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    • December 19, 2018 2:08 AM GMT
    • this is Trump's Evangelical Advisory Council at work. It is why he pushed for Trans ppl out of the military.

    • December 8, 2018 12:06 PM GMT
    • There are many facets to this narcisists personality. As a sociopath, he cannot bring himsdelf to believe the truth but rather what passes through his head at the time, hence, made up stories and lies. It's about him satisfying his own self, no one others. Only he matters in his mind and all others should accept everything he says, regardless of his logic. Yes, he hates. He is a bigot, a liar, an opportunists, a racist, a white supremist. He will be removed when possible, and things will reverrt back to how it was prior to his becoming President. Any policy he has participated in is simply a renaming of an old policy with a few minor changes but mostly, nothing changed but the name he chose. He is incapable of creating any policy because his self interests get in the way. Be patient, he will soon disappear somewhere.


    • December 4, 2018 11:25 PM GMT
    • That is a made up story that Don Trump wants to eradicate LGBT people. So many in our community fall for this every time it's trotted out. Voting for the Dems just took away the tax break we got thanks to the Trump administration. The so called "leaders" of our community prefer to have Hillary Clinton which is a damned shame and would be worse president than Obumbles. Lack of patience is problematic as so many in our group want it now. Sad that they can't show some self restraint.

    • November 13, 2018 7:42 PM GMT
    • This is a message from a friend about what this mid term stuff means, along with some other stuff:


      Well, kinda sorta, as kids say ...
      There are two important points about the House of Representatives, one general and one specific. The general is that much of the day-to-day work of operating a country is done by the House committees. House of Representatives Committees If you scan the list, you'll see the actual "nuts-and-bolts", including those items the Republicans scream most about -- Homeland Security, Foreign Affairs, and Taxes (the oddly named "Ways and Means"). Also the Budget. Then ones they soft-pedal, like Education, the Judiciary, and especially Oversight and Government Reform (something the Republicans desperately want to avoid).
      So there's greater control of the purse strings, and which child gets their proper allowance, so to speak. Among the Republican strategies has been to quietly cut funding, disallow increases, etc. from programs like Veterans Affairs, divert the money elsewhere (like building bombers) and weep crocodile tears about how they tried to help our veterans but the mean old Democrats wouldn't let them. The playground analogy (surprisingly applicable with their party) is Tom hitting Charlie, then Tom grabs his cheek and yells to the teacher that Charlie hit him. If Charlie says "No, Tom hit me" Tom says "Only because you hit me first" (a lie). Of course, in a playground, other kids are around and could see Tom hit Charlie, and tell the teacher the truth. With the Republicans in control of all the committees (as they have been for years) it was hard to track where the money was being diverted, which programs were cut, and if Democrats on the committees cried foul, they were overruled. That changes now, and it can have tremendous positive changes for the country and world; fingers crossed.
      But the specific point is that the House of Representatives -- and only the House -- has the power to impeach. Not the Senate, and not the Department of Justice or Supreme Court, despite Trump's attempt to pack both with slavish followers. In fact, much of our Constitution is general and vague about what this means or how that word was supposed to be taken, but is remarkably detailed on this matter. There are only two instances of the phrase "sole power" in the entire document. The House "shall have the sole Power of Impeachment", and that "the Senate shall have the sole power to try all Impeachments".
      The average person thinks "impeachment" means "kicked out of office" but it's an indictment; only the Senate can convict (unlikely with a Republican majority -- and they hate and fear a Pence presidency, allegedly). However, it gelds the Presidential powers somewhat -- as if anything could with Trump -- but like any indictment, it opens up Trump to investigations that wouldn't be possible without a Bill of Impeachment. And it sends a clear signal to Americans and the world.
      People are saying "Now the House is going to demand his tax returns" but no doubt they were acquired by the Mueller investigation within its first month. A note about that, and I'll get off my soapbox: The Mueller team is comprised largely of seasoned veteran prosecutors and investigators who specialized in organized crime. We have the nicely named "RICO", the Racketeer Influenced and Criminal Organizations Act, largely responsible for taking down the Mafia, corrupt labor union bosses, and so on. The Mueller team is not political operatives, angling for jobs as lobbyists, as Congress largely does. So what do you do first when you go after the Mafia? You follow the money. 
      There's no doubt that the Mueller investigation will have (or already has) proof of criminal activities by Trump and his family. The big question is, what happens then? 
      And that's just about enough of that! 
      One final bit; overshadowed somewhat by the Democrats taking the House was the large number of women, minorities, and various sexual orientations elected at all levels, country-wide. We should be especially proud of that!

