regarding appearance, but I am constantly aware of the larger community I represent and am careful not to do things that might disgrace us.  Long gone are the days of trying to pole dance at drag shows!  LOL

      Back to your point, I'm certain that some people look down upon me when my back is turned.  I've learned to hold my head high, maintain a positive and compassionate stance, and act like I belong on this planet as much as anyone else.  I tend to migrate around other fun and positive people and this helps tons!  I'll admit to wishing at times I had superpowers of hearing so I could hear what they might say when I leave their space though...(smile)

      While it might seem hard to believe, things have ogtten a lot better for us thatn it was say in the 60s, 70s, and 80s.  Lots of "interesting" stories from those days to tell...another time maybe!

      Traci xoxo

    • May 20, 2017 1:38 PM BST
    • Brilliant and thoughtful piece Traci.     Then there are the semi-friends, I have quite a few, that will be complimentary, engage in coversation, but when they are with friends in the pub, ignore me completely, next time they engage me, it's always my friends don't understand, erm you don't want to be seen fraternising/associating with a weirdo? which then goes on to I don't think your a weirdo, it's just my friends don't understand, erm ar'nt a couple of your friends gay? Ah yes but that is different.   Ignorance is bliss.

    • May 20, 2017 2:33 AM BST
    • ...and don't forget that people fear that which they do not understand.  When Caitlyn Jenner becomes our community spokesperson and Time magazine's "Woman of the Year" and 99.9% of the world population are still struggling with even beginning to grasp our world, their instinct is to reject or strike out against both Jenner and anybody like her, meaning us!  "Straight" guys will not give an inch in attempting to understand out of fear that possibly they might have had less than binary gender thoughts in their lives and to sympathize with us might only expose them.  It quickly becomes a mob mentality of negativity while most take the "safe side" of public opinion which only grows in numbers as people see those around them speak out against our community.  Sorta like the blind leading the blind here...

      To help swing the pendulum, it's going to take some really prominent, brave souls who identify within the binary to speak in favor of our efforts.  Also it will take some very respected people in public opinion to come out as trans without it becoming a literal freak show played out in tabloids and television like Jenner did.  That, as much as anything, really strengthened the negativity of the opposition.  While I have nothing against Jenner transitioning, the manner she did and the acclaim and attention she got set us back with the masses.  Heck, all she did was toss money at her body without truly understanding the world of women.  She probably is a cross dresser who just acted rashly despite what she says today.  I do not see any signs of womanhood in her the way she thinks and handles herself. So until the "freak element" gets less pubicity and is replaced by normal, productive, prominent trans folks, most people will continue to push back against ourselves.

      It sucks, but that's reality...

      Traci xoxo

    • May 19, 2017 9:04 PM BST
    • I think it about categories.  If you were lesbian or gay, they could put you into a certain category and I think that people are more comfortable with those aspects of the LGBT spectrum.  They probably even get Bi, especially since Catpain Jack on Dr Who.  But  Trans?  There is not a lot of information out there about it in general media.  You still get Trump and his minions doing the whole "Men only wear dresses so that they can sneak into womens bathrooms" junk.  For many men the idea of wanting to not be a man is beyond them, since women are seen as less than what they are now.  

       

      So yeah.  Thats my idea on the subject, for what its worth.

       

      Alice

    • May 18, 2017 12:06 AM BST
    • Word doesn't bother me much. I just hate how so many people bail when they here me type/say, I'm transgender. It goes from, "Oh you're so interesting." to "Uhm, I didn't know" and never hear from that person that claimed they loved you 15 minutes earlier in the conversation!

    • May 17, 2017 8:53 PM BST
    • Don't worry about it, must be hundreds of words  beginging with trans, transport, transiant, transpose, transit.   lots of people don't like the word tranny in our community,   does'nt bother me, I think among ourselves it's an all encompassing word, often used by outsiders in a degotary way.

    • May 15, 2017 10:29 PM BST
    • This really isn't about understanding men, or dating, or anything other than day to day living. I'm just trying to understand why, so many people, when they hear the word "trans" are so fearful and hateful. I know there really isn't an answer to the question but of late I'm starting to have more and more negative reactions when I say trans. Even to people in the LGBT spectrum. I just don't get it.

       

      No realy need to answer. I just needed to get that off my chest so my boobs would start growing again. :)

    • May 14, 2017 10:16 PM BST
    • Try this link instead:

       

      https://www.allcounted.com/s?did=cahm897ytmlxf&lang=en_US

       

      Alice

    • May 14, 2017 10:10 PM BST
    • Oh.  I thought i had another month on it.  OK I will refresh it.  

       

      Thanks Cynthia.

       

      Alice

    • May 10, 2017 11:43 PM BST
    • Just an FYI that link leads to a session expired page.

    • May 7, 2017 10:01 PM BST

    • Hi,

       

      I am currently studying for a qualification in education and, as a part of my main project I would like some input from the tg population with regard to a quiz that I have developed:

       

      https://www.allcounted.com/account/dashboard?uid=8wupm1thobf4j#

       

      I am interested to see if any particular data drops out of this from tg participants.  Please note -  This is not a COGIATI style test and is simply looking at education.

