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    • June 6, 2010 8:47 PM BST
    • Hi Jeanette.
      You mentioned tvchix thats a swear word! , i was very famous on there a while ago , well i,m famous in lots of places but thats in the past as i am just plain me now .
      Good luck on ya bike anyway Julia x x.

    • May 21, 2010 7:45 PM BST
    • Thanks so much for your really helpful and constructive response, Nikki. Love the photo by the way!. Jeanette

    • May 21, 2010 2:24 PM BST
    • Hi Jeanette and welcome to TGS, this is a very different site to TV chix I think you'll find but you are most welcome. As for biker chicks.................I am usually 'normally' dressed as any other woman but I am a genuine biker/rock chick as well. So if I'm playing in my band or out on my bike then my appearance is quite diffrent to my everyday one. You do get a lot of looks from guys though, dressed like that though, basically because they're all suckers for a lady in leather, lol.

      Glad you are out and about having fun! So you should be!

      Nikki

    • May 21, 2010 1:36 PM BST
    • Hi I'm Jeanette from Skipton / Haworth area of Yorkshire. I'm still new to this group and to be honest I've investigated a lot of myself in TVChix didn't want to spread myself too thin. Looking at the last dates of postings (if I've read them properly), it looks as though everyone's gone into hibernation - related to bears I guess. Do come out and enjoy the coming summer weather (northern hemisphere only I'm afraid).

      Anyway, I'm dead chuffed with myself, because I'm normally Miss 'Prim and Proper', but I've added a new persons 'Biker Chick'' - you can get away with a lot more when in biker gear, particularly if you've the right figure =- some of my stuff is now size 10 and that's without having to breath in. So ther I was all made up with hair, make-up etc in ASDA in Keighley buying my new summer outfit. Everyone was very polite and helpful, no funny looks at al. Perhaps my eyesight's failing, or maybe they don't want to mess with bikers!

      So love to everyone - Jeanette.

    • February 22, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    • Hiya Nathan,

      Have you tried ebay? Theres loads of cheep clothes to find there, well there is in the UK so I should imagine it is the same in the US.

      Reading your post and your profile, you certainly have a lot to deal with. Personally, I would say, the most important steps you need to take is speek with your doctor about your feelings of being TG and find a good psychiatrist. You may feel you need to change your doctor or psychiatrist until you find ones who you are comfortable with in talking about your feelings.

      Contrary to popular belief, TG people, including myself, dont see psychiatrists to determin if we are sane, but more so to give us emotional support to dealing with the very difficult situations we have to face and find solutions for.

      I hope you get some response from US members in regard to support groups and charities located in your area.

      Welcome to TW and all the best with your journey.
      Penny
      x

    • February 21, 2010 7:55 PM GMT
    • besides thrift stores where could I go online, to find good but very cheap clothes? Changing enviroments would be nice but where could I go or what to look up online. I did find a local group thru yahoo groups but I would like to branch out beyond this area if I could. That way I could see what is out there and be able to explore my options. The only thing right now, is pricing, where if it was lower I might have a better chance of traveling. I could also find out about the permanete hair removel and the chances of living a new life in a different place. Then there is another question that comes up. would I have 1 name or 2 or would I have a name that would be for either way. that is to be determined. It may be a slow process going thru it all but I am not sure if a psychologist is yet needed although suggested. taking one step at a time, depending on how things turned out I could get into a relationship but that would depend on how life went. I will probably deal with family as things go and I do have a facebook page. I have one friend in my search who I have posted up on my wall who is tg and has her own web site(s) as well as a face book page. The only person tg I call a friend currently. Any suggestions?

      Nathan

    • February 21, 2010 4:43 AM GMT
    • Nathan,
      You seem to be very confused about you future. It would be best if you could seek some help from a Psychologist to see "where you stand" from a gender point of view.
      As for your family situation....that is something you are going to have to work out for yourself between you and your family. Sometimes it's easier than you think..but you have to be determined to follow it through

    • February 21, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    • Nathan, welcome to TW.

      The problems you face are easy to deal with, but the results may not be. I am familiar with such mid-west communities and understand the social closeness/pressures of being unconventional there. You are going to have to decide what it is you want and what price you are willing to pay for it. Balance your needs. Job transition is still a difficult area. You may find you do better in a different environment. You may indeed lose friends and family. You may not. The only thing my mother did differently was give me some female clothes. My brother turned out to be moderately Queer-phobic, which I never expected. I've lost no "friends" yet, but I expect to when I come "Out" to them. You have to be mentally and emotionally prepared for the consequences of your actions. Your degree of being transgender and your ability to cope with these consequences will determine what course you should take. Take time to make your decisions. You cannot put the Genie back in the bottle once it's out. I started to come out when I decided it was more important to me than losing people from my life, if they so chose. In retrospect, it took my closest, male friend over two years to notice I had pierced ears and wore studs. You can guess, but you just do not know how people will react. Watch and listen.