    • November 13, 2018 7:12 AM GMT
    • A lot of folks reacted over this.......Exactly what Mr. Dump wanted. Equality is not a presidential thing.  It's more of a common wealth sort of thing.  Mr. D doesn't know that yet, but he will........

    • November 8, 2018 1:25 PM GMT
    • The people have spoken during the Midterms. It is the beginning of the end for Trump!

    • November 5, 2018 11:54 PM GMT
    • the great thing beyond the Clown is truth, science, reason, reality, and many many people with hearts and common sense in the US. There are many already pivoting to counter the Clown - some 1600 scientists have signed on to talk about the absurdity of this, many organizations are looking to launch law suits, and of course many protests to keep our voices heard. His time in office is limited much like his mind and fortunately there are many ways to counter ignorance and stupidity. Love always wins.
      I am the girl I am regardless of the Clown. 
      hugs, Briana : )

    • October 28, 2018 9:48 PM GMT
    • Worrying.  I am so glad that I do not live in the land of the free and home of the brave.  But then America does not have the greatest human rights record.  I am surprised, since they still have the death penalty in some states, that we are still dealing with then.  Mind you, 11 surface fleets helps in that regard.



    • October 27, 2018 9:28 AM BST
    • This is soo scary,  Third genders have been accepted by many cultures in the past and after a period of imperialism the acceptance is coming back.  This does nothing more than demonise and overturn years of hard work to remove stigma and prejudice that trans people have had to suffer and live with.  I am glad I am on this side of the pond!

    • October 25, 2018 1:28 PM BST

      Fake news? Naah, the whole "fake news" narrative is designed to detract from his own lies and fickleness. He really did say he wants to support us. Did anyone believe him..?

      If they go ahead with their plans as outlined in the leaked memo, it would be a huge, possibly impossible step backwards.

      One can only hope normal service will be resumed as soon as possible with someone who is not a lunatic being elected as president of the most powerful country on earth.


    • December 9, 2018 2:50 PM GMT
    • Rating : 4.5/5

      + Self adhesive back
      + Natural feeling shape/material/look
      + contoured back
      + Excellent quality and presentation

      Negatives :
      - Somewhat expensive
      - Adhesive not strong enough to go bra-less
      - Semi puckered nipple may not be to everyone's tastes

      One of my better breast form investments over the years with excellent quality and a self adhesive back allowing for ore flexibility forwhat you wear under your clothes.

      Review :
      I've owned a few forms over the years including a pair of Helena forms (attached with a triangular piece of velcro), a pair of Amolux self adhesive forms and severeal cheaper brands. I have large A cup natural chest size so finding forms that fit properly has been a bit of an dilemma. Pictures ina dvertisements I ahve found a bit misleading and trying to get the edges to disappear has never worked for me (especially on the tear drop and triangle shaped forms as the top edge/corner tends to stick up off my chest).

      Not anymore......

      At first sight......& touch
      These come in a lovely double sides box (to put extras underneath) that's about the same size as a pair of knee high boots. This does present a problem for travelling as you will likely want to keep the forms in the moulded plastic for protection during transit. So for those of you who travel frequently you might want to maintain a more travel friendly option.

      I ordered medium and upon opening the box thought I'd purchased them too large  but this impresion has to do with the moulded plastic the breast forms sit on. Shape is nice and the nipple looks quite realistic. Feeling them is a little disconcerting at first as the material has a different consistency to what you might be used to with traditional silicone forms. There's no plastic covering (which means they are more of a matte luster). The texture I can't quite describe properly but it's a little like feeling a bag of naturally wet clay. You can poke and prod them and they will return to their normal shape but they aren't as "bounce back" in the consistency that a pair of silicone forms usually has.

      Getting them on...
      They do require a little bit of preparation including anti-perspirant (provided in the box) and you can use the provided wipes to produce a bit more stickiness on your skin (which you may want depending on what you are wearing). So I'd say allowing 30-45 minutes for preparation including a bit of time to allow them to settle with a bit of pressure placed on them (lying on your back).