       

      Thanks

       

      Alice

    • May 11, 2017 9:54 PM BST
    • I think the internet is fine, up to a point.  I also think that getting out and doing things where you will meet people is good as well.  Take up an evening class, or something like that.  Perhaps join clubs or things may also be beneficial.  Even if you don't find mr right, you can still have fun and perhaps find friends as well.  Dating sites fail in this I think.  Just finding people you like to spend time with.

       

      Just a thought.

       

    • May 11, 2017 12:26 AM BST
    • Inerestingly enough I've been looking, still. Though, I automatically dump any friend requests from Facebook unless they've got two references, provide a credit history and a diamond ring deposit. :P It was through a dating site. Initially I left trans off my profile and my damned phone never stopped going off. I'd chat casually with them to see what they were about but only a handful made it through the SPAM filter. Most, once the T word came up were, oh, interesting see ya. There have been a few that have stuck around though. I actually added T to my profile to read instead of just "unique woman" to "unique woman, yes, that means I'm trans." I'm still getting requests, though far fewer than before. I've also had some really strange women as well as men answer me on dating sites.

       

      I guess, be patient, be up front and hopefully anyone will find what they are looking for in a partner. Yes, you'll need to bounce some right to the recycling bin but there are people out there looking for genuine, honest people, regardless of gender identity.

       

       

    • May 2, 2017 10:59 PM BST
    • Thnx Matt for chipping in!

      xoxo

    • May 2, 2017 9:42 PM BST
    • Well............

      It has been interesting to read through all the previous posts & see the opinions being voiced by them. I feel that it is time for one of our very few gm members to way in my two pence worth.

      Yes life can be a bitch & you do need to spend a long time digging through all of the chaff to find the possible diamond. Having been on the other side of the fence and trying to find a female partner to have a relationship together with any luck...... There are just as many females who are out to ruin you both mentally & fiancially. The point I am trying to make is that it is equally hard to find someone no matter what your preference in potential partner would be

    • May 7, 2017 9:42 PM BST
    • I have not seen this used as a defense.  There are prisoners who will claim to be transgender in order to gain advantages while in prison.  Single cells, individual showering and laundry, etc.  However, being transgender does not lessen their sentence.  I can not comment on the cases above and I would not talk about individual prisoners in any event.  However, there are genuine transgender prisoners who still require hormones.  That tends to be the litmus test.  The hormones.  Everything else is just window dressing.  If they declare that they are transgender then we will treat them accordingly.  Trans prisoners are given psycological and medical help.  However many trans prisoners suffer from depression and self harm.  Many have attempted suicide and the prisons are taking this seriously and, from my observations, take quite a few steps to ensure the safety and well being of these prisoners.

       

      However, medical care and extra considerations are one thing, but I am not aware of any instance where this has led to a reduction in sentence.  But I am just a small cog in the system.  

       

      Alice

    • May 7, 2017 4:56 PM BST
    • What we must not do as a society is to seem to compensate criminals for something they attrempt to use as a defence for the wrongs they have done.   I find it hard to take in that a male person claiming to be a woman would violate young girls in the most horrific manner.   It is a totaly alien concept.   Would this particular instance as above be brought into contesting the prisoners right to surgery and treatment, what about men that start transitioning in prison after commiting this type of crime,   It is now reported that Ian Huntley responsible for the rape and murder of two very young schoolgirls in Soham is now making applications to transition in prison.

       

      Don't forget it is up to the government department of prisons to evaluate each individual case where a person is transitioning, the essense being on how far have they progressed in their transition prior to being incarcerated as to where they are located and what if any treatment is required, BUT does this department have expertise and competant people to evaluate the claim of a potential candidate for treatment?.

       

      A report in the newspapers last week, stated another young transexual had commited suicide in a male prison, the report did not state the nature of the crime, but it would seem that she started to transition long before she was tried and locked up.

    • May 2, 2017 9:38 PM BST
    • Yeah, rubbish childhood I understand.  I definately get the need to help others and share info and perhaps thats what the rubbish start gives you.  I don't know.  But I feel sorry for people who are so wrapped up in themselves that they never question their certainties or try to help other people.  One of the many things I don't understand about humanity, or at least some sections of it.  So yeah, I like to contribute.  

       

      Alice

    • May 2, 2017 9:30 PM BST
    • Alice it's nice to see you engaging, realy appreciate it.   I was as you understood, talking about the ones that join, make one post for their own gain, then never bother to come back.   I have spent most of my life learning, researching trans issues, from a medical and legal point. mostly I needed a told you so answer, for the rubbish life I endured as a young child.   I am always willing to exchange ideas, put forward information, for those truly interested and willing to learn something.  Pwehaps I will learn something new as well.

    • May 2, 2017 9:21 PM BST
    • I must admit that when I first came onto the site, it was under the accademic banner.  Oh yeah, I must post more links to my questionnaire.  However, because of where I work, there are people who I do not want knowing that I am using this site.  An example was one PO who was approached by a Somalie drug dealer.  He passed her a piece of paper with her daughters school, the childrens names and her mobile phone number.  She hit the green button very quickly.  So a bit of a smoke screen seemed to make sense.

       

      Anyway, I am glad that I made contact.  I like reading the posts and the people here seem nice.  I have my own questions and am working on it.  But yeah.  Why do people just post a single post here, proclaiming interest and then don't follow it up.  Pffft.  So yeah, I knnow what you mean Cristine.  But some of us want our own answers and will dip our toe in gradually.

       

      Alice