      For clothing, try thrift shops where you are not recognized to keep your "stealthy" status. That and Internet stores...just make sure you have your measurements ( which may match three "sizes") to choose sizes. Shoes are the same. Payless Shoe source gives inch measurements of male and female shoes allowing you to compare your male and female sizes for THEIR shoes.

      What to call yourself? I get confused on that one. I hardly ever use my birth name. I use initials or a nickname.

      Read, listen, chat, learn. They will all help you find your individual path to the real you.

    • February 21, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    • Dear Julia,

      I am not sure if you have read my profile, but let me update you on how my life has been. Way back when I was young my mother was questioning me as to why I was in her closet.. I did not say much. I loved it but was bearing that only for so long and then putting the outfit back. I moved when my folks did. I covered things up where I could and did not say much to questions or my mother being upset a bit. That was during my high school days which living in a small town in the u.s. almost everyone knew who I was. My father then worked as a minister for a Lutheran church. Now, during school, I was found to be lacking in education, so I was sent to what is called "special education". I ended up being mainstreamed there due to not being able to handle regular classes Now, some years after graduating and moving a third time or so, I began to take some of my mothers things. She does not know. They and my brother live near me, while my sisters live just a few hours away in the next state. I wore a top one night at my sisters and it shocked her when she saw it. She questioned her kids but they did not see anything. I did change out of it for the day. Therefore I can not change and have my family see the change. It would be a bit hard for what they would say and think besides who would find out within this this area of 4 small towns all next to each other. I work at a nursing home and tried to change but got in trouble somewhat for doing so. As far as a relationship I would think that gay with a strait female would sound right to me. She would be a regular strait women and I would be a woman when ever I could. I live in NW Iowa and my sisters live in the lower part of Minnesota. With my education as it is and finding a place that would accept me job wise is not easy here. I would like to live as 1 but half to settle for 2. How were you able to live life as you do currently? how did you know who to call yourself?

      nathan

    • February 17, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    • Hi Nathan.
      I have just read your post (twice) and i realy think you need to have a realy good think about who you are and where you wish to go with regards to yourself :IE if you wish to live as one person or two . You start your post saying you wish to live as a female! if that is the case you will have to face up to it , you say you cannot afford much towards female things the easy answer is stop spending on male things as you will find suporting one sex alot cheaper than buying for 2 you should also find it more rewarding .
      You have made a few questionable remarks on your post such as you wish to find a straight female! if you consider yourself female then she would have to be gay to accept you as a female as you would basicly be 2 females . I could go on but i think you should have a realy good long think about things then decide which road to take , limbo is not a nice place but untill you are sure its proberbly the best place for you .
      Take care and i wish you all the best for your future . Julia x

    • February 14, 2010 9:01 PM GMT
    • Hello there. I am hoping to open another chapter in my life. My job is questionable waiting to see what will happen within the government or healthcare since I work in a nursing home. I would like to live as a women but my clothes and my finances are limited. The other thing is that where I work, they will not accept the change. I would like to visit a place where I can see about life there but with pricing as it is, it may not be easy. It almost looks like a weekend trip is about what I can do. I live in the Iowa great Lakes region which is about in the southern corner near the Minnesota border. Now where would I be able to find a strait lady to have a relationship with? Maybe that would come later in life. I am also looking for a way to get rid of unwanted hair where possibable.it may be hard to get or have family support for all of this as they would really be in shock, but I could see what happens down the road. When your known in this area with family living in the area as well it is not totally easy to come out of the closet and into the public Especially when there are 4 small towns close together and you live in one. If you know of items that I can get between 5 and 8 dollars tax included, in mainly undergarments would you please let me know.I could join a club but I have not talked to anyone within this region yet. I know that thru yahoo groups that there is a pride group for all people from gay/lesbien all the way to cd/tg ect. I do not deal with yahoo any more as I have too much junk mail that it appears to be full of. What do you suggest? want to know more about me? just read my profile. I have been out some dressed but not much and I have kept it covered. By the way, I did name myself Wendy Portland in second life although I was not there much. Any suggestions on a name? I am generally known in chat rooms as hairypeaches and not by my real name.

      nathan

    • February 13, 2010 7:24 PM GMT
    • Hi Marsha .
      I do not know you but i am truely pleased for you , i said the same to my surgeon on 11th of feb "can you do it now please" .
      Just one thing! you just mentioned chicken with head cut off'' be careful when you find your surgeon about parts being cut off and mentioning head! in the same sentence "make it clear its not your head you want gone".
      All the best for now and the future i believe you realy deserve your true body . Julia xx .