      They fit very well on me and the seams are almost invisible except that the skin tone doesn't quite match mine (for the price it's a bit of a shame you can't select your own skin tone). I came out as a large C so I'm happy with the result in terms of size as well (my Amolux ones were too big and therefore hopeless for remaining attached).

      Getting fitted...
      So what about walking around with a bra (or without one... L) )?
      Bra choice is wide open here, I think you could evven get away with a 1/4 cup bra if you so desire. The forms wills tay put so long as you have some amount of pressure on them such a bandeau type shaper will suffice. Any relatively tight dress will hold them in place (and leave your nipples for everyone to see also). Personally I prefer a balcony/balconette/1/2 cup bra with these and they come out nicely with the top part of the forms being visible. Dresses with sweetheart cut necklines become a reasonable possibility if you have the confidence. A non-wired bra is also very comfortable with these and once in your bra they provide a slight "sag" to the bottom edge providing a good and rounded out appearance (as opposed to the often full perky sticking out of you chest and defying gravity you sometimes encounter with other forms).

      You can sleep in these but unless you lye flat on your back all night you will likely need a sleeping bra under your nightie/pj's.

      I can't say how successful they would be but definitely not in a skimpy, no support, bikini. Something like a tight and supportive one piece swimsuit might work however.....

      Are you excited?
      Nipples on breast forms are a little contraversial and some people like them and others don't. There are various benifits to having separate nipples but we won't go into those here. These forms have nipples so like a woman you will have to deal with the consequences.... :)

      They are crafted in a lsightly puckered style which provides a nice feel. They are pretty good size wise (not overly large or really small) but be warned... They will stand out if you wear a tight dress/top and no bra (or a sheer one). Invest in a decent t-shirt bra like any good girl :) (or not if you're that way inclined).

      Good for wearing with...
      A lot of clothes will work these. Even the lower cut type of tops and dresses (sweetheart, empire and other low cut styles are feasible). Strappy or tight strapless numbers are possible but if you're planning to wear and hang a heavy strapless ball gown off your new assets then I wouldn't recommend (you'll likely end up with the dress and your tits around your ankles).

      Final comments
      I really like these and I only have a couple of whinges in relation to the inability to choose skin tones to match (see Realbreast if you wish for this) and the fact that you probably can't go full braless although it will work with something that generates a bit of pressure. They are the most natural feeling and "part of you" forms I've had the pleasure of owning and are comfortable to wear for extended periods of time.

    • December 3, 2018 3:53 PM GMT
    • Hi everyone!

      Its been a long time since I last posted but that's cos little has changed since May. Still waiting for my Leeds gender Clinic slot and still on the herbs with 3 monthly liver / kidney blood tests courtesy of my GP and still xdressing in the house. At least I have now got a proper A cup chest and my body hair growth is thinning right down which is nice. Da wife suggested I got my ears pierced (which I haven't had the nerve to do) and also that I grow my hair out. After some months its now starting to grow past the "yuck, can't do anything with it stage"and am wondering what to do with it regarding a softer unisex hairstyle? (Although it is rather thin for comfort on the crown it is acceptable as I'm 6' 1" so most people can't see and the boss / wife has told me she will call a halt should I start to look like something from Status Quo! - I'm hoping it will thicken when I finally get on proper hormones.) Anyway I am going to have to go to a proper stylist soon to bring it under control so the questions are:

      1. Does anyone know any Trans friendly hair stylists in the Chester / Manchester / Merseyside area?

      2. Any good websites for unisex style ideas for middle aged wavy fair / grey hair?

      Hope you guys have some ideas as this is rather new (career short back and no sides before retirement although it was somewhat more relaxed at university)!

      Robyn xxx

    • May 14, 2018 11:11 AM BST
    • Hi again! Thought I'd check in cos been having a major confidence wobble over the past 2 days! I guess I've reached the stage where my body is definitely showing signs of changing with definite boobs (although only A's they do now really fill my A bras) and I have changed to looser t shirts to go out. This is big for me but its still at least 9 months before I get to see a gender councillor and I'm afraid that when I do they will say I've got it wrong and I'm not what I think I am. I still present as a man outside the house and haven't got the faintest how to (or when I should) start to move to a more public female image (especially in my village full of the less than enlightened). Cat and I went shopping on saturday and she bought me a bra and magnetic ear rings which I loved. She then suggested I get my ears pierced and is already helping me grow my hair a bit longer. This would definitely start to out me to my family and my 86 year old father would probably have a heart attack! (I'm going to see him next week for a few days as he is 400 miles away). Cat is still fine with me moving on but is definitely not Bi so sex will almost certainly be a thing of the past as things go on. (This is not a problem for her as she is past the 'pause and has a low to non existent sex drive anyway but I guess I still have loads of alpha male baggage which I have difficulty with. I asked her if she ever fantasised about a "real" man - she said no and gave me a verbal thick ear but the worry and guilt persist that somehow I've "fallen short". She is happy to look forward to a time when she has a "sister". In the end if I could miraculously transition with nobody remembering my old self except Cat I would do it instantly but the next steps scare me and I haven't got a professional to talk me through it. I guess the main problem is that I have zero confidence in my ability to pass in public. When the gender clinic wrote to my doctor they saw this as a big issue and strongly recommended I contact a trans group to see what is possible so does anyone know of such in the manchester / liverpool UK area? Oh dear this must sound really daft but guess I just needed to release the pressure.

      Thanks for listening, Robyn xxx


    • May 2, 2018 12:00 PM BST
    • Hi everyone!

      Nothing much happening here - continuing to take the herbs but have added red clover to the mix and lowered the saw palmetto. Seems to suit me better mentally. Apparently some older referals to our gender clinics have waited up to 5 yrs to get in (aargh!!!!) as they (understandably) prioritise younger people not yet in puberty. We may have the best "free at point of treatment" health service in the world but that becomes a bit of a joke if you never get to the "point of treatment"! All a bit frustrating really.

      Anyway can I recomend you listen to todays edition of Soul Music on BBC radio 4 (via i player). It featured True Colours by Cindi Lauper (hope that's right) and had an inspiring interview with an RAF helicopter pilot who fully transitioned in the late 90@s and then went on to serve with distinction in Bosnia, Iraq and Afgan.

      Makes me wonder what might have happened if I'd done the same while in the fire service but then again I wasn't "there" and probably am still not ready to come out so its a moot point.

      Anyway v interesting and a v brave lady.

      Love, Robyn xx

    • April 11, 2018 10:08 PM BST
    • Hey! I think we’ve cracked the safe at last, check that site for announcements!

    • March 29, 2018 12:36 PM BST
    • Hi Robyn,

      A delay until your first appointment may seem disappointing at first, but on reflection it does enable you to prepare yourself and transition very slowly. Never forget it is those around you, you are 'transitioning'.

      It's tough, but you keep going! GIC's often refer to' helping you on your journey', and they are are already on your journey..!



    • March 28, 2018 1:42 PM BST
    • Hi Sally and everyone! Well I think its about 10 weeks since my last post and the sad happenings at evanesce. With no chance of ordering from their Euro hub I have returned to a simpler regime of three herbs (Pueraria, Chaste tree and saw palmetto). They seem to be holding the fort and my body hair continues to grow slower and finer with maybe a little boob growth. (Full A cup now and unable to wear a bra in general company as they are too obvious to avoid!)). Latest blood test was fine for liver and kidneys so I will carry on.  Ive had my phone assessment with the leeds gender clinic and now have to wait up to 18 months for an appointment which sucks. (Although they are OK with the herbs and have requested my doctor provide 3 monthly blood tests for kidney and liver function and hormone levels.) I'm going the "wait till people notice" route apart from Cath (my wife) and next door neighbors who are fully on board but do wonder where that will lead with my family and especially the kids (boys, 26 and 24) who are used to dealing with the archetypal alpha male (firefighter, watch commander and fire officer for 30 yrs). Still, one step at a time as they say. Still very much in the closet for now any way.

      Well that's me for now. Back to the ironing..(v domestic I'm sure).

      Robyn xxx


    • March 25, 2018 12:30 PM BST
    • Hi Robyn,

      Going 'official' isn't  so bad is it? I have started my official journey recently (last August), which started like you with a visit to my primary care physician(GP for UK folk), also a very 'nice lady', who has just given birth to her first child.  I wrote everything down in the form of a script for her, since we can all forget details. 