    • January 30, 2010 2:10 PM GMT
    • I just want to thank everyone for the nice comments. This should be an interesting year. I will likely be the proverbial chicken with the head cutoff running around. I have already sent off emails to a number of surgeons to check on current fees and schedules. I can't stand waiting, can we just do this right now, lol.
      Hugs,
      Marsha

    • January 29, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    • Hey, that's great news hunni! I'm really so happy. I look forward to hearing about how it all goes if you do go to Thailand, as that'll be my hope in a year or two...
      Many many hugs.
      Rae x

    • January 28, 2010 5:05 PM GMT
    • Marsha, I'm very happy for you - many congratulations!

      Hugs,

      Judith

    • January 28, 2010 4:06 PM GMT
    • Good for you that you are so close to your goal.

    • January 28, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    • Absolutely fantastic Marsha, I'm so pleased for you, and I wish you all the very best for your forthcoming surgery.

      Best wishes,

      Nikki

    • January 28, 2010 8:59 AM GMT
    • Congratulations. I wish I was younger

    • January 28, 2010 12:39 AM GMT
    • Congratulations Marsha

      Another rung on the ladder has been completed and the top is in sight!!

      Jeri

    • January 27, 2010 11:15 PM GMT
    • I certainly want to say congratulations.

      I am also EXTREMELY jealous!

      Go for it!

    • January 27, 2010 8:27 PM GMT
    • Woo hoo! Marsh! Hugs :)

    • January 27, 2010 8:01 PM GMT
    • Hi Marha
      That is such great news. I am so happy for you. Seeing how happy you are brings joy to my heart. Yes, Dreams do come true.
      Congratulations.... Samantha

    • January 27, 2010 7:40 PM GMT
    • Congratulations Marsha,

      All the best!
      Jennifer

    • January 27, 2010 6:59 PM GMT
    • Marsha...being a good "suthen" girl, ya know, a true "GRIT", you have to find the doc with the double wide and a room within walking distance to the outhouse! Only way to roll GF!
      BTW, COGRATULATIONS!
      Traci xxxxx

    • January 27, 2010 5:32 PM GMT
    • Suporn Suporn Suporn!
      But good luck Marsha, whoever you choose.
      xx

    • January 27, 2010 5:26 PM GMT
    • Marsha,
      I am realy glad for you! I's such a long and difficult road to get to who we really are.

      Luv Donna M

    • January 27, 2010 4:16 PM GMT
    • Hi Marsha,

      Good news, indeed. I'm very glad for you. Hope your road to December is smooth and and trouble free.

      Best,
      Melody

    • January 27, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    • I can't believe it, five years ago I had my first visit with a psychiatrist to deal with my transsexualism, and this morning my current psych committed to me that she will write my referral letter for GRS whenever I need it. She said there was no question in her mind that I was ready and she saw no problem with me having the surgery in Thailand. My plans are still to have surgery this coming December and I will make my surgeon selection and hope to begin making arrangements in June when I have a better idea how all the factors involved look. It is an unbelievable dream come true for me and once again I want to thank everyone here that have given me support to make this incredible journey. I don't believe the journey ever ends, however, soon another chapter will be coming to a close.
      Hugs,
      Marsha

    • January 7, 2010 1:45 PM GMT
    • I can empathize with those who are not fully out in that winter offers countless opportunities to wear what you would like. Been there done that. This is my second winter living fulltime so I now have a little different perspective. I try and dress fashionable, I've been called stylish by some that would know, lol. Sure I have my favorite coats like my black pea and the mink, but I hate covering up my nice dress clothes. I also miss wearing my sandals in the winter. Summer is the opposite where all I wear is shorts and cami tops, again nothing fancy. So for me, spring and fall are the best times when I can openly display my wardrobe, everything from dresses to slacks with nice tops.
      Hugs,
      Marsha

    • January 7, 2010 4:48 AM GMT
    • I agree that winter does have it's benefits. Wearing longer skirts, boots, and my lovely calf-length camel overcoat (camel as in colour not material!).
      But it's so cold!
      Why can't Scotland have winter in the summer like Australia?

    • January 6, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    • I completely agree. Much gets hidden under lots of clothes.

      Now if winter were just not so cold.....