         She made me feel very comfortable and simply replied, ..'do we know this at the surgery?..' We had a short conversation, and she agreed to refer me to a GIC. I mentioned at 70 years old I might have left it too late, she smiled and simply said.. it is never too late Chris..'  She is not allowed herself to prescribe hormones, but she did tell me to continue with my herbal regime.  I now have a first appointment at the GIC, not until October, but frankly I am' glad about the delay, since it gives me time too transition slowly, and grow my hair out, so those around me begin to see the changes by instalments so to  say!

      Another great event, I was invited to a seminar at the GIC, with all the doctors and specialist describing what to expect.  Wonderful, since they are all so 'humane', and they dispelled many of the myths and fears awaiting patients, and also a chance to meet other patients. I think this was very helpful, and will help me and the others to prepare themselves and enable them to speed up their journey.

      By the way I think Traci is awesome too! The journey ahead will not be easy, probably for those around us, but I can at least see the way ahead! For those hesitating, please find the courage and approach your doctor.

      Wishing you well on your journey



    • November 24, 2018 10:17 PM GMT
    • Why is it that English people think they are so gracious and well mannered, its a fallacy, I have travelled in quite a few countries.    eg train stops in between stations, in LA, Miami, wherever, an announcement is made, ''sorry for the delay, someone has jumped in front of the train.   In most countries people start up a conversation, ''It is such a shame that people get so desperate, they resort to this type of thing, hope they are OK, such a shame, and OMG what will their families, feel''

      In London the typical conversation is ''Some people are just inconsiderate bastards FFS jumping in front of a train, now I'm gonna be late for work''

    • November 24, 2018 3:02 PM GMT


      At last, and I hope the police do get immunity from prosecution and lawsuits for compensation.

      If someone is mugging me armed with a knife, a police person uses a taser to take down that thug and the thug dies of a heart attack, will I feel any remorse that I was partially responsible for his death? No.   Should the police be made culpable, for not having done a risk assessment, enquiring into that thugs health circumstances and making sure he was not susceptible to violent electric shocks due to a heart condition?   Could the same be  said for the same person being chased down the road fleeing an assault, stabbing, and suffering a fatal heart attack due to over exertion or stress, of course not.

      Already the snowflakes are  saying knocking robbing knife wielding thugs of their bikes could be tantamount to assault, resulting to criminal charges of ABH or GBH being brought against the police.

      Using reasonable force against someone fleeing arrest or resisting arrest, to me this is reasonable force , tit for tat,

    • November 20, 2018 2:51 PM GMT
    •  Really late reply but I just want to add something for anyone reading.  I have found that women's sizing is all over the board, my cisgender wife even has a hard time.  Find a good store with great customer service and try everything you can on before you buy.  I have gone into a few stores in male mode and they will let me try on anything.

    • October 27, 2018 7:57 PM BST
    • I don't remember this either.I think I became a member in 1999 under another name

    • October 25, 2018 2:40 PM BST
    • Prior to that post we did have some form of forum which was installed the year before.  However, we quickly outgrew it and when new forum software was installed in 2001, all the previous posts were lost.  So that was not really the first ever forum post, just the first one we still have.

      I'd love to see the forums as the centre of attention here again.  I'll look at mounting a big recruitment drive.  I think maybe Transtastic could bring in some new blood.  They're not all there just for sex.  I'll ask.


      Katie   :)

    • October 25, 2018 1:15 PM BST
    • Before my time, I'm a relative newbie having only joined in 2004!

      Would love to see the forums as active as they were back in those days.


    • October 25, 2018 11:22 AM BST
    • I'm in tears, We HAVE helped so many people over the years,   When I stepped down as head moderator, for some unknown reason all our lynch pins, the moderators suddenly stopped logging in,   this site gave me and so many members an incentive to do what we needed to do, get on with our lives and make the best of it.    The chat parties, informative and even funny insane threads, fond memories.

      I mailed several of the regular contributing moderators, whom I considered real friends, loyal dedicated to this site.    not even the courtesy of a reply,

      The word Tranny is a very emotive one, Among ourselves, my personal opinion it's an all embracing and inclusive one, like the word Gay it's only derogatory and insulting when it is used vehemently by ignorant bigots.


    • October 24, 2018 6:24 PM BST
    • I'm not sure if there's anyone left on here who will remember this but I just accidentally stumbled across the very first forum post which was posted when we had our first forum installed back in October 2001 - over seventeen years ago!!!

      It was me who posted it and it was on a theme which has resurfaced a lot over the years and it was posted during a time before the word 'Tranny' became toxic and was still an innocent word.

      If you'd like to see it, you can do so by following this link...


      Katie   :)

    • October 26, 2018 2:33 AM BST
    • Hello,


      My name is Cassidy and I’m a college student at NYU. I have made this 15 minute survey about voice use and how it affects the quality of life in transgender and cisgender women. If you are interested at all, please click this link and participate! Thank you and have a great day!


    • October 14, 2018 9:02 PM BST
    • I am not sure why White would have been transferred to a womens prison.  They usually won't do that unless the prisoner is post op.  Usually such prisoners are placed in a VP wing or specialist prison.  It is not normal to offer hormones unless they were taking them prior to prison.


      You do get a few prisoners who will declare themselves trans simply to get a single cell or access to more products on the canteen.  The thing is though, all sex offenders tend to be manipulative, since that is usually how they will gain what they want from a victim (I know, nothing like generalisation, but that statement tends to be the main thing to consider when dealing with an offender, either as a PO or contractor.), so having the fact that White was manipulative - Duh.


      The thing that the papers will not report is that there are a number of genuine trans prisoners within the UK system (around 80 at the moment).  As I said, they are usually in male prisons, but will be in the VP wing and will only be transferred to a female prison if they are post op.  Usually, so god knows what was happening here.



    • October 13, 2018 12:26 AM BST
    • It appears to me to be incompetence, or just absolute stupidity.

      A sorry tale...

    • October 12, 2018 2:03 PM BST
    • While genuine male to female trans-gendered languish in men's prisons, having fully transitioned, living the life, the prison authorities failed to recognise an  obvious impostor, a serial rapist, a child abuser, based on their previous criminal record.   Karen White, according to reports hadn't even begun to transition prior to her incarceration, being transferred to a woman's prison upon her/his own declaration.

      The prison authorities have the duty to establish a trans claimants genuine status, for that person's safety, well being and the protection of that person and other detainees.   Is it political correctness, gone mad or just plain incompetence that they keep getting it so wrong?


    • August 19, 2018 7:49 AM BST

    • August 12, 2018 12:40 PM BST
    • I think this is a problem with the software.  It doesn't display well on phones.  Seems to be okay on tablets though.

      I will ask the programmers to take a look at this problem and try to fix it for us.


      Katie   :)


    • August 10, 2018 6:11 PM BST
    • has this problem been fixed since? or there' something with my phone? someone please report in how's your mobile phone access? thanks!

    • March 15, 2018 8:50 PM GMT
    • Lucy,
      Certainly not the only one Lucy,
      Think a Community requires a minimum of two persons..
      I experience exactly the same conditions.
      Rachel x

    • March 10, 2018 6:12 PM GMT
    • Yes I'm on Android and it sounds like I have the same problems as you, Rachel.
      I can't scroll across to the right and so can't see everything that should be on the screen. That's when I use the "standard site" version; I find the mobile site just looks a jumbly mess.
      I've mentioned it to Katie, but I'm glad I'm not the only one.

    • March 7, 2018 10:03 PM GMT
    • Hi

      This is specifically for Katie (Hi Katie) or at least the programmer that assists her in the running of this site..

      In the past, I have most frequently grabbed the opportunity to engage here, via my iPhone (other devices are available..). However, since the most recent update I can no longer do so, or rather, I am unable to access a full screen and the content is rather discombobulated. I wonder whether I am alone here, or if others have encountered the same problem? 

      If I am the odd woman out and I'm being daft, please let me know. 

      Katie, if anything can be done, then could it be done please. It's not until something is taken away that you miss it so, unless it happens to be between your thighs when I've heard that you don't miss it at all..