    • November 29, 2009 10:12 AM GMT
    • I think of bitter winds, icy sidewalks, & cold cars. Not being able to feel my toes or fingers & having wet pantlegs.

    • November 28, 2009 10:12 PM GMT
    • A little off track here with my response, but I don't think of winter and clothing as much as I think of winter as the time for ice skating, sleigh riding and tobaggoning (sp??), skiing, snowmen, hot chocolate, fires in the fireplace, and warm woolen blankets! Of course the ear muffs, scarves, warm boots, lined parkas, and soft fluffy gloves are nice too!

    • November 28, 2009 2:30 PM GMT
    • I love winter as much as summer, I enjoy the contrasting seasons, as they all have something to offer. My main reason for liking winter...................the skiiing!!!

      Nikki

    • November 28, 2009 8:52 AM GMT
    • 35 Degrees Centigrade here today. I am wearing the minimum indoors. A pair of slippers.

    • November 28, 2009 5:03 AM GMT
    • Hi Jeri,

      Yes indeed, winter has its benefits. I love getting the sweaters and turtle necks out. I'm from Michigan and it is a foregone conclusion that I will inevitably gain a few pounds, since I'm not as active. All of those nice warm clothes help hide the extra pounds. I hope that you thoroughly enjoy winter!

      Hugs,

      Donna

    • November 28, 2009 2:00 AM GMT
    • Oh my yes. I can wear more feminine looking clothing & with it getting dark earlier it give one more places to go.

    • November 28, 2009 1:32 AM GMT
    • Hi Jeri,

      I agree that winter is special. While we in the San Francisco Bay area have pretty temperate weather compared to the Dakotas, winter is still the time to wear long skirts, pretty sweaters, tights, boots and my favorite black peacoat.

      Summer isn't so kind if you don't have a very feminine shape. Wearing a corset doesn't work very well with a swimsuit....

      Best,
      Melody

    • November 28, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    • Hi

      Even though officially still autumn, in practicality it is winter. I love the winters, bundling up against the cold wind means wearing sweatshirts and sweaters. The added bulk does wonders from hiding bra straps and a couple of extra bulges may go unnoticed. The feel of hose on shaved legs is so nice and it does not make me feel hot like in the summer. Since I am not ‘out’ except to a few people, any extra opportunities I have, even hidden ones, I will take. Oh, I do like the winter.

      Jeri

    • October 30, 2009 2:35 AM GMT
    • I haven't ice skated in years, > 10 if I remember right. It would certainly be interesting...

      On the plus side, finally in the proper apartment and can get my crap in and start settling in.

      They were out two weeks ago on Saturday, when they went in to clean it was a disaster, cleaned painted and had to sand and refinish the floors. I should have snapped before and after photos.

    • October 10, 2009 9:18 PM BST
    • Shall we skate the canals?

    • October 10, 2009 4:15 AM BST
    • If I couldn't laugh about it I'd be in tears.

      Look forward to meeting you in person when you make it to Ottawa, Traci.

    • October 8, 2009 10:39 PM BST
    • Talia...

      if this wasn't a true story, I'd be laughing at the amount of hurdles you're going thru since nobody could possibly makes this up! Look for the rainbow in your life...coming to Ottawa soon!

      Hang in, be strong!

      Love,

      Traci xxx

    • October 8, 2009 10:14 PM BST
    • Thanks for the boost.

      I'm still not moved into the proper place yet.

      I'm thinking I'm just going to bugger off to Toronto for the weekend.

      I find it hard to be pissed off with the current tenants. They're older and their accommodation plans fell through at the last minute and they're frantically trying to find a retirement home. That's not fun even when not pressed on time.

      Talia.

    • October 19, 2009 6:56 PM BST
    • Yes Niki, with your partner is nicer, right now still signle.:)

    • October 19, 2009 12:47 PM BST
    • Curling up in bed with your partner is nicer.....................

      Nikki

    • October 17, 2009 4:24 AM BST
    • Those are great mornings. I love my coffee on a snowy day.

    • October 17, 2009 1:19 AM BST
    • Hi Ursula,
      I agree!!! Since I also subscribe to a "e-edition" of my local paper. I can also read the paper on my laptop.
      Now if I could find some bunny slippers to go with my robe...

      BTW: Welcome to TW!!!!!

      Hugz,
      MichelleLynn

    • October 16, 2009 9:59 PM BST
    • Marla here

      I have found the best thing to do on a cold day is to curl up on the couch with your computer, a cup of coffee, and write whatever comes to your mind, it's quite relaxing.

      try it sometim.