    • July 15, 2018 4:51 PM BST
    • I am still here.I used a different name on trannyweb tho, I think it was lisa or its Charlene lynn cook

    • May 5, 2018 6:58 AM BST
    • I am enjoying being me now thanks so much Alice x

    • May 1, 2018 9:00 PM BST
    • Yeah.  This is all about being yourself.  Stuff society.  Be you.  Its more fun.

    • April 29, 2018 12:33 PM BST
    • Thanks so much Lucy and Alice, that makes me feel much better. I am not on there to try and talk about dressing or clothes and to "titillate" myself, in fact most of the conversations are just about life in general and it is really great to spend time with such a lovely bunch of people. I like being on forums but the normal types involving men are usually more about scoring points off each other (political etc). This one is really gentle and nice and the people are kind to each other. I will continue to be there and share my thoughts with them.

      Also Lucy, I think you are right about me being somewhat Transgender - although I am comfortable in myself there is this other part of me that thinks differently inside and to be fair I would want to spend more of my life this way than the role I am in society as.

    • April 29, 2018 9:30 AM BST
    • Good answer, Alice.

      I'm sure there are many worse examples of "assumed identity" on the internet, Susan; your motives are not malicious.

      Having lived full time for well over a decade I wouldn't think twice about joining a woman's forum, in fact during RLE when I had just begun transition it was expected by the gender clinic that I should integrate in such ways, (which obviously is easier to do online, but it can be a good precursor).

      I agree about dropping the labels, you are who you are is all that matters, but just for the record - if you've been dressing since you were 5 and it's always been a part of you then I would suggest that you are in some way transgender. You don't need to change your body or live full-time to fulfill the feminine side of you. That part of you is all woman.

      Probably best not to arrange to meet any online acquaintances without mentioning your past though, most people would probably feel you'd misled them. But chatting online is harmless, and a great way to express your true self. Doing exactly that helped me realise who I really was and what I ultimately needed to do. It might not be such a life-changing experience for you, but if it feels good, do it.


    • April 28, 2018 11:37 PM BST
    • Yes of course.  Here is the thing.  Labels.  TV, TG. m/f u.s.w.  You are you.  You are talking to people that you like to talk to.  You might not want the surgery, but there is a big part of you that is female.  As such, you like talking to other females.  This has nothing to do with whatever body parts you were born with, but is about who you are.  Forget the labels, as I said.  You are somebody who enjoys talking to women.  You get them because of who you are.  So where is the lie?  The female part of you is talking to the female part of them.  This is about being yourself and I do not feel that you are telling lies.  


      So with that in mind, if you need to divulge more about your situation, do it on an individual basis to people that you are thinking of meeting up with.  But at the moment you are just chatting as friends with people you will probably never meet.  So you get to explore a bit more of your female side.


      In short, no harm, no foul.  If you want to go face to face, then you may need to prep them first, but I think you should just enjoy it for what it is at the moment - making online friends.


      Hope this helps.

    • April 28, 2018 12:44 AM BST
    • Hi all. I have been a TV since I was five and love wearing women's clothes and doing what we though of as women's work for as long as I remember. However, I am not transgender and don't want or need to become a woman full time, My problem is that I have joined a woman's forum and absolutely love chatting to the girls and women there and they think I am a woman. I am not there as a Tranny but as a woman and I hate myself for lying to them although I don't or haven't made the statement that I am a GG. I love our chats and I love being a women with the but shoud I continue?

    • March 26, 2018 2:19 PM BST


      This poses a legal dilemma, if this happened in the UK! if the car was'nt at fault 



      Bryant Walker Smith, a University of South Carolina law professor who studies autonomous vehicles, said: "The victim did not come out of nowhere. She's moving on a dark road, but it's an open road, so Lidar (laser) and radar should have detected and classified her" as a human.

      Their comments came after authorities released the harrowing dashcam video.


      It cuts out just before the woman was struck as she walked onto a street in a suburb of Phoenix, Arizona, and the second part shows the reaction of the driver filmed from inside the car.

      Tempe Police Chief Sylvia Moir has said the SUV would probably not be found at fault, but the two experts said it appeared there was enough time and distance to avoid the collision.


      Self-driving car experts today said they are mystified as to why a driverless vehicle struck and killed a woman.

      Two different experts said the Uber car, which had a backup driver sitting in it at the time of the crash, "should have detected" the woman victim on its built-in sensors.

      "It absolutely should have been able to pick her up," said Sam Abuelsmaid, an analyst for Navigant Research.

      Was the back up driver negligent, perhaps on his mobile phone, whatever, it's my considered opinion, that he could not be charged with an actual offence of driving without due care and attention,, speeding, driving in dangerous manner, he was'nt actually driving!

      Somebody has to take the blame, obviously with the level of investment involved, it's going to be the stand in, the person in the driving seat, or is the driving seat going to be renamed extra passenger seat, for someone that sometimes operates the car.   Whats the answer?   Can somebody be legally breath tested and penalised ie drunk driving for being behind the wheel of a car when they are not in charge of the car at the time of the accident or offence, who pays the speeding fines for a ''driverless car''

    • February 20, 2018 7:05 PM GMT
    • I have always said about the knowing and the what the hell. before the no return point, it was get home get dressed up, now it's with the knowledge of who I really am, get home kick of the shoes, strip off, put on some scruffy well worn comfy clothes, chill out and who gives a sh attitude.  


      If anyone needs help with paper work, please do not hesitate to ask.

    • February 19, 2018 11:49 PM GMT
    • I can relate a lot to the not dressing the same while on hormones.

      When I had to stop taking hormones or reduce amount due to lack of money to buy them, the need to get dressed up to feel girlie gets really intense.

      Once I get back on the testosterone blockers its like I have no interest in dressing up girlie, quite happy to wear the normal everyday mundane female clothes, causal top and trousers and stuffs.

      Only thing I can think of is that because we know we are female in our minds, but body telling us it's not, probably more so for those of us with lots of body hair thats dark and really stand out, we do anything we can to make ourselves feel and look feminine.

      Once we get on the hormones and especially the testosterone blockers, and the hairs get lighter and softer, and the lack of penile erections and other manly things, we not have to go to same lengths to feel natural and we're more content in ourselves.

      Thats my theory anyway.

    • February 19, 2018 3:46 PM GMT
    • Hi Donna,

      Thanks for the reply. We don't choose to be as we are, but that said I have never been so relaxed, and suffer less anxiety than ever before. I am beginning to embrace the idea of full transition and hope for GRS( if permitted at my age).  I just feel this is where I should be. Anyway I could not have continued they way it was!  My glass is now half full!

      Many thanks again

      Regards Sally

    • February 19, 2018 3:46 PM GMT
    • Hi Donna,

      Thanks for the reply. We don't choose to be as we are, but that said I have never been so relaxed, and suffer less anxiety than ever before. I am beginning to embrace the idea of full transition and hope for GRS( if permitted at my age).  I just feel this is where I should be. Anyway I could not have continued they way it was!  My glass is now half full!

      Many thanks again

      Regards Sally

    • February 19, 2018 1:52 PM GMT
    • Thanks for this post Sally,

           It is revealing that you talk about the "unexpected result is hormones decrease the the desire to 'dress in frocks and the like'".,as from my own experience [5years on hormones, 1year post op] I see this as a small past phase in the longer gradual process of transition and self realization.Pre transition"dress in frocks" characterises the unresolved transgender person, in which there are phases of desperate wanting expressed as actions to be recognised and not expected to be something you feel an internal opposition too.Nowadays I tend to dress in quite a subdued fashion,rarely frocks, as I live in the country side , and theres just so much rain and mud, plus having 2 dogs, one only 8 months with muddy paws always jumping up.Practically to fit in with my long term partner , I do a lot of things in the background to make life easier.So thats my guiding way.--Adaption in a word..The important thing is to be considerate of other people.I tend to stick to the old school belief of "Treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself".

      Life for a transgendered person and those close to them is difficult , but it is not impossible.A transgender person needs to build the hope in their own life situation, and importantly show that this hope makes a beneficial difference and is necessary.

       One thing I would like to say is that the physical process of Transitioning Male to Female, has got a lot  better after GRS .Personally I think the reason for this is that Pre GRS ,when I was having Hormones and Testosterone blocker.After GRS there is no need to have the T blocker.Its difficult to say You have a completely Ojective perspective being on the inside whilst all these drugs are working, but post GRS I can say that I definitely feel a lot healthier overall.

      Time to take dogs for a walk and clean the house!!

      Kind Regards to All at GS